My girlfriend has been avoiding intimacy with me lately, and I feel like it’s seriously affecting our relationship. I don’t know if she’s being unfaithful or if something else is going on. When we first started dating, we used to have sex 5 to 6 times a day. Now we have sex like once or twice a week or even 0 times per week last month we had sex like 2 times. She says it’s because she doesn’t feel good about her body. She’s slightly overweight, but she’s always been like that — and somehow, I’m the only one she’s ever used that excuse with.
Her past is complicated: she’s been with more than 10 men, was once involved in a threesome with two guys, and even had repeated affairs with a married man, sneaking out at night just to be with him.
I’ve already told her how I feel, and her response was that she’s a different person now — that she was immature before and didn’t think about her actions. She also said sex is no longer a priority in her life.
Honestly, I find it hard to believe, especially because this ‘mature version’ of her supposedly only appeared after she met me. Just seven months before we got together, she was still doing all those things I mentioned.
I’m having a hard time trusting her. Intimacy is something important to me, and while I’ve thought about cheating, I won’t do it — I’d rather end the relationship than betray her like that.
Is it a good idea to end my relationship? Any advice?
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Mate, listen… she’s no on a spiritual journey or finding herself—she’s just bored oot her nut and climbing the human shagging ladder like it’s the X Factor auditions. And you? You’re the warm-up act. She’s moved on, mate. Bigger gigs, bigger… instruments, know what I mean?
Get out now before she hits you with the ol’ ‘let’s just be friends’ while her new fella’s still in your bed putting on your slippers. This isn’t a relationship anymore—it’s a hostage situation wi’ cuddles. Free yourself, brother. Don’t end up the poor sod watering the plants while she’s out getting fertilised elsewhere. It’s a trap, man. Run!
One’s past does not dictate one’s present. Whether she was a virgin when you met or a porn star, it makes no difference to what she wants in the present. If you’re unhappy, talk to her or end it. People change and there’s nothing wrong with that. Either she has, or something has changed, or she just isn’t interested anymore. Either way she’s given you an answer so I would suggest acting on it however that aligns with what you want. Leave her if you don’t like where it’s going, or continue to try to talk but don’t base it on her past before you. That’s just accusatory, not an attempt at understanding.
Body count is too high, she has been run through. You don’t want the mother of your children to have been involved in threesomes and who knows what else. If you are fine with these things sure, but imo go find someone better. It’s always the same story, was immature and stupid so I won’t take responsibility for the actions, she could also be very well cheating on you cause women like that don’t really change. Good luck man