Recently my girlfriend and I got into an argument due to planning a day of activities together and there was a simple miscommunication on her end when she wasn’t being specific enough. This miscommunication led to me being confused and she started to get irritated and change her tone (she has a short fuse). After sometime of me simply telling her to stop changing her tone and to talk civilly, the situation kept escalating. She eventually did admit to the miscommunication on her end which caused all of it, but I was still getting the blame for not understanding her and that I should’ve been smart enough to piece the gap together myself.
This start since last night before she ended the call due to frustration and ignored me, till now where this morning we tried talking about it again (she always says she needs time and space to think so we can resolve it) yet she’s still blaming me and ended our FaceTime and is ignoring me out of frustration again.
I admitted I’m wrong and everything (which I know isn’t entirely my fault) but I can’t keep letting things like this slide where she thinks she didn’t do anything wrong and that I’m the one that caused all of it.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?
TL;DR I’m tired of taking all the blame when it’s not my fault
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Some people be like that, if they don’t recognize it themselves and and don’t want to change its going to be very difficult. My advice would be to try and talk to her about it when you aren’t in a fight and see if you can come up with a process or whatever you want to call it so when you guys disagree you can both agree to follow some rules to avoid the blaming and all that.
The key is if you talk to her about it don’t attack her or say something like “how do we get through fights or miscommunications better without you blaming me for everything” and just keep it objective like “can we come up with a method when we get into a tiff to get on the same page quicker? What can I do better”. Let her come to the table with suggestions and frame it in that mindset.