I’m leaving for work tomorrow at 5am so I have to be up around 4am to catch a flight, she says I’m selfish to think she will take me. She works tomorrow at 5pm and it’s just a 25-30 min drive to the airport. She refuses to take me, even though since I’ve been here I’ve done Everything, and I mean everything.
Nails, grocery’s, eating out, golf x2 (which is expensive), taken her child to a trampoline park, filled her tank full of gas, washed her car, bought plants, Paid for her to take 2 days off, Cooking, cleaning, eye lashes, and household essentials.
If it was her who needed a ride to the airport I’m more than certain I’d take her. But the one thing I’ve asked of her is a problem and I’m selfish.
Am I the problem?
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BRUH RUUUUNNNNNNN
35 and 25 is a predatory age gap, and it sounds like she’s taking advantage of you. I don’t know all the background of your relationship or how long you’ve been together, but I’d take a hard look at your relationship. It’s pretty atypical for a 35 y/o woman to be with a 25 y/o.
Relationships only work if you’re willing to reciprocate to an even extent and willing to communicate your perspective. Ask her how she sees the role of the man and the role of the woman in a relationship. You should be able to do this pretty casually, and this will tell you a lot about what you need to know going forward.
She can eg. suffer from bad sleep and groginess when tired and nor willing to chance it and this is the one thing she can’t do. She might be willing to go the mile regarding other things, but you should really delve into her mindset before judging.whether this is a red flag.
Dude… You going to wipe her ass too?
You’re getting worked big time.
You should mind helping out and providing, especially when you’re out here painting her nails, pampering her, and she can’t do the smallest thing in return for you.
You’re getting taken advantage of massively.
Get away from this woman, she’s just using you for the things you do for her.
That’s wild. She doesn’t like you, she likes what you are providing. I wouldn’t even try to work through this because you can’t teach someone to genuinely care about you. PLEASE leave her and find someone who actually values you as a person and wouldn’t think twice about taking you to the airport. You are not being selfish in ANY way. Expecting her to take you to the airport is more than reasonable, even without doing all that stuff for her. DO NOT let her gaslight you. We all deserve someone who treats us better than this.
Run!!!!!!!!! And I’m a woman. Run. Run fast.
If youre feeling an imbalance in the relationship, you need to tell her that. Her reaction will tell you how she feels about you. My partner and I have gone through financial hardships over the years where one of us picks up the financial slack due to the other losing a job or getting hours cut at work. But we always support each other working to make our lives better. I would never want my partner to feel like they have to carry the burden of doing all the hard work in the relationship, financially or otherwise.
If she’s content to let you do all the hard work while she reaps the material rewards and does little to support you in return, it make be wise to consider if this is how you want the rest of your life with her to go.
Are you beginning to understand you are being used and there is a reason men her age aren’t dating her??
She doesn’t think of you as her boyfriend. She thinks of you as a wallet.
Order an Uber and never return.
Is your brain broken?
Stopped reading at, “We live in separate states.”
You’re probably paying for someone else to bang your girl.
Money is just a proxy for effort. Your money is a result of the effort you put in at work, which you then share with her.
Since she seems to be unwilling to make any effort on your behalf, I suggest you do the same.
Her age is too old for you, but her maturity is too teenage for you.
I wouldn’t expect my wife to take me to the airport at 5 am, for whatever it’s worth–that hour is above and beyond.
However, you shouldn’t be financially supporting her, either.
Lmao you dont even live togeather, your investing way too much here my man. You paying to get her eye lashes done, and tricking out her apartment. My guy what are you doing?
There is a sucker in this relationship and it isn’t her.
She’s showing you who she is. Do you want to spend the rest of your life like this?
If my SO was flying out of town I would be disappointed if they didn’t want me to see them off.
Work flight should be a cab paid for by the company.
She isn’t wrong for not wanting to get up
did you not realize you were just the sugar daddy?
You are her wallet, not her boyfriend.
You’re 25, everything she’s needed your help with…… eyelashes, nails etc. was completely unnecessary. She’s too old for you and is using your money.
She’s selfish as hell.
you are the problem, if you let her continue using you. As of now though, she and her selfishness are the problem
Actually, you ARE. You are allowing yourself to be used as a sugar daddy. Nails and eyelashes and plants and a trampoline park? None of these are necessities. She’s stringing you along.
Nah that’s foul. Cool thing is ghosting her will be easy since you live in different states.
Pay the Uber. And paying her bills. When she asked why it stopped explain its a partnership and she just wants a sugar daddy. Apply to someone else.
“Am I the problem” yup yes definitely and this post is certainly real, too
be so fucking for real right now