My first relationship had a humiliating ending because I have a micropenis.

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I’m a 31-year-old man with Klinefelter syndrome and a 2-inch erect micropenis. I’ve dealt with embarrassment and ridicule for most of my life because of the size of my genitals.

Despite all the painful experiences during my teenage years, I always tried to push forward. Doctors would tell me that a penis wasn’t essential for sexual satisfaction, and I chose to believe them. I took the time to educate myself about sex and how to please a woman in other ways.

When I was 22, I had my first girlfriend. Like most couples, we eventually reached the point of being intimate. I could tell she was a bit surprised or uncomfortable the first time she saw me naked, but after that initial moment, things seemed to go okay. She didn’t want to perform oral sex on me, saying she just didn’t like it—which I accepted. Everything else seemed fine. I focused on pleasing her using my hands and mouth, and she reached orgasm. I didn’t finish myself, but it was my first time, so I didn’t think much of it.

Over time, our sex life became one-sided. It mostly involved me performing oral sex on her. There was no penetration, and I started to feel like I hadn’t really lost my virginity. I brought it up once, but she said she was happy the way things were, so I didn’t push.

After about four months, a friend told me he had heard she was cheating on me with a guy from the mechanical engineering school. I didn’t want to believe it and defended her, but the seed of doubt was planted. Then, one day, I happened to see a WhatsApp notification pop up on her phone. Nothing obvious, but it made me curious. I asked her who he was, and her reaction made me suspicious. When I asked again, she snapped, saying: “Calm down, he’s just a friend. I didn’t know having a babydick made you this insecure.”

That hurt deeply. After that, I started noticing more signs. She was emotionally distant, and any remaining intimacy felt like a chore—one where I gave and she never reciprocated. Eventually, my friend showed me screenshots of Facebook posts by the guy she was supposedly just friends with, clearly hinting they were more than that.

I confronted her the same day. I probably should’ve waited, but I was angry. I showed her the posts and asked her what they meant. She didn’t deny it—she just said there was no point pretending anymore. She told me she was never really happy, that she stayed with me out of pity, and that I should be grateful for that.

I was stunned. I told her that if she didn’t love me, she should have left instead of treating me like this. Before I could finish, she suddenly kneed me in the testicles, hard. I collapsed, and she said I was just a “loser virgin boy” and walked away.

She blocked me after that. Rumors spread quickly around the university. Somehow, people believed I had cheated on her, and I became the bad guy. It was humiliating.

But the worst part came later, when I had a run-in with the guy she had cheated with. I was alone in a chemistry lab late one evening, went to the bathroom, and he came in. He stood next to me at the urinal and started talking, mocking me and saying disgusting things about my ex. He told me how skilled she was in bed and how she could do things for him she never did for me. He even said she showed him photos of me and laughed about my situation.

I tried to stay calm and leave, but he blocked the door, trying to provoke a fight. I just told him I didn’t want any trouble. His final words were, “Guess she popped your little balls with that knee, huh?” Then he let me go.

I went home and cried that night. It was the most humiliating experience of my life. That relationship shattered my self-esteem and distorted my view of sex and intimacy.

Nine years have passed since then. I’ve had four more relationships. Every one of them ended because of my condition. I’ve had other painful experiences, but nothing ever hit as hard as the first one. That experience broke something in me.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading. It really means a lot. This was one of the most painful experiences of my life, and I’ve carried the weight of it for years.
It wasn’t the last time I suffered in a relationship, unfortunately. There was another one later on that involved both physical and psychological abuse. It’s something I still struggle to put into words, but I hope to share it one day when I’m ready. It was a situation where I probably should have taken legal action, but at the time, I didn’t feel strong enough.
For now, I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you again to anyone who took the time to listen.

Comments

  1. Parking-Screen-2270 Avatar

    I’m so sorry about this….you didn’t deserve this at all

  2. Evangelion-02 Avatar

    Part of me wishes this was fake but i know it’s not. People are cruel and you deserved none of that. I have hope that one day the right woman will find you.

  3. Sniff_The_Cat3 Avatar

    The people involved in the first situation (except the person who reported the infidelity to you) are animals.

    You should ONLY be with people who appreciates every inch of your body. You can easily sense this, it’s most obvious the first time they see your dick.

    If no one loves you for who you are, then you should live alone.

    Total of 5 relationships but all ended because of your dick. You’ve not learnt anything, have you? There’s no point in having relationships for the sake of having companions. It will only lead to YOUR heartbreaks.

    Edit: as many have pointed out, there are women with Vaginismus.

  4. darling-candi Avatar

    There are plenty of women out there who will accept you for who you are. There are so many women with endo who can’t even have sex because penetration hurts and honestly this would be kinda ideal for them. There’s someone out there for you who will treat you with kindness!

  5. speakofit Avatar

    Ahhhh Only if you were older… You would be my dream person. There are us ladies out there who also know that sex and intimacy is more than just penetration.

    How to go about finding one of these ladies… That’s the question maybe somebody can answer.

  6. viola_monkey Avatar

    Your first relationship didn’t fail because you have a micro penis; it failed because of who she is. Consider yourself saved from misery and keep looking for the right one. It may take a while. You will know – I promise!

  7. pickles_are_delish_ Avatar

    Push for anal dude, it’ll be a breeze.

  8. RichardSnoodgrass Avatar

    Dude your whole identity online revolves around your junk. Either you’re a crusader for your “shortcomings” or you enjoy the humiliation it brings. You should expand your interests and focus on improving yourself. Because in all honesty the vast and I mean vast majority of women are not really interested in what’s between your legs. Can you bring her to orgasm multiple times. Can you meet her subby/dommy needs? Are you a good provider? Does she feel safe with you? These are the questions you should be asking yourself.

    Btw I didn’t read most of your tale. It probably shows in my response. But seriously, your dick is not who you are.

  9. Pimpdrew Avatar

    Sorry OP. They both sound like really shitty people.

    It’s crazy putting things into perspective. Most of us dudes have dicks upwards of 5 inches and still insecure about it…

    Like another commenter said, your relationship didn’t fail because of your penis size. That woman would’ve cheated on you anyway and clearly didn’t value commitment.

    And it’s so stupid to humiliate someone for their dick size to begin with. Nobody gets to choose it, who are they insulting? Chance? Biology? Lol

    Wish you luck OP. Fuck those people

  10. waterdripper83 Avatar

    I hope that haunts her for life.

  11. Aussieblueperson Avatar

    I think you enjoy the humiliation of having it. Your profile isn’t how people dealing with shame act.

  12. cynthiachan333 Avatar

    She was just a shitty person. She would have used an excuse to continue being shitty.

  13. DelboyBaggins Avatar

    Hard to believe that happened. Not saying you’re lieing but it’s hard to believe.

  14. Friendlyalterme Avatar

    She physically assaulted you. Secually since she kicked you in the groin.

    You are not the problem

  15. slim-ninja_turtle Avatar

    That is pretty embarrassing

  16. solgetet Avatar

    I’m sorry you had to go through this. Brighter days and kinder people are ahead. You’ll eventually find someone who truly sees your worth and understands you.

  17. L11201 Avatar

    I know a guy from school who had a small dick but he met a woman who loved giving blowjobs but she didn’t want to deal with bigger dicks. They got married. To each their own.

  18. glenthedog1 Avatar

    Can’t believe people can’t see this is fake

  19. Tom_Gibson Avatar

    This reads like a humiliation fetish post. Especially the part where this guy showed pictures of you. It doesn’t make sense to me that you’d allow your girlfriend to take pictures of your penis since she never gave you oral or allowed penetration. Why would she want pictures of it if she never interacted with it ever?

  20. 4legsandatail Avatar

    This is crazy but I almost wish we had a place to go to swap photos of junk and no faces! Find the model that suits you best type of thing. Maybe a little bio about you and what you are looking for/like. I have met a micro penis before. I felt bad for him, but I was an escort and he was happy………

  21. TheRahulParmar Avatar

    This reads like humiliation fetish erotica lmao and your whole account is dedicated to it… not saying this isn’t a true story but bro lol

  22. RidingSunshine Avatar

    I’m incredibly sorry, this whole post had my jaw dropped and feeling so bad! Nobody deserves to be treated that way, I’m sorry, I hope one day you find someone who isn’t big on sex anyways and you guys can have a happy relationship that doesn’t revolve around the size of your genitalia

  23. AwayTransportation29 Avatar

    Jelqin my friend go https://thunders.place seek help and be careful read a lot first everything there is true.

  24. stacand1 Avatar

    For what it’s worth, I have never had an orgasm from vaginal penetration. For me, it’s the other things that are important.

  25. tokoloshe_noms_toes Avatar

    This guy must have a humiliation kink- his past posts and account reeks of it.

  26. azimuthrising Avatar

    Wow that is brutal.

  27. superwholockian62 Avatar

    Your relationship failed because you were dating a c*nt. That’s it. That’s the whole reason.

  28. burntspoon35 Avatar

    Makes me angry for you . You were dealt cards and you are making the best of it . That guy sounds like someone who just picks out someone who he thinks he can get away with belittling and mentally torturing. Weak weak individuals, another thing that stood out for me was , that you made it a point to make sure she was pleased in the bedroom. Communication is key in any relationship and you did your best and it was repaid in disloyalty. I hope you find peace and someone who will love you for you .

  29. ThrowawayNebula99 Avatar

    I am so sorry you went through this; your story is heartbreaking, and you deserve support and healing.

  30. freedomsound1 Avatar

    Oh my soul weeps on your behalf man. Thank you for sharing your experience man 🫂

  31. EducationalError9783 Avatar

    I’m sorry OP, let’s join in a virtual bro hug 🫂

  32. PotatoLover96 Avatar

    What a hard time you’ve had! I’m not a guy so I can’t relate to penis size, but as a near-30 year old woman with vaginismus, gender dystopia and who has been through similar humiliation and abuse, I want to send a massive virtual hug your way 🫂.

    Our ability to have sex in a certain way and our bodies DO NOT DEFINE US 💙.
    Do take care and use your story as your superpower 😇. It is cheesy af, but trust me… who cares if you have a micropenis? And who cares if I am physically unable to engage in penetration due to various reasons?

    You’re an amazing person regardless and better without them.

    Enjoy the rest of your time on reddit and keep smiling 🤗.

    I’ll be waiting for your update and glowup story 🌟

  33. Daftpunkmx12 Avatar

    I have a question, does your penis measure 5cm when you have an erection or does it measure 5cm in its relaxed but more when is erected? If it measures 5cm in a relaxed state, I suppose it measures about 10-12cm when is erected, which is the average size.

  34. jvn1983 Avatar

    She sounds like an absolutely vile and abusive person. I am so so truly sorry you experienced that. It’s really hard to not paint in broad strokes when we have had a bad experience. I’ve done it myself. Please don’t let her shit behavior make you think you are undeserving of love or relationship. SHE might be, but you aren’t.

  35. i_Karus Avatar

    Jesus Christ. This reads like a serial killer origin story

  36. Cyve Avatar

    There are a couple of (well, probably more than a couple) Reddits who can give you advice on getting bigger and thicker if you want to do the work.

  37. Interesting_Tooth_65 Avatar

    Plenty of guys out here with more dick than you and don’t know how to use it or can’t because they’re on too many drugs or they suffer from ED. I’m so sorry this happened to you

  38. DepartureUnlucky9007 Avatar

    My ex partner had kleinfelters we were together 10 years and it was him that cheated and left. Was paying sex workers for years, so there are women out there that don’t care and will love you

  39. moontburnt Avatar

    Reading this broke my heart. I’m so sorry for how you’ve been treated. I hope you can heal and find someone who will love everything about you.

  40. Floyd_Pink Avatar

    I’m so sorry that this happened to you.

  41. Dry_Championship4530 Avatar

    Bro, I’m not going to tell you that I’m sorry for having pity because I don’t have it. I see that you’re paying a lot of attention to my penis. Girls don’t just see that. Believe me, tomorrow someone will accept you just the way you are and love you.

  42. Digitalabia Avatar

    Fake as hell. Penis humiliation porn.

  43. greek-astronomer Avatar

    Just sending some extra love and support your way, you deserve so much better and you will have it 🫶🏻

    What I can say is, the fact that you took the time to learn how to please your partner, even though she absolutely proved herself to be unworthy of it, is an invaluable component of your character that speaks wonderfully of who you are as a person. People with meaningful depth do exist, and anyone with brain cells will see that in you. Wishing you all the best OP 🙂

  44. aj4077 Avatar

    OP so you are in a tough spot because a lot of bad things happened but you are also not very old, and you have a lot of life ahead of you. So now you also have the opportunity to be in a lot of relationships. And you have this image and this memory of victimhood. And you have to decide how you are going to show up physically and emotionally in these relationships. This may take bodywork, coaching, working with other men, wardrobe, a lot of different stuff. It’s gonna take some work, but basically the new you or however you show up in these relationships in the future MAY possibly be not recognizable to the you of today or of a few years ago. Does that make sense?

  45. Illywiydamilly Avatar

    Go on fetlife and find a girl with a micropenis fetish

  46. ProfessionalTone2260 Avatar

    It truly blows my mind that there’s people out in the world that are this cruel.
    The right person won’t care how big your penis is, especially since you’ve clearly taken the time to figure out how to make a woman orgasm, because of all the men I’ve been with since I started having sex 15 years ago…not one has ever come close to making me orgasm. I’d trade any penis size for a man that actually tried and took the time to make sure I felt good. It’s like the saying “it’s the thought that counts”..

    You’ll meet your person one day and she will love you so hard that you’ll forget about if your penis is big enough or not. Don’t give up and don’t be discouraged. Any woman that makes you feel less than because of something you’re born with is not someone you want in your life, ever.

  47. jessuccubus Avatar

    Honestly you should date bi women 🙂 sex with women with no penetration can be better imo!

  48. Mindy090 Avatar

    Why does TGI’s sound like a fantasy story?

  49. unsure-bird Avatar

    Sorry OP. You didn’t deserve that. The older I’ve gotten, the more I realize there is so much more to a relationship than that. She didn’t deserve what else you had to offer. I’m sure you will find someone to complete you.

  50. ObvsThrowaway5120 Avatar

    That’s rough. I would consider your past relationships more failures on the part of your partners than yourself. You have a medical condition, it’s not like you can do anything about it. Your previous partners were the ones lacking. Not you. I’m sure you’ll find the right person for you one day, pal.

  51. coffeewalnut05 Avatar

    I’m sorry. Your first girlfriend sounded horrific. You deserve so much better

  52. NobleChris2 Avatar

    OP I just want to commend that you keep trying despite the unfortunate situation the first gf put you in. That sounds like true torture and despite her actions you kept moving on. You have fortitude, you could’ve became an incel after that but kept moving along. At the end of the day there’s someone out there for everyone. There’s women out there that no guy can satisfy no matter how big and women out there that don’t like any form of penetration at all. You’ll find the right one as long as you keep trying.

  53. blueleaf_in_the_wind Avatar

    lol. this is fake.

    I laughed.

    Good job, op.

  54. Interesting_Dream281 Avatar

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  55. evenkokilo215 Avatar

    don’t blame yourself for things you can’t control man. they weren’t meant to be, stay strong my guy✊

  56. f_ke Avatar

    Man this hurts 🙁

  57. Shoddy_Cranberry Avatar

    Sounds like you are a US citizen, college degree, good job, decent human being…so take a trip to the Philippines…

  58. CheetoDusty84 Avatar

    Man GTFOH…none of this shit happened lol

  59. xX0StarChild0Xx Avatar

    Your condition isn’t what caused her to do those things to you and I hope you truly understand that. She’s a HORRIBLE person.

  60. FrostedDawn_XO Avatar

    This is heartbreaking. The fact that she used your condition to belittle and hurt you is appalling. Your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone.

  61. ProlificSpy Avatar

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  62. Sussy-Cat2698 Avatar

    aye bro, dont worry about any of this shit, those bitches proved that all they ever wanted were dicks in their holes, you are a king man, this proves how fucking strong you are, dont ever let people decide what you can do or not, you are a good man and thats enough, stay strong and happy

  63. Open_Mind12 Avatar

    OP’s post history suggests he is “not” ashamed of his condition. Regardless, you are owed respect from others. If you are serious, you will have a tough time finding a woman to accept you. Be upfront and tell them before the 2nd date.

  64. Psychological-Cow269 Avatar

    I don’t know what it is about people that makes us so vicious when we’re young, maybe its the hormones, or maybe its the self obsession that leads ever 20 something year old kid to think they’re the main character (Which is funny because most of us at that age have no character) but I feel like she was just being unnecessarily mean to get you to back off. As far as your situation being the cause of your relationships ending, I’m wondering if you give them any kind of warning before you try to initiate intimacy? It can be jarring to have a certain expectation and then be delivered something drastically different than what they were expecting. Having a small ding dong isn’t the end of your romantic life though.

  65. BakaTensai Avatar

    I truly cannot believe the cruelty of this woman. I’m sorry.

  66. Own-String6412 Avatar

    I’m sorry that happened to you. Have you thought about penile surgery?

  67. r3sistcarnism Avatar

    This is so heartbreaking. Look, I’ll tell you as someone who loves sex and has slept with all sorts of people, their reaction to a micropenis says more about them than you. I’m shocked at how cruel people can be. You seem like such a thoughtful, sensitive and intelligent person. Practically speaking, I would suggest going for bisexual girls. This may be politically incorrect but I conceptualize a micropenis as an enlarged clit and have sex accordingly. You can also buy toys and prosthetics for penetration purposes. I would lean into what we queers do 🙂
    Again, I’m so so sorry people were so horrific to you. I’m actually tearing up at the thought of how much pain you went through. You’ll find your person one day, and they will heal you.

  68. amscraylane Avatar

    I dated a guy with a micro and what ruined the relationship is him not talking about it before hand.

  69. thatshittickles Avatar

    That bitch SUCKS!

  70. k-r-a-u-s-f-a-d-r Avatar

    Cool ChatGPT story bro—and then from the pain of her using my nuts as a game of kick the can, I went to the ER and all the nurses pointed and laughed. I died of embarrassment. Luckily I went to heaven and no sooner than I made it past the pearly gates I heard the deepest most thunderous sound. Only to realize—God was laughing at me.

  71. superlibster Avatar

    This is a fake story.

  72. AstronautWise3910 Avatar

    Little pee pee LOSER!

  73. Fantastic-Olivia Avatar

    I’m really sorry you had to go through all of that. What you experienced sounds incredibly painful, and it’s brave of you to share it here. It’s important to remember that your worth isn’t defined by any one part of you, and the people who truly matter in your life will value you for who you are as a whole person. If you’ve been through so much already and have kept going, it shows incredible strength. I hope that over time you’ll be able to find healing, understanding, and eventually someone who will appreciate you for all that you bring to a relationship.

    If anything, the way she treated you says more about her and her lack of maturity and empathy than anything about you. And, honestly, you deserve so much better than that. Don’t let the painful experiences define your future relationships. You have so much more to offer, and someone out there will recognize that.

    Sending you strength and support.

  74. Satanae444 Avatar

    Dear lord what a bitch!! You didnt deserve that. Im sure you are a kind man. I hope you find llve in the right woman

  75. Current_Toe_2344 Avatar

    You need someone who can have good sexual compatibility with you. Every problem can be fixed by another persons problem intertwined with yours.
    Since you have a micropenis, women with vaginismus would be glad to have you. They usually cant even fit their finger inside their vagina and feel miserable for not being able to give sex to their partner. Your 2 inch dick would for sure give them a painless sex. Find someone who’s problems intertwine with yours.

  76. TomStanely Avatar

    Guys, it might be fake or real.

    Many people with small penises develop a humiliation fetish as a coping mechanism.

    But maybe this one story is real. We dont know.

  77. savrilphi Avatar

    I’m hesitant to make this comment because my shitty ex stalks my Reddit….

    That being said, your penis is not the issue. Sometimes my bf and I have drunk sex where he can’t get all the way erect and I still have an incredible time because I love him and I’m attracted to him. I promise you, you WILL find the right person. All of the pain you have been through is going to give you so much empathy and compassion. One day there will be an incredibly lucky woman that loves you for every single thing you can offer. Your first girlfriend was cunt. You need to learn to love yourself first before anyone else can love you. Cliché, I know. You’re gonna be alright buddy

  78. BetsyLester Avatar

    I’m so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. She was cruel and that had nothing to do with you. I have a friend who has a mp, but you know what, he went on to get married and have 3 children. So don’t think it won’t happen. I’m sure there are support groups for the syndrome. I’d definitely look into getting into one of them. I’m sure others have life experiences you can learn from to help guide you into a healthy happy relationship.

  79. Commercial-Bad2904 Avatar

    Damnn she’s foul for that, truly made me sad how she could have treated you that way. Don’t blame yourself tho. That’s who she is. 

  80. Embarrassed_Studio31 Avatar

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. Remember, time heals all wounds. May you find peace and true love.

  81. Mrs_Nigma Avatar

    Trust me when I say this.

    The size of your penis does not matter. Truly.

    It seems cheesy as heck, but it’s true.

    Whomever you end up with in this life isn’t going to care either.

  82. dyslexic_niqqer Avatar

    Look up the dick doc on tiktok

  83. LongjumpingRadio4078 Avatar

    Chin up sir you’re needed on the front lines