Hi, I just need to tell someone this. I was gonna tell this to a friend but he knows the girl and I promised her I wouldn’t tell anyone.
I just feel weird. Cheating is so fucked up. I actually can’t believe she did that. She still said that she loved her bf but is getting feelings for the other guy. It just hurts and I wasn’t even cheated on, but fuckkkk. I really feel bad for her bf bc I know him and he is a good and loving guy.
She went to a bar with the other guy and the piece of shit got her ultra drunk, then rode to lonely place and then sex. I know it’s not excusable but the other guy kinda raped her. The worst thing is that my friend doesn’t believe that the guy took advantage of her state.
This is fucked up in all ways. I just needed to tell someone.
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Rock-you-Hard Place! Oh boy, if it were me, Iâd want to know. Remember this, it takes lies to hide the truthâŚ. You might just lose a best friend over this.. or, you could be the âride or dieâ for your best friend. Howâs your moral compass doing? Good luck OP!
My 2 cents on the situation if sheâs capable of betraying her most important person in her life whatâs stopping her from going behind your back. I wouldnât even involve my self w cheaters Iâve stopped talking to people cause theyâve cheated. If it was the other way around youâd want to be told it was happening. But that my morale compass I suppose.
What makes that type of person âfriendâ worthy ?
I think that you should ultimately talk to your friend and let her know that if she wonât tell her boyfriend then you will. He deserves to know. Your loyalty is admirable, but you are hurting somebody else because you want to keep your friend. Your friend should know they did something bad, and you should be there to help them be a better person, but her current boyfriend needs to know what happened.
End your friendship with her
Hey there. I’d like to tell you something, as someone whose first relationship ended on a background of multiple infidelities. If I might, I’d like to get into the cheated on partner’s shoes.
First, I’d like to tell you that it’s something that might feel big to know. And trust me: I wouldn’t want you to stop your friendship. In fact, I wouldn’t care that you’re friends. Your best friend didn’t hurt you: she did hurt her partner. If you want to keep or break the friendship, it’s only up to you.
When you know you’ve been cheated on, it’s a really gutting feeling. The feeling of losing footing with what one thought was a safe bubble, surrounded with the chosen one tasked to look after your wellbeing. Do you know what hurts more than this? Knowing that it’s been a while. It just makes you feel unworthy of being told the truth. You feel like you’re less than trash. Not deserving of commitment, not deserving of honesty, is how it feels.
Whatever you do, I wouldn’t be angry at you. You’re not the one who did wrong, and you shouldn’t get in the gears of a relationship problem. But truth being told is simply the best course of action, and ideally that truth has to come out the mouth of the party at fault. Don’t get yourself in any form of danger, you’re not one of the mainly concerned protagonists.
But if I was you, I’d tell your friend to either disclose it, or I’d do it. Because infidelity is a bomb, that only explodes bigger the longer it’s been left under the rug. And when you’ve been into the blast radius, you wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
I knew about the infidelities through my ex’s best friend. This brought the closure I needed to move on. Living in the unknown of a relationship is soul-tearing.
If your partner was stepping out on you and your friend knew, would you want them to tell you?
Youâre not sparing anyone here by keeping this secret. I promise the bf will be better off knowing the truth so he can make his own decision on whether or not to stay in the relationship. All youâre doing by keeping this secret is allowing your friend to continue cheating on her bf.
If youâre really as disgusted with cheating as you claim, you should sit your friend down and tell her she has to tell her bf or youâll do it. He deserves better.
Something to think about. The reason she doesnât feel taken advantage of is because she knows she would have done it without being drunk. And maybe, sheâs planning on doing it again. Maybe itâs part of her plan because of her bf finds out she can use the excuse of âbut I was drunkâ or âhe got me drunk.â
Say her bf did find out, what do you think her reaction would be ? Denial, admitting to it, twisting the story, anger, sobbing, begging for forgiveness? And is she willing to let this other man go to prove loyalty, or will she find excuses on why to keep him around? Her answers will be very telling, and is that a person you want to support ?
Tell him secretly if you don’t want her to find out you told him. Like you are his other friend and you saw them.
Anytime I see gender errors I assume the person writing this fiction did a rewrite and missed a couple spots, or it’s a poorly trained AI.
I’ll be real with you:
If you don’t tell him, you’re even worse than her.
Okay, story time.
Almost this exact situation happened to me, only thing is I was gaslit by my best friend and only found out about this a month ago. Which is 4 years from the incident.
I had suspicions that my gf had cheated on me with the neighbour, and my entire friend group rallied behind her and denied it in the name of secrecy just like you are now. I was so confused by the situation I believed my friends and told myself that I was being crazy, this lead to some unsatisfactory symptoms that gaslighting usually comes with. Eventually I stopped believing them and they still stuck to their story and my mental health took a massive dip started drinking and withdrawing, being paranoid all of this which led to everyone saying I was crazy. I ended up going a little nuts over this which seems silly but given my mental health challenges over the years not surprising, I was eventually hospitalised because all of my depression/ anxiety/ OCD symptoms Iâd worked so hard over the years to get better had just crumbled.
I was eventually hospitalised and put in rehab. 4 years down the line I get told âhey you know that thing that happened and you thought she cheated, haha yeahhh you were right sorry lolâ
Donât be that person, might not be as serious as my situation but donât be that guy.
if was a man, the comments would be so diferent. lol
You shouldn’t have promised , now you’re compromised to defend something you don’t agree to, she’s probably going to hate you if you tell, and the guy is going to hate you if he finds out that you knew and didn’t tell
Honestly, couldn’t be me, but I wish that guy good luck
you promised her you wouldnât tell anyone? what about the poor guys fucking feelings? what has the world become ffs
If you decide to not tell the bf, then that shows your character and no matter which way you try to justify it, it will be
Would you want someone to tell you if you were being cheated on?
Friends hold friends to a higher standard.
Iâll get DVâd for this but I donât care. Iâve made this mistake and lost two friends in the process. Girl mind your business. Everything that is done in the dark will come to light without your intervention. Nothing good ever comes from getting involved in your friendsâ private affairs.