my friend who ive known on and off for like 4 years hurt his girlfriend by having wondering eyes, lusting over other women, watching stuff etc. and the girl made very clear from the beginning if they date thats concidered cheating, ik people have dif opinnions about those thing but to make it clear they agreed.
he was lying to her for a long time apparently,even if she asked him to be honest he would just lie and say he ddidnt want to hurt her but also saying he didnt know he was doing it..(i had no idea about this btw)
then he got caught and started acting remorsful and acting like he didnt want to do it and he didnt want to hurt her and said he didnt know he was doing it but thats bs.
he cried about it and said hes changed now that she left but i truly think if he wasnt caught he would still be doing it w out a care in the world and i lost respect and i dont see him the same way and i feel weird being around him now.
i learned all of this in one phone call and was shocked and comforted him but i couldnt make my self leave at that moment
and also ever since we have been friends ive told him that other people ive dated have done that and how much it hurts etc and its truly so fkin dissapointing to find out he did that after hearing all of it.
i truly dont know how i feel like idk if i should cut him off or slowly just dissapear bcuz obv ive known him for a long time but then again if he cant have respect for someone he said he loved more then anything and calling her his soulmate i cant trust him even as a friend.
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Oh no, I’d lose all trust too. It’s one thing to be wrong, but it’s quite another to lie and manipulate for so long. I don’t know if I could continue to see it the same way
“having wondering eyes, lusting over other women, watching stuff etc.”
Seems a like a monster…
You are the company you keep, people like him dont deserve friendship.
You really can’t call yourself a friend to him if you can’t keep his secrets and you judge him when he opens up to you. If you do not want him as a friend, then just stop talking to him. Just b prepared for any fallout afterwards… like not being invited to things if he’s the social type..
OP, you don’t need anyone to make this decision for you. It sounds like he’s a POS. Do you want to be friends with someone like that? How long you’ve known each other doesn’t matter, especially if you can’t trust him.
YOU have to be the one with the answer here. Stop looking to others to do it for you.
Also, start spelling out your words, check your grammar, and PLEASE use punctuation.