A girl from an ex friend group of mine, is going the same festival as me, but her friends didn’t tell her they’re not going on Friday. So she asked if she could come with me, I agreed with kindness of my own heart, but my two friends are not happy. They say they don’t like her, they’ve never met her, and just wanted it to be “us,” even though we’re meeting people there anyway? Which makes me wonder if they’re protecting their image as this girl was an “outcast” in school. But as we’re now adults, I feel I should stand my ground and “let” this girl come, who literally paid her own money to go a public place anyway.
My friends are trying to get me to disinvite another friend. What should I do?
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Stick with your decision. It’s the right thing to do.
Don’t let anyone in your life tell you who you can or can’t associate with. It’s up to them to manage their own feelings. It’s not your job to make sure they’re happy.
The correct response is, “I’m sorry you feel that way – maybe well see you there! Have fun!”
They never met her but they don’t like her?!?! Be gracious. Ignore the two mean girls.
They suck. Bail on your shitty friends, embrace your new one.
….. I wish this was my biggest worry in life.
Why are you even friends with such mangy broads
Tell them you’ll ditch the loser, then ghost them and go with the non shitty friend instead.
How can they not like someone they’ve never met? Are you guys like 16? And you mention you’re already meeting people there so it wouldn’t be “just you and them” anyway, there’d be a group. Your two friends should grow up 🙂
> But as we’re now adults
Clearly your friends aren’t.
Lean kind and be inclusive. Your other two friends don’t know that they don’t like her. This is how they find that out.
Are you all female, or are you bringing a girl to a trip with 3 other males including yourself?
Even numbers are always best, you’re going to be the awkward third wheel during if you don’t.