Hello everyone, Me [ 27F ] and my girlfriend [ 26F ] have been together for 2 years and a half,
And recently she talked to me about her being very suicidal, this came as a shock to me because she has told me before she would never even consider something like that, My problem is that she doesn’t want me to show my concerns about it, she told me about how when her sister got stressed out, it only made her shut down and not face her real reasons, so i didn’t show my concerns but it’s so hard to act, i love her so so much i don’t want her to do it, she is considering going to therapy but didn’t go yet,
I want to push her to go or even to help in any kind of way but it only makes her shut down, like if tell her to go to therapy she would get upset or if i try to give any advice and give her some suggestion she would shut down and get upset,
And recently she told me she almost go through with it while she was at work but she didn’t, and that scares me,
In my head it’s saying you have to leave before she go through with it because it will scare me for life but i would never do that i love her from the bottom of my heart she have a beautiful soul and a more beautiful smile i love her warmth i just wish i know what to do, everyday when i wake up i am worried about it, and it’s making me depressed, i already take antidepressants and mood stabilizer so i am going through it my self so it’s harder to act like everything is fine.
I don’t know what to do Please if you have any advice tell me i am lost what should i do?
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All you can do is be supportive of her seeking professional mental health care and counselling.
I’m very sorry to hear that for both you and your girlfriend. That is a really challenging situation.
It might be different in your country, but your girlfriend needs to be admitted to a psychiatric hospital.
You are doing your best. But you are not a doctor and you are not a mental health practitioner. You do not have the skills required to deal with this difficult time, nor should you be expected to. Your girlfriend requires medical intervention from professionals.
Been through similar partners with suicidal thoughts or attempts. I’ve lost three people close to me from it. In total I’ve known nine in my life to take their own life. Honestly it’s best to just be passively supportive of their wishes. You really have no right to force anyone to do anything. It’s nice to be concerned but you have to accept it’s in their hands. If you can’t find peace in your relationship with her being like this then you need to wish her the best and exit the relationship. Just like her mental health yours is also important. Take it from someone who has forced help on another, paid for mental health services, stayed with them, and even stopped multiple attempts at taking their own life. Put your peace and health first and accept they have the right to live their life how they want. Best of luck to you dear.