My mum died about a decade ago when I was a mere child. Life was tough cause I moved schools and was living with a whole new family, almost orphan style. That’s rough buddy.
Around 3 months later, I travel back home for the funeral, and we’re staying at my dad’s house there. There he introduces me to a new lady whom he called “his classmate”. From the jump, I knew they were sleeping together because frankly they were, she literally slept in his room with him. Him cheating makes sense because sometimes he would go back without me and would stay there for an entire month. I also met her daughter who took a fast liking to my dad and called him “daddy” (full grown adult btw, not shaming but like cmon). Fast forward to the funeral, I didnt notice this but my siblings did. She attended the funeral, she was at the back but attended. My father’s mistress went to my mothers funeral. The disrespect is genuinely unfathomable. Almost 20 years of a marriage, he threw down the drain in 3 or less months. Probably happened while she was alive cause she had terminal cancer.
That was the last time I went to my home country.
A few years later, around lockdown, just after my dad returns from his trip because he still kept going back. My dad sits me and my siblings down. None of us have returned to my home country ever since the funeral. He inserts a cd/dad and to my shock and horror, an engagement and marriage video starts playing with his mistress and him. We couldn’t even finish the video we were so appalled. Worst part was when he would show it to his friend (misogynistic friend but still) all happy-like and none of them ever asked, where are your children? Her daughter was there, his weren’t. His happiness annoyed me all the more. What an odd fella
He proudly wore his ring, he never did while married to my mother, sometimes I’m tempted to hide it.
Funniest part is I think she married him because we live in a 1st world country so she expected for us to live lavishly but what she doesn’t know is that he’s emotionally and financially abusive. I may be a terrible person but I don’t feel bad for her, only a few times like when he forced her to finish her food in the restaurant despite her being full (confusing cause he likes big women but fat shames her) or when he told her to hurry up so her dress ended up ripping.
Even funnier is that our house is full of pictures of my mum so she has to look at that everytime she visits, I wonder if it kills her a little inside. Oh, and their marriage isn’t recognised in the country I live in. HA
Toodles!!
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I think he just lost his invite to your wedding.
Sad on many levels
Aside from my fathers marriage to my mother, my fathers been married additional times, and he hasn’t ever invited me or my sisters to any of the weddings.
I learned about his first remarriage from my pediatrician.
When I called him on not having any of his kids at his weddings or even telling us about them, he response was’ I can’t be worry about you and your feelings all the time.’
Thankfully karma has alway done her job, each marriage is shorter than the last one and , and both wives ( he married the last one twice) has stolen from him.
That happened to me. My comment to my dad is obviously we are not family. He is blocked.
Whatever AI or translator app you used really sucks – cause you are the person coming across as an odd fella
Now just wait for the hissy fit when he’s not invited to your wedding…