First time using this so apologies in advance. So I accidentally found out my gf has a secret Snapchat account and is doing onlyfans behind my back but I have no proof of it as she keeps everything hidden away from me. Because I have no proof I can’t confront her but I know what I seen she even randomly brought the topic up once saying she could never do onlyfans as her morals wouldn’t let her I’m honestly upset about this and don’t know how to go about it. How do I bring up her secret Snapchat account without any proof and how do I go about things.
My gf is doing onlyfans behind my back
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When you go out to eat be like “can you pay with your only fans money tonight? I forgot my wallet.”
I think your approach would depend on what your goal is. Is your goal to prove it, confront her, and dump her? Is your goal to just have a discussion and see her point of view and share your point of view and then decide how you’re going to go about the relationship after that? Is your goal to stay with her but talk her out of doing only fans? Or what exactly?
How long have you together and how did you found out but still have no proof? Do you know or only suspect?
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Subscribe to her OF so you have the proof. If you think you need proof to break up with her you don’t. You know what you saw, just break it off now and move on. Takes much less effort.
Tell her to buy you a car and leave
You join only fans find and subscribe to her. 2 you take pics as proof. 3 you can’t send those pictures to anyone or it’s a crime unless you’re in SC. 4 anonymously your GF parents find that their kid is an only fans model. 5 you leave her because she is doing shit behind your back and lying when she doesn’t even have to lie about her “so called morals”. 6 you hurt for about 2-3 months. Then in about 6 months you find someone better that respects you more. You are back now to enjoying life in a relationship even stronger then before!
Is your goal to find a reason to dump her? Or do you envision becoming 19 together?
Just dump her. It’s not a trial, there is no need to prove anything. There’s a million other girls out there who would never be an online prostitute.
I don’t understand why anyone would want to be with anyone who hides parts of their life from them.
It’s just unhealthy and disrespectful in general.
You might’ve in some of the videos
You can just break up and avoid the confrontation altogether
You don’t have to give a good reason. Say “I don’t like you anymore”
What’s your proof?
Either you want to break up or you don’t. Either you have proof or you don’t. You don’t need proof anyway. Break up or don’t.. Stop being so paranoid.
Reverse image search her on google chrome
You just do it. “Hey, I saw you have an OnlyFans. That’s pretty upsetting to me, especially since you told me your morals wouldn’t let you do that.”
If she denies it, you know she’s not willing to be honest with you about it. And, idk how much you could recover trust if that happens.
If she admits to it, ya’ll can figure out how to proceed on it. The problem is not how you bring up how you know… it’s what you do about the fact there was deception in your relationship.
You don’t confront her. If you’re sure, you dump her and go on with your life.
What do you mean there’s no proof, haven’t you seen the OnlyFans account?
Anyway, the answer to this always just talk to ger and ask.
You don’t.
Leave and don’t lose your sanity being gaslit by her shame.
I’m sorry my friend but the statement contradicts itself. You stated that she is doing onlyfans and then stated you have no proof due to her keeping things hidden from you. You either have proof or you don’t.
Many people have two Snapchat’s and aren’t utilising it for OnlyFans however let’s say that she isn’t for the sake of the point I will make to you. If she has 2 snapchats usually there is a reason and if she is hiding things from you then how can you trust her off course you would feel insecure in this situation. A relationship is between a man and woman and should not have secrets, they should be able to communicate correctly with each other and resolve any situations they are having.
Now if you’ve seen and know it’s for OnlyFans let get to this point. I can fully understand your reasoning for discomfort over such things. We’re in a generation where women can make money very easily through this sort of thing. I personally would not want any female I am in a relationship with being on Onlyfans but this is my feelings on the matter and others are entitled to their view.
Don’t let people say this is insecure that is a lie. A man and woman in a committed relationship should have respect for one another and therefore I would feel disrespected with such things this is why boundaries are of such importance.
Friend if you are feeling this and it is something you can’t accept a girl you are in a relationship with you already have the answer to what you need to do.
You can try to set boundaries however if things are being hidden etc. then there would already be question within the mind and doubt therefore mistrust. Sorry for being blunt but if you’re like me you have answered this already.
Stay strong and don’t sell yourself short for nobody.
If she has a secret only fans, she also has a secret bf probably a few. I wouldn’t bother confronting her, I’d just leave and go get tested for a sti . Move on to a partner that doesn’t lie to you.
If you know, you can just leave her. And if it is because she has lied, I get that. But maybe she lied because she knew you wouldn’t approve, and maybe you don’t approve, because you have been taught that sex work is shameful. It isn’t it’s work. However, if it is genuinely the lying that has you upset, or you can’t get your head around the fact that sex work is work, not funsies, you are better off out of her life. Do you both a favour. P.s. I won’t be debating the sex work thing, it’s not my job to educate people. Educate yourselves.
Don’t dump your girlfriend. Downgrade her status and date additional women.
*Our girlfriend. FIFY
Get your GTR or Porsche out it…lucky bastard
She for the streets. Skeeeeeerp
Wdym “proof” you seen her right? You dont need “proof” to break up. Or to confront her. But also why not just screen shot the snap and hold the photo of herself up to her if she tries to deny it?
Sorry about this
You decide if you want to date a sex worker or not. Her lying about her strong morals is a gross deflection. You should walk away.
Is her OF material explicit/sexual in nature? I mean a few are pretty mild. Look the lying is bad but you need to ask your self if you want to date a sex worker. If not then just move on, no need to make a scene here….unless you two have kids then that’s a whole other can of worms.
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she even randomly brought the topic up once saying she could never do onlyfans as her morals wouldn’t let her
If she is on OF then this is the most offensive part of the story. She’s glad to benefit from OF but somehow put’s down others that are on OF. I’ll date a stripper or porn star before I’d get involve my self with such a raging hypocrite.
Either support her in it and stay or don’t and go. You don’t need the burden of proof, it’s your life.
Tell her you need half of the money she makes
How dare her! What’s her @ so we can also contribute to the investigation
Sounds like she brought it up “randomly” to see your reaction and then decided to that she would be better off keeping it to herself.
It’s her body, and she can do whatever she wants. You talk about confronting her like she’s committing a crime and answers to you. You don’t like, it walk. Maybe she’ll find someone she doesn’t have to keep secrets from like he’s her master.
If you don’t trust her and don’t have proof, I really think you just need to be honest about that and move on
Be upfront and discuss openly. If she accepts, just run away.
Join up to only fans to find her account. Then you have the proof.
Or you could just be normal & leave her & get on with your life.
Obviously break up with her.
Not only is she doing OF, she’s lying about it by trying to portray herself as something she isn’t (“her morals wouldn’t let her”). That puts into question anything and everything she has told you before regarding herself, and anything she says from this point on.
Do you want to be with someone who you don’t trust. The only option here is to leave and find a girl who isn’t wh*ring herself out online and then lying about it. Anything else is a complete L
You think she’s gonna stop getting her side hustle money for you? Are you gonna pay her bills and give her money? Just leave her and find another chick
You know what her OF is?
If so create an account, message her using only information you would know and watch the hilarity
You know she keeps secrets from you that make you uncomfortable. That’s enough right there.
Just tell her you don’t feel comfortable in a relationship with big secrets.
DM me her stage name if you need someone to look her up for you to confirm.
She’s not your gf. She’s just using you.
You don’t need a reason to dump someone. You don’t need an Ah Ha discovery moment.
Just dump her ass. Move on. Live your best life.
Just tell her you feel like she’s hiding something from you and that it’s making you have second thoughts about your relationship. If she asks what she could be hiding, tell her. She can either prove to you there’s no other account or she can get really defensive. If she proves she doesn’t and you accept her answer, you’re good. If she does, decide what you want to do. YOU need to be happy in the relationship just as much as she does.
If you don’t have proof then how do you know it’s happening?
Don’t play games. Talk to her. Decide what is best for you.
How exactly did you find out if you don’t have proof? I’m confused
Disgusting!
Where?
If you have no proof how can you confidently say “she is doing onlyfans behind my back”?
Like literally behind your back? Maybe when you’re gaming and she sets the camera up something we can see you in the background while she is getting naughty all of us? What’s her OF account cause that’s some shit I would sign up for. 😄 🤣 not kidding
So you being pegged?
If you literally saw with your own eyes her nude body being for sell via snapchat or only fans, i think it boils down to what you value. Is a secret like that something you dont respect? Leave. Perhaps you just want communication, and dont mind. Stay. If you did literally see her selling her body via secret snap or only fans yet she verbally stated “i could never” that would be deceitful and that means you’re being actively manipulated. Im not sure how i could be with someone thats actively manipulating me – its like being friends with someone that talks bad about you behind your back but when they see you in person its “Hey bestfriend, i missed you” but when you leave they call someone and say “i cant stand that mf”
Is she doing it behind your back or do you just not approve of her side gig/job…
Big dif.
It not your job to “fix” her. Best advice is to move on from this one and don’t knock her up.
What is her OF? We can help verify eskimo brother?
If you genuinely believe she’s doing OF just dump her. She’s not wife material and dating should be with the intention to find a wife. Now that you know she ain’t it, move on.
Time is of the essence young man. The longer you wait the harder it is to find the one.
Time for a new gf, the one you have now is trash
If you have no evidence how do you know she’s up to no good?
You can also image search a picture of her and you may find her onlyfans. She may advertise here
Dump her YESTERDAY. You want a woman who respects herself, right? Not someone who made you commit for her to give herself to you, but is willing to spread her holes on the Internet for strangers. She wants a career, right? Employers may see her leaks on the Internet.
Sad what the world is coming to bro. Just another one selling there soul. Can’t believe how normalized it is to now. Better to just have a talk with her and move on. No future with these soulless goons unfortunately 🙁
Well, just turn around.
Do you have proof of the Snapchat account at least?
If you have no proof but your gut is telling you you need to walk away, then just respectfully walk away.
Good for her. Let her get the bag. If you’re not ok with it then obviously leave her
But If I was a hot girl I’d rather make easy money off simps then working a 9-5.
What’s her @? I’ll go talk to her for you.
Why do you need proof? Are you 100% positive? If so then just dump her and move on if that’s how you feel. You don’t actually need a reason to dump her. She may ask why? Just say there’s someone else on your mind
Shes not your girlfriend. She belongs to the dude (or dudes) who is willing to pay $1.99 to see her butthole.
Cut ties and walk away. Doesnt matter if she really does or not, the suspicions will never go away.
Love these karma farming posts
Buy every only fans account until you find her
i have been her before- she needs to be honest with you. there is no love without trust. and if you make her choose of or you listen to her reasoning as to why she is doing it. is she in need of money? or is it attention seeking? i do suggest you confront her but gently nonetheless
best of luck
Why do you need to confront her , pack you shit and leave , if she’s hiding an of if she isn’t already she can hide a side piece
Marry her and retire at 30.
It’s none of your business.
Ok, what’s her Snapchat then?
The first thing you shouldn’t do is go online to reddit to get any kind of real advice
Are you concerned about her Snapchat.
Or
Concerned about her Onlyfans???
How do you know she has OF???
Go pay for it and then take pictures or videos on what she has
Either you just end it. And if your pushed for an answer and you want to give it – tell her you know what she does and it’s more to do with her hypocrisy and lying to you. But you really don’t need to explain your decision. Or if you have to get petty get a female friend to subscribe to get the evidence of her actions so you can confront her. But really you don’t need to bother.
Ask her if you can join her. Make some money 🤷♂️
Well, the whole account is proof enough no? Tell her the username, and ask her what shes doing and why she lied about it
just leave , you do not even have to give a reason
Ask her about it in a non confronting way. It’s a sort of side job After all.
Type her name, followed by “OF leaks” on Google and see if you find anything.
She keeps everything hidden from you- hmmm 🤔 you would think that’s a warning. Aside from her telling you she would not do OF and was not honest with you, what other objections do you have to her OF presence?
“girlfriend” not “wife”… You don’t need evidence to prove anything to anyone.
If she makes you feel like you can’t trust her, don’t.
Move on.
wonder if shes plowing guys behind your back
it maybe time to move on op.
join her and make content with her
Time to dump her behind her back
Bro do you want the PS5 or not? Lol
Have her buy you some nice stuff like a new PC. Car , wardrobe.
Ghost her when you feel your done with her.
I’d subscribe so you know she’s not doing it with other males.
She’s for the streets, brother
Did you not find the link to her onlyfans on her snapchat? If you did, subscribe to it, and then while sitting next to her, say “hey, I found this girl on onlyfans, and it looks a lot like you…. show her the profile….. oh wait, it is you…. can you explain?”
Turn around and catch her!
First of all, who cares.
Second of all, what girlfriend? If you can’t vibe with her doing OF and she is actually doing it, then y’all are doomed.
What’s the connection between a secret Snapchat and onlyfans? I would just assume she’s cheating. Lol
Just breakup
You could accept her being an OF girl and understand why she lied. If you can’t do that leave now, it will be easier for both of you.
I’d be out, but to each their own.
Bruh, I’ve thought about doing OF. Times are hard. What’s her OF, I’ll help support
What’s her username so we can report her for you?
Here’s what you do. You get her to buy you a bunch of shit. Then you leave, without her knowing. Eye for an eye bro. Don’t get angry, get even
It’s pretty obvious: subscribe to her OF, then confront her about it. No matter what you plan on doing about this, that should be your first move.
Drop her and Run!
I can join the OF & share it with you bud if you want to have no connections .
Your call ?
Who cares. Its still your gf. All you gonna do by acting emotionally is lose your girl and cry over something that had nothing to do with you. Just cause she your girl, dont mean you own her body. Let her do her thang and you just focus on doing your thang with her. Otherwise, you just tryna be dramatic about leaving her.
I think we need to see proof
Post it. Enjoy the cash.
Why do you need proof? Just leave.
Open your own secret Snap account. Then follow her. When you get enough evidence, send it to her and tell her to enjoy her life
Why bother bringing it up? Just leave. She doesn’t deserve closure or an explaination if she is doing something behind your back that you don’t approve of.
I’d literally block her number and move on with life. That’s some shady 403 behavior, no self respecting man needs that in his life.
god you guys must be rolling in the dough!!!
You’re young and dating, not getting a legal divorce lmao. You can just go
A real one would support their gf in anything they do
You can break up if you want to, you don’t need proof for anything, it’s your life.
Why do you need proof?
Just break up and move on..
If the only fans/lying is a deal breaker I don’t see why you need proof, a simple “I don’t think we are compatible in our lifestyles I would like to part ways now and forever” should suffice
Dating in 2025 everybody lol.
Girls want attention or money from other men while in a relationship. Sad honestly
So why are you still standing with your back to her? You can turn around and see, it’s not like haven’t seen her naked before
Are you OK with her performing on OF and just want her to be honest about it? Do you want her to stop performing on OF? Do you want to maintain the relationship?
The money might be very good and she might be reluctant to stop. She might be afraid of the ramifications of people she knows outside of that world knowing what she’s doing.
The bottom line is you need to decide what you want and you haven’t made that clear, so that’s the best, honest advice anyone can give you.
If she’s going to act like a ho then treat her like one. Get her ass out on the track and tell her not to come back without your money.
Take her to a strip club for dinner ?
you don’t need proof to dump her. just tell her its not working out, don’t elaborate, move on.
Don’t even say anything, if its your place, put her shit in a garbage bag and put it outside, or in the garbage if youre feeling that petty.
If its her place, pack all your shit and leave. Block her on everything, give her no explaination.
If she wants to do this shit behind your back, she doesnt deserve closure.
Become top paid fan
Just break up with her. There is no need for a conversation. She made her decision.
these OF ads gettin out of hand
Well how defined is that line in the sand. If she is ok and you don’t care, carry on. It’s photos and videos. Unless she is bringing in other performers its a solo gig. You are the only one who can make peace with yourself
What made you think she is doing OF? Having another snapchat is strange but a lot of non-OF influencers have them so they can keep their private day to day stuff on their regular snap. Now if there is a link on the account or the pics on it are clearly the OF advertisement type pics then you just need to tell her you found her secret snap. Tbh if you have found proof you just need to tell her you’re not comfortable with her having an OF account and be prepared to end the relationship. It is her body and she can do what she wants but she also needs to be upfront about it because you also have the right to make an informed decision. Most likely the relationship will end because you have different preferences.
leave. nothing else to say
So what if she does?
With a statement along the lines of, “Found your secret, good luck have fun…just do it without me.”
However you found out, that would be your proof. If you want more specific advice you need to provide the reasons you think she is doing the things you claim she is doing so we can advise you on how to discuss them.
Presuming she is indeed lying to you about being a sex worker you have two issues to address:
Is sex work a problem for you? If it is, you should break up.
Does she have reasons for deceiving you that you can accept? If not, you should break up.
If #1 is a dealbreaker for you then you don’t need to engage in further dialogue. If it isn’t, check in with your girlfriend to talk about her secret account(s) and see if you can get on the same page. If you *know* she has the accounts then you don’t need to provide proof, though frankly if you do not have ‘proof’ then it’s unclear why you have such conviction.
Subscribe to her only fans. Get as much proof as you need. Then break up with her through only fans.
Don’t
Just leave her. If you don’t want a girl doing OF don’t dare a girl doing OF.
“She has an OnlyFans, Jerry!”
“So what?”
“I should be her only fan!”
If you have no proof, how are you sure. Get proof. Get someone she doesn’t know to subscribe. Get the proof.
I found out my bf was posting his own OF content and subscribing to numerous accounts the entirety of our relationship.
What little information I gathered before he hastily deleted the account (because I discovered what was going on) was enough to know it was only a matter of time before he continued with that behavior.
I ended things. I’ll never be able to trust him again. Lying is never ok. Lying by omission is still lying.
I’m confused. How do you know she’s doing OF if you have no proof?
So, it means you’re not an Indian.
As somebody who’s an OF creator myself it might be worth considering that firstly she might be incredibly nervous about telling you- she might have only recently started and finding her feet in the industry before she decides she wants to continue doing it. Also for those commenting regarding earnings- it’s only the top 3% of creators who earn the crazy money- she might have a real financial need to be doing this tho that she hasn’t disclosed to you- you need to have an open and honest conversation with her.
Is the issue that she has an OF, or that she wasn’t transparent about it? Two separate issues.
Feelings aint proof but if you’re already this convinced it doesnt matter. A relationship without trust is mental hell.
Pwned
If you have no proof how do you know it exists?
It’s amazing how onlyfans has become so clearly identified with adult content. But that’s not what the site was created for!
So what’s the point here? Are you mad because she won’t tell her? Does it bother you ? Or are you mad because you feel that she should share her earnings with you?.
Not sure why so many people feel the need to write to chat groups asking what to do about common sense situations.
You suspect that your GF is doing OF. Ask her present her with the evidence that you have. You don’t like or can’t, except her answer its simple. You leave pack your shit and you leave. Problem solved beyond your inability to solve simple social issues.
Get that money
Be careful of what you” know is happening” without any actual proof of what is happening.
I know this is a crazy idea but have you considered … just asking her about what you saw? I believe kids nowadays call this method “healthy communication”.
Leave, she hurt you, she hid things from you, she lied to you, she cheated, it’s clear she isn’t a good person, so do the logical answer and leave, you can always find someone else or if you decide love isn’t for you then you don’t have to find someone else & can stay single.
You can just break up. Thats freedom. Use it.
If you habitually look at porn then you have no ground.
Quit the porn anyway. It makes you a weak boy
It’s a relationship, not court. If you want to break up then do it, you don’t need proof or even a reason.
You can either dump her, stay with her and see if she gets only fans rich and try to get half in a divorce or stay with her without the intent of breaking up with her
Just break up with her.
Shit
You don’t need to build a court case to end a relationship. If you feel you can’t trust her, that alone is enough reason to walk away. Dating isn’t marriage, you don’t owe her a trial, and you don’t need “proof” to justify leaving.
At the end of the day, trust is the foundation. If you don’t have it, everything else crumbles. Don’t waste your time trying to catch her out in screenshots. Just be clear with yourself: are you okay dating someone who hides things like this? If the answer is no, then you already have your answer.