My (m22) girlfriend (f19) and I have been together for a year now. She is absolutely amazing and the love of my life. We didn’t start texting until after she turned 18 and I was still concerned about the age gap but she’s been nothing but patient and kind.
I’ve had a few relationships before and they weren’t very great but my gf makes up for them 100%. We are completely compatible in day to day life and also in the bedroom, sharing the same kinks and all. I have never felt more seen, understood, loved and cherished than with this girl. I have depression and anxiety and she is so goddamn kind. We also don’t argue at all and have super healthy communication.
I’m saying all of this to show that I’m in a really good place in life right now and love her and our relationship.
However recently she came to me and we had a talk. I’m her first boyfriend and she’s convinced I’m the one for her, however she has never had any sexual experiences outside of our relationship. She says she’d like to experiment, especially since she’s bisexual too and would love to know how sex with a woman feels like. But she doesn’t want to break up because she’s so in love with me and agrees our relationship is perfect. I don’t want to break up either and I totally understand where she’s coming from but I don’t know how to feel about this
My gf wants to see other people
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Are you ok with Opening the relationship up? Because that’s where it looks like it’s going. Just make sure you know what you want because this type of relationship isn’t for everybody
Your girlfriend wants to keep the security and comfort of your relationship while also exploring things that don’t include you. This is not about you not being enough, it’s about her curiosity and unfinished emotional development, which is very normal at 19. But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean you have to be okay with it. Opening up a relationship when one person feels unsure tends to breed resentment or heartbreak down the road.
This isn’t a age gap issue, this is a respect issue. She wants to have sex with other people to “experiment” her sexuality and experiences. And come back to you like things will be okay? Don’t be the person in a relationship where you’re blind to see what’s happening and you allow yourself to get walked over. Let her go do those experiences but let her know its at the cost of losing you. Something tells me she will be okay with that. I wish you the best brother. Save yourself the sleepless nights and leave now.
Break up. And move on. She can fuck around and findout.
The relationship isnt perfect, when she wants to see other people.
Remindme! -7days
Ask yourself. Are you comfortable with your girl sleeping with other people?
If you think it’s not cheating as long as she’s with another girl, then I feel you’re conditioned to think that it is normal by the media and porn.
Ask yourself what is going to be your role in her new relationships? Third wheel? Comfort guy? Just friends? Or active partner in their relationship? Is this beneficial to you? Will you be comfortable if the gender was reversed?
Or are you just excited by the thought of having a chance to do a threesome with her new gf?
Now I don’t know you or her. But if a girl says that, chances are that she’s looking for a better option other than you. Boys don’t like that, so they try to stop them. So she might just be telling you this stuff so you would be ignoring her while she’s building another relationship.
How can she know that she’s Bisexual if you are the only person she’s ever been with Sexually? That doesn’t make her Bisexual in the literal sense! If she wants to experiment with another woman, then you need to decide whether you love each other so deeply, or she wants to explore what she thinks may be an alternative lifestyle! Can you stand by her while she explores her uncertain interests? Good Luck!
If it’s just with girls, offer to bring someone in to join you if you’re comfortable with that. It could be very fun for you both. You might also open up to things later in life but neither of you should count on that. Be honest about your boundaries and if she isn’t happy with them, then you guys are not perfect and it’s time to move on. The key is communication and honesty
She’s only 19 and wants to see what is out there. That is normal. Expecting you to wait or sit on the sidelines is not fair
Let her go. She’s not ready for a serious relationship yet.
What advice do you need.
She told you what she wants. You can’t stop her. That’s a wrap my dude. Time to go enjoy some college girls.
If you aren’t into open relationship/polyamory you need to tell her it’s either she respects your relationship or you break up.
Break up with her. She’ll just end up cheating.
Well, most folks will tell you it’s over, etc. But if you’re not jealous, you can work out some ground rules, and let her try out a woman or two. I’ve actually been there (long ago), and it worked out fine. She’s 19: I suspect she’s going to go experiment either way, so the question is whether it’s a dealbreaker for you.
My husband and I are ethically non-monogamous. I know who he sleeps with, he knows who I sleep with, sometimes we sleep with other women together or with other couples together. It works out perfectly for us. But neither of us have any concern that we would ever leave each other for someone else. And we typically only do this with other married people. It works for some, but not everyone. Communication is the key. If you aren’t super secure, it may be better to part ways and come back later.
She’s not your girlfriend anymore
You will find someone else!
Nah dude end it. She’s got someone else she wants to fuck in mind already.
I guess it was just the wrong time for her to be in a relationship. It is normal for people to need to experience and try things out to know what they really want. I think continuing the relationship is just going to not work out. It doesn’t even matter what your relationship was like, if she needs to go out and experiment to mature and grow up. You are clearly going to be hurt if she does this while in a relationship with you. I think you are also not ready for a relationship either and need your own time. Seeing other people is single privilege. It is not wrong to want to see people as a single. It just doesn’t work, while being in a relationship. You need your own time as well to deal with your problems and figure yourself out. It makes sense for both of you to be single and figure life out at your age. Serious commitment is for responsible people. You can’t expect that from the inexperienced. There is always a possibility that people find something wrong with their current relationship and find something else more relationship worthy.
Fuck her as much as you can and enjoy your days until she finds another man
You can allow her to go experience what she wants, but also she is still young and right now, she’s at the age where it’s fair for her to want to experience new things. Suppressing her sexuality ultimately could be devastating to your relationship.
You’re both gay
Moral and empathy difference. I would leave the relationship. It is disrespectful to you no matter what anyone says.
Triangle?
Tell her you wanna join her with a second woman
Well, do you like sharing your woman? Do you get to “experiment” as well? It almost sounds like she is training you for a cuckhold relationship to me. If you’re down for that, get your cage ready. Personally, if my lady came to me like that, I would say do what you want and then pack my bags and bounce.
This is not an age gap 😅 I think under 6 years isn’t really anything. My relationship is 12yrs difference and we respect each other 🙏
You can either be ok with it. Or you can leave her. There is no right or wrong here.
Might be one of those cases of right person, wrong time— her wants are valid, she’s at that age ya know.
Look this comes down to preferences, some people have thriving open relationships and some are poly. If you feel ok with it, give it a try? What’s the worst that can happen, you break up ? That would happen anyways . I’ve known many monogamous couples that migrated to poly for a bit at some point. But only if you’re ok with it.
Dang. I don’t know what to say. Sounds horrible
It’s time to either set some ground rules for an open relationship or set her free to pursue women.
Ex gf
Bro you are 22, other mothers have beautiful daughters too. Stop fooling yourself with that love of your life BS. She doesn’t love you period.
She 19, let her go and wish her well.
Threesome!