Okay so I (14M) recently became friends with a boy in the grade higher than me (15M, now 16M). I’m just gonna call him James. We became friends in the beginning of the year, which, I was really happy about. I had just moved schools and I’m really shy. So, of course, since I had no other friends, I began hanging out with him.
I didn’t think too much of James asking to hangout every day, since I figured he was just lonely. Plus his mom was diagnosed with cancer shortly after meeting, so I was there for emotional support. Because of this, I’ve spent a good amount at his home. This includes staying over from Friday to Sunday evening. So, I’ve taken a good amount of showers over at his house.
However, last February, a day before Valentine’s Day, James told me that he had a crush on me. I turned him down; I am bisexual, but he honestly was like a brother or cousin to me. I never once saw him in a romantic sense. James was upset about this, as one would expect, and guilted me into staying the night at his home that weekend.
However, the past few months, his behavior has just gotten creepy, and yesterday I found something that chilled me.
James has ALWAYS been clingy. From the moment I gave him my number, he’s been texting it pretty much nonstop. If I don’t respond because I’m in the car (I get car sick) or last month I got a concussion and couldn’t go on my phone for a week, he completely lost it.
A few weird things I’ve noticed leading up to this has been:
1. He has my number saved in his phone as ‘Sunny 💓’, despite me rejecting him
2. He always uses the bathroom after I shower
3. He’s been more touchy (ex: holding my hand when watching a movie or when we go on a walk)
However, yesterday, when I got back from my shower, he, per usual, went to the bathroom. He left his phone there, and, me, being the nosy person I am, I began looking through it. We never had any secrets, and I’ve handled his phone before, so I really thought nothing of it, until I went through his gallery. There, as the title implies, I found videos of me showering, dating all the way back to January. I felt my heart stop at this and I faked an emergency, saying that my grandpa had just been hospitalized, and I left.
I didn’t sleep at all last night, only getting a few hours before waking up from a nightmare. But now I just don’t know what to do. I have to see him at school tomorrow, thankfully only in the hallway (our classes charge per semester, and we no longer have any classes together), but this has really frightened me. I put his number on mute, and I don’t know how to bring this up to him.
Does anyone have ANY advice for me? I feel like I’m going to go insane from this paranoia and I need actual advice instead of the “block him” advice my friends from my other school would give me, as he knows where I live, where my locker is, and all the sorts.