So much has been going on in the past two days but I will explain this part. At prom which i didn’t get to attend but my girlfriend did because currently i’m not in the same country as her as i’m visiting family. I had made adamant to her that i was really scared of what she was gonna do at prom as we had just gotten back together for about a month after we had broke up for her sitting on one of my old friend’s lap and kissing him. So at prom she would send me videos nothing just dancing so i was happy that she stayed loyal after prom tho people were texting me saying she was going crazy doing stuff. but she sent me snaps so i didn’t know who to beleive then after arguing wid her for a bit she started crying and telling me why i don’t trust her and i just responded with i do trust you. So after this everything was fine we were good but then something happens to long to explain but i wake up and i see a picture of her were someone has there hand around her waist i overeact at first then realise its prom and everyones taking pictures then i see a video of her getting carried to her dads car by her ex while shes laughing and smiling i just cried i didn’t know what to do, and this is the same ex who cheated on her and would tell me she hates my heart just drops i text her why she did that and she told me “my feet were hurting and i was tired so i asked him to carry me” i just blocked her on everything but i didn’t officially break up i’m just so lost for words i don’t understand what i had did to her but yeah i’m just so lost on what my next actions should be she has already tried contacting me saying that she wants to speak when i’m ready and that she loves me and misses me but if i speak to her i just feel like it would break my heart even more. it hurts so much
my girlfriend got carried by her ex
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She let the same ex who broke her carry her like she never knew the pain and you’re supposed to smile through it. If you stay now you teach her that your heart is a place she can visit and wreck without consequence and no one who truly loves you should ever feel that free.
I know you won’t feel this now, but please read this and the advice of ArielleAccesses, that girl will continue to hurt you and disrespect you if you go back.
You are young and there is a great wide world out there with people who will not trifle with your heart. Walk away, allow yourself some time to heal, spend good times with friends and family, get into something creative that makes you happy and realise your self worth. Once you have self love, the right person will see that in you and love you the way you deserve to be loved. Trust.
I’m sorry op, she’s a lost cause.
Leave her
Oh man. Rough awakening to the adulthood, huh? It’s ok. It’ll get better. Well, no, actually, it won’t. But it’ll get easier.
So, lesson no. 1: never take back a cheater. You should have never gotten back together with her after that first incident. You both showed your cards. She showed you that she is a backstabber. You showed her that it’s totally fine to cheat on you, because you’ll just take a couple weeks and come back.
Lesson no. 2: whom to believe. This one is just common sense. Who has more of a reason to lie to you? If a gf is telling you that all is well, and a bunch of friends are texting you that she is going wild – she is going wild.
Lesson no. 3: never underestimate the power of an ex who dumped her. You will always be an afterthought. In her mind, she lost control of the situation with her ex and ended up being dumped, or cheated, or whatever. That means unfinished business. He will always come first.
Lesson no. 4: any time your gf is going to a girls trip, especially places like Vegas or Miami, or just a local bar, or, in your case, prom – I can tell you with absolute certainty that she is not going to sit around with other ladies, doing knitting, or discussing a book. Whether or not you choose to trust whatever story she tells you upon return is entirely up to how naive you want to be.
Lesson no. 5: how can you tell she is lying. To answer this, I’ll have to defer to Sir David Attenborough, narrating one of his wildlife documentaries. Google him, for reference. —— Ahh, it appears that today we are in luck, and the nature is about to reveal one of its mysteries. Shh, over there, look closely – it’s a young female, in her 20s, conversing with a male. He seems untrusting, apprehensive, unsure how to tell if she is using her many powers of deception on him. All he needs to do is look closely to know exactly when she is being dishonest. Look at her mouth – see how it moves, opens and closes, and the sounds are emerging? That is a dead giveaway.
Well, that is all for today, please tune in again next week, cheers!