My friends boyfriend is a little too friendly with me (23F). For some context, my friend who we will call syd (27F), and her boyfriend, who we will call ben (29M), are inseparable. They have been together for about 7 years now, and he was just recently talking to me about getting engaged to her!
About a week ago, i attended a music festival with a group of friends including syd and ben, and we got a few drinks in our system. Ben got very handsy with me and other women around, groping boobs and butts but not one girl is saying a word to him, just continues to let him do it. He continues to come up to me and motorboat my boobs? my friend syd who was next to me, saw what he did and laughed and she proceeded to do the same thing back to me. That was truly the first time i felt very uncomfortable around both syd and ben.
Syd leaves to the restroom with a few friends and im stuck with ben. Ben is too far gone to begin with, slurring his words, eyes going separate ways. Now, im very close with ben but not close enough to touch my body inappropriately. Ben fell down and as i reached down to pick him up he pulls my skirt down thinking i was naked under it, i was not, he got disappointed, asked if i wanted to “hook up” with him multiple times while syd was not around. I have tried to tell syd but she completely looks past it, i don’t know if she doesn’t believe me or what, but she does not question him about anything. Ben is know to be very flirtatious, he has pecked my other friend on the lips because “her lips looked edible” (his words).
Later on that night around 12:34am, i was with another group of friends and i received a text from ben that said word for word, “hwuk wup.” I ended up not seeing ben nor syd the rest of the night, the next day we were supposed to get breakfast and head to day 2 of the festival. As we were at breakfast, syd and ben show up and decided no to attend day 2 of the festival. They left after breakfast and i never received an apology from him or even an explanation. I have now not spoken to either of them for about a week now, which is not normal for me and syd at all.
TL:DR I (23F) cant help but to think that syd (27F) maybe thinks i initiated everything with ben (29M), it’s really bugging me. I have tried to express myself over and over to her about what happened and how horrible i feel. I fear that bens stupid behavior ended mine and syds relationship and maybe she blames me for it.