My fiancée (30NB) and I (25F) just got engaged on the weekend, yay! It was a very spur of the moment thing (We’re planning a trip to France and the original plan was for them to propose to me in Paris), and as such I haven’t told my parents yet because my mom is out of town with no cell service until Wednesday. We’ve told some close friends, coworkers, and some family; but haven’t posted anything on social media yet because I’m waiting to tell my mom first.
Lo and behold, my partner texts me today saying MIL posted about our engagement on Facebook. I go to MIL’s profile and there is it, a picture of my engagement ring on a public post. Y’all🙃. She didn’t tag either of us in the post (I’m not actually friends with her on Facebook), which I’m actually grateful for because at least there’s no way it makes its way to my family before I can tell them myself.
Thank god partner and I are on the same page, they are going to speak to MIL about this when they call her next week; and she’s going on a strict information diet about the wedding (and probably everything) going forward.
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But she was just so excited. 🤮
This warrants an immediate call, not wait until next week
Why are you waiting to talk to her until next week’s phone call? This was not her news to share, and you don’t seem nearly upset enough about it. if you don’t call her on things immediately, she’s going to stomp any boundaries you put in place. Even if you gray rock, she’s going to be a nightmare to you, about you, and maybe behind your back – and she’ll be even worse should you have children. Good luck, and keep us updated.