Keep in mind we are teenagers!!
So me and my gf have been together for about 4 months now, I know that’s no very long but we’d been friends for 2 years since we started dating.
Ive dated before but nothing that really mattered and this is definitely my longest relationship. And since we’ve started dating I’ve realized how much I do not like physical touch compared to her. I like to cuddle and kiss her, but after a while, it gets me irritated. I have autism so that’s probably, but after cuddling for more than maybe 15-30 minutes, I get really irritated and I hate it a lot. Making out has just become non existent because I hate it. I understand it but God people keep it going for like way to long and again, same issue.
Shes amazing and always understands when I don’t want to do stuff, but it’s gotten to point where shes told me she really wants more physical touch because that’s her biggest love language, and I really don’t.
I also am up for making myself a little uncomfortable if that means she’s getting what she wants out the relationship, but Ive tried to do that and I don’t think it’s enough for what she needs.
And for anyone wondering, my biggest love language is giving gifts or making gifts and giving it to her, and or other than that would be quality time.
ALSO, i understand anyone saying that we might just not be cut out for eachother and we should break up, but other than this, we’ve had nothing go wrong between us so I will not be doing that š. Thank you
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Honestly man when youāre that young and have that new of a relationship it may just not be. Dating is literally to find out what you want in a SO and what makes you happy. If she likes physically tough and thatās a non negotiable issue maybe like you said āitās not meant to beā but Iāve also seen relationships work out where people have issues like that and they learn to work it out. Just ask yourself if you like or āloveā this girl enough to put in the work to fix this problem. If not youāre so young and the relationship is so new thereās truly nothing wrong with just calling it and moving on brother.
Itās a matter of whether the pair of you can come to an agreeable compromise & both care enough to meet in the middle.
Itās not supposed to be that hard this early in the relationship you two are not compatible
I believe you should talk to her about it honestly. See what she has to say about it, if she responds positively then Iād say thatās a good sign. However, if she doesnāt then Iām afraid that maybe it would be better to go your separate ways. Iād be hard, but it would save so much time if you donāt ignore something thatās important to you all. Whatever you decide I wish you best of luck.
Hard to know how much you don’t like touch , but maybe , my friend , this is an issue for you to deal with and work on. Maybe talk to a professional about it.
Touch is one of the most natural things between adult human beings who like/love each other.