So I just beat Elden ring for the first time, I did a intelligence/ dex build. I never ever ever thought I’d beat the game so it was a big achievement for me, I tend to not be that great at video games, and souls games are infamously difficult. He got stuck on a boss and gave up months ago. I picked it up maybe a week or two ago after watching some videos on it that made the game finally make sense.
I planned out my my whole build, the spells, sword, staff etc… he made fun of me the entire time because “you’re supposed to suffer” and magic made it easier. He said it was basically cheating because it made the game easy. He gave me shit for it the whole time I played. He also gave me shit for rune farming.
I beat the game on my own, without his help, and he decides it’s now a challenge to beat it as fast as possible to try to beat my 48 hours of gameplay time.
Okay fine I’m cool with that, I had been begging him to play co op the whole time because it seemed fun to over come challenges together. We had play once together months ago and even tho I didn’t understand and was bad we had a great time. But he completely refused saying it would take away from his achievement.
For the past day or two he’s been doing a lot of research on the type of build he wanted to do. But not letting me see what he was researching at all.
I woke up really early this morning and he wasn’t in bed so I got up to go check on him to find him playing Elden ring. He didn’t hear me so I just watched him play for a minute.
He’s using the exact same sword that he told me was awful, same/similar armor and using the spells he claimed were cheating. He was past the part he got stuck on last time he played. I called him out right then and their for being a dick.
I feel like he’s trying to make me feel than less for my achievement, because I did it before him. He went on and on about how he’s way better at video games than me the whole time I played as well
He’s now claiming he was being sarcastic about everything… I know it’s a stupid thing to fight over. But I feel like he wanted me feel inferior..
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He literally sounds like an immature older sibling.
My honest first thought is to figure out what he considers the hardest way to beat the game, do it, and crush his ego… again. 😈
Is it the moonveil katana? Elden Ring tryhards have a real stick up their ass about that one, claiming it’s easy mode and pathetic to use bla bla bla. In actuality, it fucking rules and you did a good job beating ER with whatever weapon you chose. Sounds like he realized you’re in “his” arena and decided to “humble you” and that’s a total misogynistic dick thing to do. I’d be so pissed if a dude acted like this toward me.
He feels as if you have emasculated him.
hahaha you’re just better
If I tease my beloved over something, it’s because I find it very cute and sweet. I do it in a loving way, but don’t “make fun” of her in way to hurt feelings. There is a big difference. Someone that does this in a demeaning way, is not in love with you, is not your soulmate. They are a buddy, a friend. He sees you like one of his male friends, but with “sexual benefits.” Tuck this away in your memory bank. Many people marry their friend in hopes that it evolves to something deeper. That’s a gamble.
I think it’s all love , of course I would be upset that my girl just got on the game and is better than me . I’m not gonna inflate her ego . And I’m gonna tell you that item is trash , when it’s good
But we are gonna see who has the better time 😂
I would have to say , I wouldn’t be so butt hurt , and maybe I would’ve bonded with you . But it can go either way
He sounds exhausting.
When my wife points out a technique or item that I didn’t think of using in a game, sometimes I’ll get all ashamed and do the whole “that’s too easy” or “that’s cheating”. I know it’s not great – I feel like I at least admit I’m wrong once I actually try the item though. I’m not sure how much this guy respects you especially if he was going on about being better than you at games
>But I feel like he wanted me to feel inferior…
this is exactly it. dude has conflated being good at video games with his manhood and the idea that you could also be good at them, or even better than him, was too much for him and he had to cut you down to make him feel better about himself. it speaks to a gross level of childishness and insecurity.
how will he react if you get a better job than he has? better friends? is he able to be happy for you normally?