My gf has an obsession with Stanford Pines and Rick Sanchez. She does AI talks with them and recently started playing sims 4 where her and rick live together and she tells me how she fucks them.
I’ve told her once that it makes me feel inadequate and she said ” they are fictional it’s ok” and “i can’t stop feeling like this, it’s just who I am.”
I think it’s totally fine that she has these crushes, itd be hypocritical for me to say her having these crushes is bad as I have fictional female crushes.
The difference is i don’t tell her how i fuck them and how they make me feel happy while I talk to an AI version of them or play sims so I could fuck them.
Am I being insecure and over reacting?
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idk man i’m obsessed with anime men to a point i have a flag of them next to my bed and a wall dedicated to just one character, but if i had a bf i would 100%% NOT tell him how i fuck them😭 ur not totally in the wrong to feel like it’s weird- maybe tell her that it’s totally ok for her to have these crushes but maybe she shouldn’t share allat with u cuz that’s weird
You are being insecure but that’s normal, you’re a real human person with feelings. You can let her know she’s allowed to do what she wants for her own amusement but she doesn’t need to tell you about it. If she continues to cross that boundary, you should reconsider this relationship. Maybe she doesn’t think it’s emotionally cheating because they’re not real, but they’re taking time away from your interactions together and straining your communication.
I’m sorry, but this is very funny lol
You’re both being insecure and feeling right about her being a weirdo.
Don’t be bothered by what she’s doing. Do better. Find someone better than her. It’s better time and energy spent than being insecure.
You’re right to feel like she’s doing something wrong with her life by being weird, spending lots of time on that and then sharing her virtual life with you. A good partner wouldn’t do that.
Jesus the world is a shit show.
Bro this is messed up like I understand anime crush and all but thinking about having sex when in relationship doesn’t feels right let’s say it a fictional character but she don’t have to explain it to you , you try the same with her just tell her you were having sexual dreams on some anime crush elaborate it like how she does and see her reaction
The comments are not helping as I can tell all of em have anime body pillows, yes it’s weird. It’s a double standard. It’s only ever okay when a girl does it but weird and gross and “scary” when a man does similar things. It makes you uncomfortable and she doesn’t care what you think. That’s all you need to know
I would say that you support her fictional crushes, but you would strongly prefer to not know how she fucks them.
I think as long as she loves you, she can understand.
I think you’re not compatible. Personally, it seems like a waste of time to spend so much time invested in fake relationships. But it’s her life. But sounds like it’s getting in the way of your real relationships. Her choice but you don’t have to sit there and be ignored. You can find someone you’re more compatible with.
You should find someone better but that’s a bit funny
I mean, I don’t blame her. I’m not gay, but If I was a girl, I would throw myself at a guy that looked like Eren Yeager.
Could be worse. She could be having these feelings with real men like Leonard Zeskind and Stephen Miller. THAT would be cause to end the relationship.
I don’t mean to be insensitive and maybe I’m old but whaaaaaaat the fuuuuuuck didijustread?
That is bizarre to me.
I am an avid reader, like most we have our crushes our “Darcy’s” and whatnot, but I don’t go running to my husband and tell him about anything. I wouldn’t be too upset with the whole thing for your lack, it’s imagination and imagination does weird stuff. But maybe telling her you don’t want to hear about the weird fetish that she makes her Sims do, doesn’t matter if it’s fictional or not.
This is beyond messed up if you ask me.
It’s normal to have fictional crushes, but to an extend that it is healthy, not to totally head over heels for them.
You should talk with her of how you support those things, but she doesn’t need to go into details of how she wants to do them crushes as you’re not comfortable with that.
I would say this is weird lol as a person who write fan fics and had multiple favourite characters lol
What the fuck hahaha. Rick Sanchez?! I guess she has an intellectual…old man kink? You can either be okay with this or break up with her… you don’t have to keep dating people.
I feel especially qualified on this since I had a fictional crush on Stanford Pines too LOL. I promise you he is not a threat to you. But, I think you need to discuss your boundaries and maybe have a “dont ask dont tell” policy about your fictional crushes.
This may be a personal thing, but I think talking to AIs of your crushes may be more psychologically damaging than you realize. A healthier alternative may be to write/read fanfic. Check out r/fanfiction and channel that energy into a creative hobby!
goodluck OP