This is bizarre even for me to type. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 9 years. We’ve had ups and downs, and recently we broke up for a while. A few weeks ago, she called me out of the blue, and we started reconnecting. Things felt like they were turning around. She told me how anxious she was to see me, especially this week — it’s her birthday, and I planned to drive 8 hours to her city just to be with her and celebrate.
As I was literally driving there, I texted her that I was on my way.
That’s when everything fell apart.
She replied saying she had just found a contract job and asked if we could meet a month later. That was already strange, so I kept asking questions. Eventually, she admitted she signed up for a one-month contract to work in a brothel.
Yes. A brothel.
I’m completely dumbfounded. She said she’s in serious debt, and this was the only way she could think of to get out of it fast. I’ve always helped her financially whenever I could, and I would’ve continued doing so — I just wish she told me before making this decision.
Now she’s expressing regret after hearing my reaction, saying she’s having second thoughts. But she’s scared because she signed a contract and isn’t sure how to get out. I told her that no job is worth your dignity, and there’s no such thing as being legally forced to continue with this kind of work if she wants out.
But here’s the kicker — the only way I could even see her now is if I pay the brothel thousands of dollars. I feel sick. My entire plan, my emotional investment — shattered.
I love her. I don’t want to abandon her, but I also don’t know what to make of this. I don’t want her to go through with it, but I also feel hurt, angry, betrayed, and incredibly sad. I don’t even know if it’s fair for me to be all those things.
What would you do in this situation? How do I support someone I love while trying to make sense of this incredibly painful and bizarre moment?
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I’m supposed to give the benefit of the doubt that this is real, so I’ll try…
What you’re telling us is that your ex-girlfriend wants to be a prostitute and you are asking how you should support her? C’mon, bro…
You’re right to feel hurt. If she’s truly honest and willing to change, talk but protect yourself. Trust has to be rebuilt with actions, not just regret.
If true, this is absolutely insane. I would just cut her off because this is not a situation you want to be even close to involved in, especially if prostitution or things of that sort are illegal where you reside.
Why would somebody of sane mind do this to someone they supposedly love? We spoke last night about my trip over today. Now, as I am half way there, she tells me this. I can’t even make sense of this.
I feel like vomiting.
Move her stuff out to the street, and go get checked at the dr.
You may have 72 hours to get out of the contract. Check with Nevada’s laws on the subject.
Honestly… if she needed help, she couldve asked. Nine years is long enough to know you’d show up for her. She made this choice solo
At this point why did she not consider OnlyFans before this? At least she wouldn’t be subjected to sexual contact with strangers. I hope both of you realize that if she’s legally obligated to fulfill her time with no other way out, she’ll have to get STD tests periodically for life. Condoms are not 100% effective. Neither are Dental Dams.
Okay chat gpt
> But here’s the kicker —
Classic chatgpt
>But here’s the kicker — the only way I could even see her now is if I pay the brothel thousands of dollars.
What are you even talking about? Has the brothel.kidnapped her and the only way you can see her is if you pay them ransom money?
This post is too ridiculous and contains too many em dashes. I refuse to believe this wasn’t written by AI.
After doing some research, your girlfriend is what is considered an “independent contractor”, and independent contractors in Nevada can resign. Unlike employees, who can typically resign without cause, independent contractors have their resignation terms outlined in their contract. The contract should specify the process for ending the working relationship, including any notice periods required.
Either read her contract for her, or tell her to find out what the terms for resignation are.
The only way you can see her is if you pay thousands of dollars? I’m calling bullshit.
Assuming this is real— I’m unclear about why she thinks she can’t back out of this contract, and also why the “only way [you] can see her now is” to pay thousands of dollars.
There’s no contract like that in the US. Now, she might not want to back out because they won’t re-schedule her, but that’s a different conversation.
the only way I could even see her now is if I pay the brothel thousands of dollars.
She’s not your girlfriend, bro.
There’s this guy named Robert McCall ….
If prostitution is illegal in her state then so is the contract.
How much debt is she in and why?
She’s not your gf and the money request is probably a scam. Cut off all contact and find someone in your local area.
What brothel?
First, are brothels legal where she lives? If not, contact police immediately about this situation.
If it is legal, she probably is obligated under a contract but there might be a legal way out of it and you should contact a lawyer where she lives to find out. I’m sure there is a way out of the contract.
If she’s not 100 percent wanting to do this, she really needs to get out of it. You’d have to really be ok with what men who go to these places are willing to do to you in order to be ok at the end of that contract. She is going to be an object – not a person – to a lot of strangers. There are other ways to get out of debt.
Looking into bankruptcy might be a better idea. I did that (bankruptcy) almost two decades ago and it set my life on a better path I never would have been able to achieve without it.
“You see, pimpin’ is big business. And it’s been going on since the beginning of time and it’s gonna continue straight ahead… till somebody up there turns out the lights on this small planet.” -Goldie
Sorry bro that’s rough
I doubt any court is going to force her to be a prostitute because of a contract. If you want to get her out of it, consult a lawyer. Personally, this would be a huge red flag and a deal breaker for me.
Even if she is on the contract she can just refuse to sleep with anyone for a month, then it probably needs to be resigned. Since they don’t know if she’s sleeping with anyone or not, the contract can’t be enforced, only works probably if your living at the premises.
But regarding the hooker contract. There are several possibilities, she just could be a naive idiot and not know what she’s getting into. And viewing sex as a natural thing is more common in this generation if you’re not religious. Also women can convince themselves that how many guys they sleep with doesn’t matter. So it’s possible she’s just a naive idiot you’ll need supporting evidence for that judgement.
The other possibility is that as a form of revenge after breakup, she decided to go on her hoe phase only in this case make some money too, so she signed up to a brothel. This is more likely, because women instinctively know at some level that men don’t like their woman to sleep with alot of guys. So she knew she was doing something pretty messed up.
Also I’d be wary of brothels because in illegal brothels, breaking down the hookers spirit and making her resigned to always be a hooker (at least until she’s too old) is a technique they use, so they probably unofficially try to do the same thing in legal brothels. So a one month brothel contract could easily turn into years.
Looool. Let that ho go. If your brain instantly goes to becoming a prostitute, a stripper, or starting an OF when you’re broke you aren’t worth dating(in my eyes). There’s a million business ideas out there and selling your body is the go to?
She’s for the streeeeeeets.
She’s manipulating you bro
If this is real I’m assuming you’re one of me.
Perfection, the only way to describe the person is a categorical absolute direct equivalent of god walking on earth. I had a love interest as well, who I wanted to give my whole life for. Pure absolute utter desperation. Speaking from experience, it doesn’t end well.
It took a suicide attempt and job loss and hospital visit (after the attempt) to snap into reality. The best I can wish is for you to wake up and step into reality— without sustaining physical or financial harm.
As someone who was personally in a bad situation, I speak from experience this is a bad situation. Seriously please as a human see a therapist or somehow hypnosis yourself to wake up. Only pain is ahead unfortunately if you attempt to remedy this yourself.
Best case scenario I’m wrong and things work out and you’re together adaptively, but the odds aren’t high.
Is OP saying he has to pay the brothel some type of ransom to get her out of the contract or is he saying he has to pay them to meet up and bang his gf at the brothel if he wants to see her?
If he is saying the ransom thing that shit is only in movies and I call BS. If it’s a Nevada brothel they couldn’t stop her from walking out the door and leaving.
She’s in Nevada, not being trafficked by the Russian mob in iglooahstan. She’s for the streets man, move on and move fast.
Stupid attachment to an idiot. After finally separating, grieving and finding someone who’s not an idiot, you will be better off. Start the grieving now.
So it will cost you 1000’s to visit her in the room. I never imagined that they charge that much, good business model. She could do that online thing, my fans to make money if she’s that hard up. Glad I raised my daughter right
Is this a real question? Were you dropped on your head as a baby? Get the fuck out of here.
Well she said to delay your trip for 30 days but if you aren’t going to dump her I suggest you wait 60 days to give her vagina time to recover
You must be colorblind because this is the reddest flag to ever come outta the red flag factory
Did you drop acid and watch True Romance on a loop? This can’t be real unless you’re HAF
Send your cape to the dry cleaner, take a month off and save the next hoe that comes along, this one is too far gone
Mate. Just move on. They will be drug up and drug dependent. She’s finished, never to leave till she over doses. Or no one want to pay for her. Then out on the streets.
The amount she get is crap, this is how they keep them long and resign.
Good luck mate
Move on. There is someone out there for ya.
“I told her no job is worth your dignity… blah, blah.”
Do you tell that to other laborers when you see them? Sex work IS work. If she were to become a bus driver/customer service agent/janitor/waiter or similar, would you be lecturing her about your version of dignity?
If she were your actual girlfriend and not just a long distance crush, don’t you think she would have discussed this with you before hand? If she is actually your girlfriend and not just a long term, long distance obsession, it would be expected to be hurt by a decision such as this. The bitter pull to swallow is that gf or not, it’s her decision. Your decision is to decide if you want to work through the insecurity it causes you and maintain/further your relationship. Try not to let the pseudo-moralistic need to control & approve of other’s cloud your thinking.
& btw, LEGAL brothel contracts do NOT demand performance, they’re typically health maintenance (sti), licensing, space, & marketing agreements.
Good luck.
Bro 😳
eh, have you considered that this could be a well researched (or chatbot supported) story to convince you not to show up?
Is she kidnapped? If not, why would you pay to see her? Your statements are contradictory. If she is in a safe place, you should ran away from this relationship. Don’t try to pay her debt off – at this point, are you even sure she is not taking advantage of your emotions?