My boyfriend in high school kept organized folders of his ex’s nudes on his phone. I saw it one day when he left his phone unlocked and went to go to the bathroom, and I looked through his photos. It was wrong of me to snoop and I think this event caused me to develop really horrible habits regarding trust- I didn’t kick the urge to go through the phone of people I’m close to until about 2 years ago (this all happened about 8 years ago).
He had them labeled by name & in alphabetical order. I think there were 6 folders. I was already messed up & traumatized from my home life so I stayed with him hoping he’d choose me, sexualizing myself beyond belief to try and compete with the other stuff he was saving to his phone.
He didn’t ever choose me ofc, and I kept checking his phone and finding more extreme porn saved to his camera roll, and eventually I started seeing screenshots of my friends’ posts in their swimsuits. I really think it broke something in my brain that I still haven’t been able to work out. I’m in therapy etc.
I did confront him the first time, and a few times after that, but then I gave up and just essentially tried to compete. He deleted the folders the first time, but I kept seeing screenshots of those ex’s social media pics saved in his camera roll after that. Just unhealthy for everyone involved & I should have just moved on
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Disgusting.
That’s shitty to say the least of him. I’d be worried about my pictures getting on the web if I were you.
Idk. But you should have cut ties with him after the confrontation. That’s a walking r3d flag already. Don’t wait until you become the next victim.
Sounds like he needs to be in therapy himself
That’s awful and I hope you’re doing better now. Super messed up of your ex. You didn’t deserve that.