My girlfriend is paralyzed from the waist down. AMA

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Hi guys! Wow we did not expect our last post to blow up like it did. My girlfriend and I wanted to give people another chance to ask questions, just in case I missed them or if they didn’t see the last post.

My girlfriend was involved in a car accident when she was 17, and suffers from Paraplegia due to the impact on her tailbone and back. We have been together four years, and we met when we were both 19 in college.

Please feel free to ask me, or both of us any questions!

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  1. AwardIll4648 Avatar

    sorry if its inappropriate but can yall like have sex? can she orgasm?

  2. Temporary-Pop6268 Avatar

    She a fan of cool ranch doritos?

  3. UnknownBearProd Avatar

    Favorite pajamas and favorite hobbies? For the both of y’all.

  4. Anxiety_Shark Avatar

    Have you ever dealt with any harassment or hate from strangers (or even friends) about your relationship?

  5. Apprehensive-Rock834 Avatar

    How did you two meet? I mean like the story of it.

  6. HectorBananaBread Avatar

    Should’ve taken it down a notch. Impressive work tho.

  7. Neverevercandy Avatar

    Is she able to complete lots of day-to-day tasks independently? Are there certain things she has to rely on you for?

    Congrats on 4 years together also!! 🙂

  8. hervejl Avatar

    Would you say she developed qualities/abilities she would have not without having this accident? Do you see any positive outcomes from it?

  9. PlagueOBees Avatar

    What’s your favorite thing about her and her favorite thing about you?

  10. Sea_Of_Kitties Avatar

    I read the title of your last post but didn’t have time to read any of it. But most questions on mobility, you speak like this was a few years ago, or at least she had had time to get a grasp on how to live life with this new challenge. Does she need help with the day or day besides the height restrictions or is she able to get herself up and into everything? How was the learning process and was there anything she wished she knew earlier in her journey that would’ve really helped?

    I’m sorry if this sounds really bad, I’m just new to the medical field and work in a critical care unit so it’s common I see people right after these debilitating accidents. I hope when I get to finally send someone home after weeks or sometimes months of taking care of them, that they have an easy transitioning period knowing I get all the fancy equipment to help me and they’ll usually have a lot less.

  11. PM_ME_UR_RECIPEZ Avatar
    1. What kind of light hearted pranks do you play on her that focuses on her paralysis?

    2. Does she ever prank strangers using her paralysis?

  12. notsopeacefulpanda Avatar

    How often do you guys travel? And if you do, to where?

    Is the place you live pretty accessible or no?

  13. well_fuckthis Avatar

    Disabled guy here. Asking bc I know my bf would just melt and give me a million compliments if I asked him. Is it hard? Are there moments you wish things were different? Generally speaking, are you happy? I guess part of me is curious what it’s like for the able-bodied person in the relationship (assuming you’re able-bodied, that is)

  14. VeteranAI Avatar

    Ok I’ll ask some blunt questions I have thought on some late nights:

    1. Are you limited to just missionary position during sex

    2. If she has muscle atrophy in her legs do you need to worry about them being more fragile

    3. Does she accidentally hurt her legs by not feeling them.

    4. Do you often in airplanes? when she flies do you carry her to her seat as the walk way I feel is to narrow for wheel chairs

    5. Lastly does she find it easier to gain weight or is she just naturally less hungry now

    Thanks

  15. That-Ad2445 Avatar

    Is there no chance of her ever regaining mobility in her lower half again ,?

  16. Tank1929 Avatar

    What kind of jobs do you 2 have?

  17. Raspberries-Are-Evil Avatar

    You ever abuse her handicap parking plates when you have her car alone?

  18. Hot-Dot-2037 Avatar

    Since her injury is somewhat recent, do you spend a lot of mental efforts discussing the accident or working through that with her? You mention the paraplegia not taking much physical effort/time. I guess I would think that a major trauma would be difficult to handle at a young age. I guess I’m wondering how challenging that is to navigate mentally/socially for her and for you.

  19. Phraoz007 Avatar

    How great of a perk is it to get wheelchair access everywhere?

  20. solve_et_coagula13 Avatar

    Do you get free tickets to stuff as a ‘carer’?

  21. SadSwagPapi20 Avatar

    What would be your dream vacation together?

  22. useruser0005 Avatar

    is there ever a time you wish she wasn’t paralysed? not for yourself but for her, or have you both excepted it?

  23. Salt-Cheesecake2339 Avatar

    Respect brother first round on me

  24. ExcellentWash4889 Avatar

    Ask her, “Is a hot dog a sandwich”? and “If you were a hot dog, would you eat yourself?”

  25. No_Equivalent_7866 Avatar

    What activities or hobbies do you enjoy doing together?