me(m19) and my gf(f19) have been living together for a little over a month and have been together for a couple months. (due to a situation i had no where to live and she was their for me). my gf has told me in the past she had gonorrhea, chlamydia, and trich but got medication and was good, but recently ive been developing symptoms. ive already talked to her about it and she says that she hasnt cheated and i havent cheated so idk where i could have came from. idk if i believe that she didnt cheat cause we had a situation not that long ago where she was texting her “homeboy” n being all friendly telling him he could have fucked back when they use to talk n shi and just talking about things u shouldnt talk abt to other folks while u in a relationship. ive been doing hella research seeing if its possible she could have got it without cheating. ive seen that women can carry it with no symptoms for awhile or repeated using of damp towels but what are the chances this is what caused it? this has been the only thing on my mind the past couple of days and really just need answers.
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To get it from damp towels, you have to use someone else’s damp towels who has it.
You need to go get tested and treated.
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this doesn’t look good on her sorry bro
When did she have trich? Did she finish the treatment? Did she have a negative test after? Did you both test positive recently? When were you last tested?
She definitely got it from another sexual partner. Question is if it was before you got together or during your relationship. I read about it online and typically symptoms appear after 5 to 28 days. It also said some people don’t get symptoms at all so idk. But since it says symptoms typically appear after 5 to 28 days I’d keep an eye on her, sounds like she potentially hasn’t been faithful
No way to know for sure tbh, it’s possible that she took medication for it and either didn’t take all of it, or missed a day or 2 of it, where then it didn’t work as intended. Alternatively she’s going behind your back.
Either way get tested, it sounds like she’s had numerous things, and you definitely want to make sure you don’t catch anything, especially anything that isn’t curable.
Honestly man, trich can stick around in women for a while without symptoms, so it’s possible she had it from before and just never knew. It’s not super likely to get it from towels and stuff, but it’s technically possible. The stuff with her texting her “homeboy” is kinda sketchy though, I get why you feel weird about it. If you both haven’t been with anyone else since getting together, then yeah, maybe it was just dormant or something. Either way, both of you should get treated so you don’t keep passing it back and forth. If you’re still feeling off about the trust thing, probably need to talk about that too.
Sounds like a Petri dish.