I (22M) found out she overdosed and died after not hearing from her all day. I talked to her mom, but it still doesn’t feel real. We just spoke that afternoon. She was only 20 and had so much ahead of her.
I’m broken and trying to lean on friends, but it’s hard. She took something with a friend I was worried about but didn’t want to push. I keep thinking about what I could’ve done differently.
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I’m really sorry for your loss. It’s not your fault. Take care of yourself and lean on those around you you’re not alone.
Wow, really sorry to hear that , we’re you aware she was a drug user before that ? Did her friend also pass away ?
Seek professional help
I’m very sorry for your loss, wish y’all al the best and may God bless her soul
And trust me, it will feel real after some time, maybe weeks, moths later but it will pass.
Again, stay strong
There isn’t anything you could have done. If a person is intent on killing themselves, often they hide it unless they’ve confided in someone who tells them to seek help. If you didn’t know, there’s nothing you could have done. Talk to people, get help
It’s so painful to go through grieving the death of anyone we love. But torture when we ask what we could’ve done differently. Such a shock. Take it easy on yourself and try not to isolate. Lean on those you love for support and stay safe
Sorry to hear. Imagine if she was your wife of many years and left kids behind. Take time to morn. God bless you
I hope for your soul you weren’t the one who introduced her to 💉
Really sorry to hear that! please remember it’s not your fault, drug abuse is a serious issue and if she was dealing with so much pain to overdose, there’s nothing you could’ve done to prevent it! Take your time to grieve, no matter how that looks like, cry, be angry, be sad, and just take it day by day!
Im so sorry for your loss. You must be in shock now. Try to be around people who you know love you to give you support during this tough time.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I understand that you must be reeling right now. Right now, and for the foreseeable future, you are going to be experiencing shock. Some things are going to numb down, and others are going to ramp up. Your brain doesn’t distinguish a difference for physical or emotional pain, so it’s important that you understand your body is physically protecting you. Well, trying to, to be fair. Overwhelm is going to become familiar. Ask for help. Take some time. Lean on friends.
http://www.mygrief.ca is an amazing resource. It’s free by the Canadian Virtual Hospice. It’s a good resource to have if or when you may need it.
It’s okay to feel lost. You did your best. Take it one day at a time and lean on those who care about you. You’re not alone.
I’ve lost 2 friends to overdoses. Heroine.
You have my deepest condolences. Reach out privately if need be. I’m here. 🫡
Plant a tree in dedication to her and care for it
Logging off of Reddit so you can mourn the death of your girlfriend might be a good place to start
Damn… that is super rough. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don’t really… just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss and to keep your head up, things will get better eventually!
Hindsight is always 20/20 and when someone close passes to something that we feel could have been prevented we torture ourselves thinking about what we could have done differently. The fact is you weren’t in control of that situation, we can’t control what others do only what we ourselves do, and the same thing could have happened even if you had have pushed her. Pushing her might have also pushed her further away. Please talk to someone, and keep talking until you’ve processed some of it., please try not to blame yourself.
Dude, I’m so sorry. That kind of loss hits different, especially when it’s sudden like that. You clearly cared a lot and it’s normal to spiral with all the “what ifs” but it’s not on you. Grief’s messy and unfair. Just try to take it one hour at a time, and don’t be afraid to lean on people even if it feels weird.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. This isn’t on you. I understand why you would want to go back and change what happened, but try to stop yourself from thinking about the what iffs. Take time to heal.
This isn’t your fault. Grief is heavy be kind to yourself and lean on others when you can. You’re not alone.
I’m sorry OP
Bro ehh 😢 sad af 🥲imagine
One of the best things you can do is be around people when something like this happens we tend to not think of ourselves and it can be unhealthy being around someone can help you so you still eat, shower, and sleep properly and consider speaking to professionals in your area I can’t do much and I’m not sure how dms work but yeah
My blessings with you and her, may she rest in peace🙏
Go to her funeral and grieve
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you going through something like this at such a young age loosing a person so young in a tragic way. Do not dwell on the could ofs, that’s not a road to ever travel in this kind of situation. You may not be religious but the Bible has comforted me. Someone shared Rev 21:3,4 with me, it says there’s a hope where one day we won’t have death and tears. The best thing is to reach out, find a healthy outlet and take it day by day making good choices for yourself.
I’m so sorry about your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss, but she was an adult and if addicted there was nothing you could have done. Get into grief counseling with a licensed therapist because you’re carrying unnecessary guilt in addition to your own grief.
i’m so sorry for ur loss…
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Please be kind to yourself. There are no what if’s so don’t spiral with those thoughts. Please go easy on yourself and find healthy ways to cope. Grief is the heaviest weight to carry. You need an outlet. Don’t be afraid to feel it or talk about it.
I would absolutely seek grief counselling. This happened to a friend of mine about 8 years ago, he never got help and found unhealthy ways to cope. I saw him recently and life has been hard for him. I wish he’d gotten the help he needed.
Message me if you need someone to talk to.
Bro don’t blame yourself for any of this… The worst thing you can do right now and I know it’s easier said than done is to start going thru the who what when where why and what ifs, none of that matters now, none of the answers you will get will ever be the right one so don’t even torment yourself with that shit. Honor her and be there for support for her family. That would make her happy. If she’s up there looking down you want to let her know youre a real one and she will always watch over you, not protect you from bad choices or bad thoughts but to help you find your way back to her where you can continue where you left off. Death is one of those things in life that are so terrible but so important at the same time. Death makes you appreciate the ones you still have here. Time will heal all wounds , stay strong I hope everything works out for you in the future. Best of luck!