My foreign ex [25M] visited near my [24F] home after our breakup. Now coming to study in CA, and I’m anxious all over again.

I lived abroad for years before moving back to Arizona in 2024. Not long after, I ended a long-distance relationship with my ex-boyfriend. Even though we had broken up, he insisted on flying to the U.S. to “say goodbye properly.” He said his ticket was non-refundable and convinced me to meet him for lunch. I was uneasy, so three close friends came with me because they also felt something was off.

Before our lunch, he posted Instagram stories with photos taken outside one friend’s place in one city and inside another friend’s private apartment complex in a different city. I was physically inside the second apartment when he posted it. These were not public or touristy places — they were residential and personal, which made me really uneasy. But I still went to meet him for lunch because he insisted this was his only chance to say goodbye.

We met at a small shopping center in my city with a big parking lot surrounded by restaurants. The plan was for me to go in first while my friends kept watch from a distance. But as we sat in the car waiting, he pulled up and parked right next to us. He got out, walked to the restaurant, and texted: “Did we really park next to each other? Looks like you brought a lot of people.” It felt unsettling.

During lunch, I asked him about the stories. He acted confused and showed me an empty archive. When I showed him the screenshots, he claimed he “didn’t know those were your friends’ places” and said he was “just documenting the trip.”

Afterward, we didn’t go straight home. One friend stayed outside while we walked into another store. She saw him circling the lot several times, watching the entrance we used.

A few days later, he posted another story taken from INSIDE my gated community — a private residential area that requires vehicle access to enter. Again, he deleted it after I viewed it. When I asked, he claimed his GPS had led him there and he didn’t realize it was where I lived.

These three incidents—before lunch, during, and days after—still haunt me. Now he’s moving to CA for grad school. I’m still in AZ, but it hasn’t even been a year, and just knowing he’ll be in the U.S. again brings back all the anxiety. What should I do?

TL;DR:
My foreign ex [25M] flew to the U.S. after our breakup to “say goodbye.” Before we met for lunch, he posted Instagram stories taken outside my friends’ homes and inside private residential areas where I was present — then deleted them. During lunch, he parked next to me by coincidence and later circled the parking lot watching the store we went into. A few days later, he posted from inside my gated community. He’s now coming to CA for grad school, and I’m still in AZ, but I’m anxious all over again. Not sure how to feel or what to do.