For context Im 21 and she is 19
She tries her best to get an emotional reaction out of me everyday. She confessed that she likes being avoidant because she loves the feeling that I chase her and tell her to open up constantly. Some times she calls me ugly, says she’s not physically attracted to me, makes fun of me for not being 6 feet tall and stuff just to get an emotional reaction out of me. Just for the sake of fights.
I have so much control over my thoughts and emotions that I dont give into her advances and I dont react emotionally at all in the way she wants me to. I dont get angry, never shout, never give her the toxic treatment she wants because thats not my definition of relationship.
I talk in a calm tone and sort things out since in my past relationship fights were a big issue that led to breakup so I wanna do things right for once. She on the other hand loves toxic men who constantly fight or ignore their girlfriend all the time.
When I told her she needs to fix her traums and stuff she said that Im being too nice.
“Nice guys” arent fun… thats what she said.
Im hoping that she will grow into a much more but im scared what if she ends up cheating on me just to get a “reaction of out me”
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This relationship sounds unhealthy. You deserve someone who appreciates your emotional stability, not provokes you.
What do you like about her?
No
Name one good reason it’s remotely smart for you to try to carry is if you want peace. But I get it.
Mate, you and her are different personalities. You can only control your actions. Please stop thinking that she’s someone you need to rectify. Focus on yourself and be with a person who appreciates you and makes you wanna work on yourself further
No
Nah just dump her. If she wants a toxic guy she can go find one
get out of there this is a ticking time bomb of a relationship.
That is a rape troll in disguise
Get out of this relationship yesterday
Just leave the relationship, she sounds very toxic.