My girlfriend is cheating on me with one of my friends. I found out when she forgot her phone in the washroom and a text message came from my friend, asking if she was coming for the trip. After reading it, I realized she lied about wanting to spend time with her family because her sister had graduated and was back home. After this, I started stalking my girlfriend and my friend and found out they’re actually hooking up. I haven’t confronted her yet because I feel totally obsessed with her. She never hesitates when it comes to sex or romance—everything seems normal on the surface. Can you guys advise me on what I should do?
My girlfriend is cheating on me
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You should break up with your cheating girlfriend
Lying in a relationship is a deal-breaker for most people.
If that is a dealbreaker for you, and if you feel disrespected, demeaned and mistreated, then it seems to me that breaking up with her would be a sensible thing to do.
The fact that she is cheating on the one hand, and with your she “never hesitates when it comes to sex or romance” and that “everything seems normal on the surface” may indicate that she has some sort of behavioral or psychological disorder, if what you describe is accurate.
There’s really no point in anyone giving you advice.
You’re not going to listen to all the good advice you’re going to receive.
u/KnoxWelles You cant leave so i guess look into an open relationship (undefined), hotwife/stag dynamics or cuckold dynamics. When she comes back just say that you know what shes been up to and its time to redefine what this relationship means to the both of you.0
Get everything squared away with where you’re going to live from here before you do anything. If it’s her place or a shared place find somewhere to go, if it’s your place, put her out. Don’t stand for this disrespect. Be done with her.
Have a conversation
Would you end the relationship if enough people in this thread suggested it?
Don’t say anything, get them both over some night and try to start a 3sum, use her first then toss her to the trash lol or keep it going
Dude – get some self respect.
Focus on yourself big dawg
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the most obvious answer is break up because she’s cheating on you. but how you’re describing how you feel doesn’t seem like you’re hurt by it much, if at all..and yk what man some people are, for some reason on gods green earth, okay with it.
Obviously don’t try and convince yourself that you’re okay with it, but if you do come to that conclusion. Let her know that you know, you’re honestly more upset about the lying and hiding things and talk about what yall wanna do i guess?
and i should add, ur friend is not your friend…
Breaking up is better than continuing to stalk them.
So sorry. Similar situation. The hardest part is coping with how they did you wrong, but now you’ve gotta lose the amazing sex anytime part.
existing sucks. Sorry for that. Move on from both of them that’s fucked. Keep your pride unlike me who sold it off to try and keep a little of my old life.
Are you cool with being the fuck buddy, bc that’s how she sees you. Either way you should confront her. Whether to end things or to set a new dynamic of fwb, or whatever. Just dont pretend its not happening.
Just move on dude. You’re putting her on a pedestal and that leads to inflated ego for her. No woman is ever worth that.
Thank the 304 for outing your ‘friend’ and dump them both.
Time for a new one.
It rarely gets better.
She has shown you what you mean to her.
She already doesn’t respect you. Likely because you don’t respect yourself either and it shows. Dump her and you should flat out ask her what her sisters relationship status is because you like banging recent graduates. Give her some idea that you are not the total loser you are.
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Bad advice: tell her you’re interested in a threesome and you’ll meet her at your friend’s house, then just dump all her stuff at his front door.
Better advice: get your crypto back by whatever means necessary, then dumpsville.
She’s for the streets have some self respect and move on.
Unless you’re fine with being cheated on, you only have one clear option here. Break up: she doesn’t care about you at all.
If you were married to her for 10 years with kids then there might be some reason to maybe confront her and take it to therapy and work through it and soldier on.
But if this is just a girlfriend, especially if you havent been together for more than a few years, just dump her. She cheated on you and actively lied to you, have some dignity about that. It wasn’t even lies of ommission it was straight lies as far as I can tell. There is nothing to save there, you are just finding out that she doesn’t respect you.
Cuck story
Leave her. Become obsessed with a woman who actually deserves you and isn’t a liar and a cheater. Move your crypto first, obviously. But make your moves quietly, and then leave. She is not worth your time or attention or energy.
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Are you willing to be a cuck for some fucks that he gives you?
Oxytocin from sex made you more attached to her. You had sex prematurely.
Move on
Yah man. I gotta agree with the overall vibe in here. You can’t stay with a woman who will cheat on you. You have to know that you’re worth more than that. Even if you did stay, which you shouldn’t, you might think things feel normal on the surface, but she’s looking out for the next best thing, and as soon as she thinks she’s found it, she’ll be gone. There are lots of women out there that don’t cheat. You can find one. Sorry this happened. It’s gotta hurt, but it won’t forever.
So dump her and go fuck some pretty thing you know she’d be jealous of.
Breakup and never meet her again
Dump your cheating girlfriend and find someone who actually cares about you.
She’s not your girlfriend and he’s not your friend. Jettison both
Break up with her. From my experience cheaters are always gonna cheat. You can try forgive them but just know the relationship won’t be the same.
Get out. Or bang 20 chick’s.
You get that crypto before she goes on her trip then ghost her cheating ass
That’s gross. I couldn’t imagine being that dude. Playing with a pussy his buddy smashed. That’s so gross.
Drain the scumbag and then block her
If she is cheating, then she is not your girlfriend
Break up or go up to her and confront her. Trust me when I say this, do not stay with her
You misspelled “ex-girlfriend” in your title.
No SIMPIN! Dump her immediately!
If you try to work things out, she won’t respect you and look at you as a loser, probably still have that same guy clap her cheeks while you stress out 😁
Trash friend and she’s for the streets. There are 8 Billion other people on this earth, don’t bother with these 2 anymore dude Or at least that’s what I’d do.
Best way to get over her is go to Thailand
Break up with a girlfriend and move on and cut the so-called friend out of your life. Let them have each other.
You deserve better, and as I said, you do not want either of these people in your life if they are able to betray you like this, he was never your friend to begin with if we could cross a boundary like this The other thing I strongly suggest is you get some kind of therapy to help you deal with the situation and learn you are a better person and that you have value and you do not need this these poisonous people in your life
Move on and cut them out of your life but before you do, I would expose them in front of everybody, friends family if possible to let them know what these two are capable of what POS as they are
Ghost.
Friends are no longer friends when you are in a relationship ?when you get in a relationship your only friend should be your partner. As long as you have friends or other people outside of your relationship just know that your relationship is not safe anymore
If she cheats she belongs to the streets.
Break up with her, cheating is the worst thing you can do to a man.
Throw her a curve ball out of nowhere and ask her for a threesome with her and your friend.
See what she says.
Don’t cheat on her back, just tell her you know and leave her.
Get some self respect…leave her.
This is men worse nightware, enough for you to become a villian in the future. Don’t do it to your other future girl friend though, they don’t deserve it, however, I wouldn’t say the same for your current girlfriend though. Instead of telling you to break up with her, how about:
No guy should feel this feeling…
First off, break up with her. If you have any self respect this is the first step. Next, never talk to this so called friend again.
If you really want to be petty, start seeing another girl casually immediately. A month from now post on your story “Happy 6 month anniversary!”
It’s over. But before you end it, practice asserting yourself with her for a few weeks. Make various plans with her, but make conflicting other plans by yourself or with friends, and last second tell her you have a schedule conflict, sorry about that. She asks you to do some chore, respond only with “No.” and act like the conversation is over. Zero anger or emotion about it.
Take her out to dinner sometime and barely talk. Let her do all the talking. When she asks what’s wrong, tell her you’re just thinking about work. Go shopping without her and get some nice new clothes, a new hairstyle, and start hitting the gym.
You need all of this practice for the next one. Don’t be surprised when all of it turns her on. Act like you knew it would. Then dump her cheating ass and get back on the market immediately.
Why she still your GF ?
catch a dose doing that shit bro