My girlfriend kinda ghosted me, what should I do?

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So in short, today right now on Saturday the 26th, I traveled to a different city (Mumbai) to meet my ‘girlfriend’ after a month of long distance, she obviously knows I was coming etc.

Apparently she went out drinking last night and came home late VERY DRUNK (the guard in her apt told me after I rang the doorbell for 30mins straight).

I came to a coffee shop nearby where I am currently typing this

What should I do now? I feel very disrespected.

The fact that I came to meet her all the way here just for one day and now she’s doing this. (I landed at 6.30, reached her house at 7.15, currently is 10 am)

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  2. fobosqual Avatar

    Hey sorry this is happening to you I know it can be frustrating I would try to text her something like

    “Hey, I’ve noticed we haven’t talked in a bit. I’m not sure what’s going on, but I’m here if you want to talk.”

    And see what her response is

  3. Critical-Housing-630 Avatar

    Find a new girlfriend

  4. RoastMeGently Avatar

    Did she mention my boy’s best friend or just friend recently?

  5. krizieA4 Avatar

    Honestly your best bet is to make the best of ur time and do something fun on ur own. She clearly didn’t concider you or ur time when she got drunk so just go have fun.

  6. CleanHunt7567 Avatar

    Sounds like she couldn’t care if you were there or not mate, leave her a message saying she can come and see you if she wants, balls in her court then.

    If you don’t hear from her just write it off to experience mate.

    By long distance do you mean you had never met face to face ?

    Now this is just my opinion, but thinking of someone you’ve never met as your ‘girlfriend’ is a bit of a stretch.

  7. cbarbour1122 Avatar

    What should you do…? Fuck her best friend. 😉

  8. wattscup Avatar

    Stay until you make sure she is safe and they’re hasnt been an incident behind why she is unwell amd then return home knowing you’ve dosged a bullet. Respect.

  9. CosmeticBrainSurgery Avatar

    If I was in Mumbai, I’d go to a good restaurant. If that doesn’t mean a lot to you, then as you eat, remember that in most parts of the world, good Indian food is hard to find.

  10. PoliteCanadian2 Avatar

    Long distance isn’t real unless you started out in person.

  11. Vegetable-Spinach747 Avatar

    She not your GF bro. Chill

  12. crustysculpture1 Avatar

    This isn’t ghosting. She’s likely still passed out.

    But if she decides to act like that, knowing that you’re making a trip to see her, then her priorities aren’t right.

    Either she sets them straight or you walk.

  13. Historical-Pen-7484 Avatar

    Mumbai is a pretty cool city. Go explore on tour own, and drop this girl.

  14. bbDoll_ Avatar

    Move on w your life. If she wants you, she will travel and wait and stress- just like you have. Not everything needs an ‘end’ her disrespect speaks more truth than anything her mouth can say. Just leave, see what happens next.

  15. josiahpapaya Avatar

    someone did this to me once, when I was very young. I took a bus 18 hours to see a guy, and when I got there he was a huge asshple, was kind of distant, and took me to a party. We only spoke for like, 15 minutes at the party before he told me he was going out to grab a bottle of wine and he’d be right back. He didn’t come back.

    After like 3-4 hours of being at this party with complete strangers (I was also 18), the host made up a bed for me and told me I should go to bed. I asked if Jeff was coming back, and him and the other people at the party all looked at each other weirdly and didn’t say anything. Then one of them told me that I should forget about Jeff.

    I found out from someone that Jeff was actually already in a relationship, and thought his partner was out of town when he agreed for me to come spend the weekend with him. Turns out I think his partner figured out what was going on and cancelled their trip to keep an eye on Jeff. Jeff told his partner we were just old friends (which was partially true) and that he was just hosting me for the weekend to go party. When we all got to the same party (mind you, these people were 10 years older than me) Jeff very quickly realized he was in deep and he and his partner decided to just go to a nightclub and leave me.

    Jeff came to get me at 9am from
    This stranger’s house. He didn’t say anything, just drove me to his place to hand me a bag and tell me it was nice to see me but I couldn’t stay and I had to leave now.

    I was devastated. I’d been “dating” him long distance for a few months. I’d met him in person a few times and he was distant. Now that I’m much older I realized that I was a side piece.

    Taking that 18 hour bus back was excruciating. Took me a long time to get over that.

    Anyway, shes not your girlfriend. Block and move on. She likely got cold feet or didn’t think you were serious about coming, and she was too much of a coward to tell you.

  16. Smaiblue Avatar

    Dude, you’re on holiday, in Mumbai. Stop wasting your time having hangups over someone you’ve dated for a month & have some adventures.

  17. The_GeneralsPin Avatar

    You got pig-butchered.

    Hook up with her best friend for shits n giggles.

  18. Conscious-Farmer9424 Avatar

    She isn’t your girlfriend, never let a woman disrespect you like that, get up and leave, cut her out of your immediately. Block her on your phone and social media….

  19. onemansquest Avatar

    Have you ever video called. Maybe she’s a catfish

  20. DeHarigeTuinkabouter Avatar

    If she is asleep she is not ghosting you. Her not taking into account that you would be coming is very rude though unless you guys discussed it beforehand.

  21. FarmhandMe Avatar

    Wait it out, be a gentleman. Girls need to have fun as well, but if she handles it with out apology when she wakes up and is sober, then find a new gf.

  22. YZeus Avatar

    This is 1 month in, if you somehow trust her enough that you can justify this as a mistake after 1 month of long distance communications and can give her the benefit of the doubt, take her out for a coffee and express your concerns while gauging her reactions. Don’t ignore the potential red flags and if she does not express any understanding of why what she did was not reasonable then it may be best to move on.

  23. Holden-Makok Avatar

    Just go home bro there’s no relationship there, at least not with you

  24. warrenjr527 Avatar

    Obviously you traveling to see her didn’t mean near as much to her as it did you. Since you spent the time and money enjoy your time there without her. I would make no further attempt to contact her. Just move on and find someone else.. It’s a good thing you discovered what she is like .before investing any more time.