i broke up with her after. so maybe should say ex-gf.
i (21m) was going to see an old online friend who happens to be a girl. weve played games together since when we were young and she was in the next city over from where i live so might aswell go see her. we had met before a few times too. she is a lesbian. (although i do believe guys and girls can be friends even if they have partners and are straight) so there hasnt been any romantic tension between us at all.
but my ex gf (23f) got jealous and mad at me for doing this. idk why, i have a bunch of female friends and she has never had any issues with any of them… she gets angrier and angrier, i assert that im going, i had already bought the train tickets. my gf starts insulting me, and eventually she tells me ”good luck trying to keep her around if you fuck her with that small dick of yours” and it just… hurt so much to hear?
ive always struggled sexually. i have a micropenis. just medical fact (if someone asks for size around 7cm hard). i have confided in my ex gf about thef grief it has caused in my life. she had up until saying that always said that i was enough. i know ill never be seen as of be able to feel sexually desireable. and i just realized my sexual being was never even part of why she was with me. i get it i dont blame her but it stings so much. i feel sexually worthless. i know nobody would choose me in a purely sexual setting and it breaks my heart. idk
im pretty sure she is now sharing that information about my body around in our friend groups. i cant really do much about that. just sucks man
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Man this is a giant pickle.
I just want to say I am so sorry this was said to you and I’m so sorry you are feeling this way.
The amount of worthiness and greatness that is inside of you does not have anything to do with the size of your cock. I believe you can find greater connections, ones that respect and protect you, I believe in sexually satisfying experiences despite of medical conditions and I believe in having relationships where you simple feel safe..
If this was a woman saying a man made a comment regarding her chest size, it would be automatically viewed wrong and it should be the same for men too. I am sorry it isn’t.
I’d advise you to seek out resources even sex friendly therapists!
Look man, I’m going to be honest. Your penis plays a small role in sexually pleasing a woman. Most women actually don’t enjoy giving blowjobs, they just do it to please their partner. And it’s been statistically proven only around 20% of woman actually get off from penetration.
Fingering, being good at licking, foreplay, confidence, etc. All play a bigger role in satisfying a woman. As long as you are open about your condition with potential partners, then things will be fine. It’s better to let them know before hand so they are prepared, then to not say anything and have them be surprised, and your ego potentially hurt.
Your gf is just mad you are going to see another girl. She stayed with you up till this point so clearly it didn’t bother her too much.
Please do not let one persons hurtful words affect your self worth. She said that to hurt you. It’s a manipulation tactic and a desperate one at that. She wanted you to feel inadequate enough that you would stay with her instead. This isn’t about your body at all. This is about her feeling the need to cling onto you. She resorted to toxic and abusive actions, so it’s good that you walked away. That shows her that you’re not willing to be with someone who could make you feel this way. Honestly, good job.
There are so many ways to please your partner and penetration is only one of them. I can’t get off with penetration, so my partner pulls out all the stops in other ways. It actually led to a super fun and experimental bedroom life and I swear we bonded harder because of it. There are women like me, who prefer oral to all other things, and others who really love toys.
Do not let your feelings about your body hold you back. Just because you’re not someone YOU would be attracted to doesn’t mean there aren’t women who will be attracted to you. Men care more about someone’s body than women do. Women care a lot about what kind of man you are and how well you treat them. You’ll find superficial women everywhere, but there are just as many who aren’t.
I hope your ex learns a valuable lessons about the power of words. She just lost someone because of her carelessness. You, however, are now free to find someone who will trust you to be around a lesbian lol, so congrats on that win!
You are more than just the size of your peen my guy, i know this cant be easy and its a real shame that someone close to you decided to betray you. She did you a favour tho because she clearly isnt worth having in your life. Wish you the bed bud