With my job I have had over 12 exams over three years. This week is my final exam so I had planned to go for a meal and a few drinks with my girlfriend. These plans were made weeks ago.
Yesterday my girlfriend said we’ll have to cancel as she can no longer afford it as she is seeing friends this weekend and she’s seeing another group of friends the weekends after that.
She mentioned the plans have just been made and it’s the only time they can all make it.
I pointed out she can’t make it if she’s having to cancel our plans to go. I pointed out celebrating me finishing my exams should be more important to her.
She said I was being unreasonable and we could just do it next month. I told her she can see her friends next month instead.
I told her I should be a priority and she shouldn’t be canceling on me the second anything else comes along.
She said I wasn’t being fair and it’s not often all of her friends can get together but I just pointed out again the celebrating me finishing my exams should be more of a priority to her.
She just said again that I wasn’t being fair.
Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this or have any other views on it?
Tl;dr my girlfriend and I had plans to celebrate me being finished with exams. She then made plans with friends and cancelled our plans. I told her she should be cancelling her plans with friends and not with me but she said I was being unfair,
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Yeah I’m on your side here. Why didn’t she say to her friends, “I can’t do this weekend, how ‘bout next?”
She wouldn’t have to cancel if she hadn’t made too many plans in the first place
Compromise. Have her ask her friends if they can do a different weekend. If they can’t just do a different weekend. How long have you even been dating?
I mean you can’t really stop her but if you were never really her priority anyway, why would you want to?
Let her make her decision but I would not be staying with her if she does choose to go with her friends.
Congratulations on your accomplishment!