My fiance 33 male got me a gift, a Labubu for my birthday. I know nothing about them but I loved it. I truly did. It’s the cutest thing and makes me laugh. My fiance told me to get it a case because it can be worth a lot later. Since he got it he’s been telling me it’s $150. He just kept saying that’s how much. I have access to his money so he had asked me to send someone $150 for it because they’re sold out and his friend in another state bought me one. I said babe you don’t have to spend that much on my bday gift. I would love my gift even if it’s $5 or $0. Just to know he’s ok and healthy is all I care about. He said “nope I already got it, just have to pay for it. You’re worth that $150.” I said ok. So I got it and yes I truly did love it. Since he told me it can be worth more later, I looked it up. Did research on Labubus because like I said I know nothing about them. I was getting confused because I kept seeing $27 as the price. I’m like maybe that’s just the fake version and mine is the genuine product. I kept looking. Nope. The whole set of have a seat can be $150 but not one individual mystery have a seat box. I’m like babe? Where do you see $150, I think you got ripped off. He kept with the lie and then finally said he spent $50 for a debt he owed and gave his friends wife $100 for the gift and said just keep the rest for doing me a favor idk how much it is. I’m like but why did you lead me to believe it’s $150 and it’ll be worth more later? The one I got QUQU will be at the most $60 but not hundreds of dollars. I said you told me it’s very expensive and to buy it a case. He just kept beating around the bush then finally said he lied. He said it shouldn’t be about the price it should be the gift. I’m like it’s not about the price. I loved my gift but you told me I can make a lot of money from it so anyone would look it up to see how much money it can actually make. And when I didn’t see that, I was confused. That’s like giving someone fake gold and saying it’ll be worth more later and they look and it’s not. It’s the lie, the principle of it. There was no need for that. Now he’s acting like the one that’s hurt. He doesn’t show his emotions but I can tell. I promise I love the gift but come on why tell someone their gift is going to be worth more and that I’m worth $150 when he knew it’s not $150.
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labubus from resellers can cost over $500. they’re very popular.
I think it was kind of weird that he kept going on about how much the gift cost in the first place, no matter if it was a lie or not.
Ummm my question is why is the other woman worth sending the extra money to? Seems to be more to the story about the money. That doesn’t make any sense. There’s some reason he is lying.
I wonder what he REALLY did with that money..
If it’s about the gift and not the price, why did he lie and go on and on about the price? He was the one concerned about the price. What a child. I don’t tolerate lying. You’re actually marrying this manchild.
He doesn’t get to play the ‘hurt’ card on this. He lied to you. Repeatedly. He gave someone $100 for it without checking the actual cost and then lied to you to get another 50% on top of that to pay his debts. FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY GIFT.
Irrespective of if something *may* be worth more in the future, he’s willing to lie to you about small things; how far will he go for bigger ones? If he wants to salvage any trust you have in him, he needs to pay you $150 and start acting like a goddamn adult. Though at 33, I doubt he’ll actually be capable of it….
Not that big of a deal and you should talk to him about it more. Coming to reddit will just lead to comments saying to leave him over him or inspire even more doubt when he likely was just trying to brag about overpaying🙄
I would think the thing to do is not flex the price of a gift you get to anyone. I usually remove the tag price of a gift if it is on it. Weird that some people want to make sure you know how much you spent on them. If someone wants to know, they can look it up themselves. lol
This doesn’t sound like a big deal but also I have to say if my boyfriend got me a gift, like you said, I wouldn’t care how much he paid for it or what it might be worth in the future, because I wouldn’t sell a gift. So in all honesty you both sound kind of childish/selfish/immature.
Thank goodness you haven’t married him yet. If he lies about something this stupid and at the age of 33 a $150 gift is a big deal you need to get rid of him. Also, that’s all he could think of to give you, please!
People are making such a big deal out of this. He was trying to impress you. A bit immature, but not anything most people haven’t done at least to one degree or another. He stretched the truth to seem like a big spender to impress you. Don’t make more of it than it is.
You bought yourself your birthday present? Does he do this often (ie use you for your money)?
He didn’t get you a gift. He deceived you to make you give him money for something other than what you thought it would be used on. The real question is what’s going on with the friend’s wife pocketing $100
If you stay, he’ll continue using you for money.
He’s covering up what the $ is really for. Do you know who these “friends” are that you sent the money to? I’d look into that more.