I realise this may seem like a silly thing so I want to know if I am being crazy or not. I was raped throughout my childhood by my adopted brother, actually my cousin but my parents adopted him from The Philippines to give him a better life in Australia. I am 41 now and living in Sweden. I have no family in my new country except for my husband’s and our children. I use Facebook a lot for informing my parents and friends of my life. I have my cousin blocked on social media after a relative in The Philippines tagged him in something and I do not post pictures of my children on my profile or cover picture, especially because I have a 10 year old daughter and one of my greatest fears is him coming to Sweden, even though logically I know he probably wouldn’t. Now my favourite Auntie, who excitedly met me and my children at the airport when we visited 2 years ago, posted a happy picture with my rapist wishing him a happy birthday. I thought he was in The Philippines but this picture doesn’t look that old and the background makes me think he is back in Australia. While Sweden is very far from Australia and I chose to settle in Sweden partly because it was as far away from him as possible, that he may have the means to travel worries me, maybe not rationally but it worries me anyway. I usually block people who have stayed connected to him but this is my favourite Aunt. While I believe some of my aunts know what happened, I choose to believe that this Aunt does not know and that is why she continues to talk to him. I feel so betrayed that she posted that seemingly innocuous message about her nephew. I want to block her, I also wonder if this is my sign to stop using Facebook once and for all.
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I’m sorry for what happened to you.
Now if she is your favorite aunt why haven’t share with her what went down and who is the perpetrator? If she doesn’t know she might not realize who she is supporting. As for him traveling to you, that seems unlikely. He probably doesn’t have your address.