For context: I am young female, fourteen, and so is she.
My girlfriend (F 14) is severely mentally ill, she is getting worse by the day even with therapy and medicine to try and help her issues. Despite my efforts to understand her and offer support based on what helped me out of similar situations, she continues to evade my concerns and jokes about her problems as if they aren’t serious issues that make me uncomfortable and concerned for her health. I mentioned my feelings to her a long time ago, but I think she may have forgotten or simply doesn’t care.
Now that I’m starting to fall out of love with her or lose feelings for even being around her, I’m seriously considering ending the relationship. However, since she’s been my friend for a long time and we get along pretty okay, I’m worried that if I let her go, she might harm herself, especially after I block her for my own peace and comfort. What should I do? đ
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You canât cure mental illness through your presence and of itâs really that bad she needs a professional. Put on your own oxygen mask first.
Itâs ok to admit something is too much for you to handle. And her struggles are not your fault. Do what you can in terms of making sure people are there to support her but also know that in the long run staying with her out of pity is bad for the both of you
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talk to your parents about this as well so they can guide and support you. If anything have them arrange a meeting with her parents, your parents and you alone so that there can be a plan that is establish
Do you want forever with her?
youâre 14. if it feels uncomfortable and you donât like her anymore then itâs okay to break up with her. if you are worried about her suicidal thoughts/behavior, tell an adult or your schoolâs counselor
Trust your gut. Take care of yourself.
Yes, please consult with a trusted adult. You are not expected to solve a problem of this magnitude. I am sending love to both of you.