Two months ago my mum passed away from cancer. For the last three weeks of her life she was in hospital and I visited daily and was there when she passed. Because of this I obviously don’t like going near that hospital if I can help it.
My girlfriends aunt has recently been diagnosed with cancer and has started chemotherapy. She had some complications and is currently in hospital. She is in the same ward in the same hospital that my mum passed away. My girlfriend asked if I’d go with her to visit her aunt. I said I’d drive her and pick her up but that I wouldn’t go into the hospital. I said it would bring back too many bad memories
She asked again and I gave the same answer. She said I was being unsupportive but I pointed out I was still being supportive by offering to drive her. She just said again she wanted me ot go with her to visit her aunt but I told her to stop bringing it up and that I wouldn’t be going in the hospital.
Again she said I was being unsupportive and not being there when she needed me but I just pointed out she was being unsupportive towards me by expecting me to just ignore my grief to go into the hospital with her.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this or have any other views on the situation?
Tl;dr my girlfriend expects me to go to visit her aunt in hospital with her. I said no to going in the hospital as my mum passed away on that ward recently and my girlfriend said I was being unsupportive.