Tonight my girlfriend straight-up attacked me.
It started after dinner at her parents’ place, her dad and I were watching old family videos and lightly joked about how her and her sisters were dressed, and about her great-grandpa’s nose (her dad made that joke, not me). I laughed. That’s it.
On the drive home, she suddenly snaps, turns off the music, and starts going off on me, says my relationship with my family is “creepy” because I get along with my parents and sister. Then back at home, I’m sitting on the couch reading my Kindle, she starts yelling again. I stay quiet to not escalate things. That was apparently the wrong move.
Next thing I know, she hits me, hard. Three punches to the face out of nowhere. I stand up, shocked, and she slaps me again, then blocks the door and screams at me to get away from her, while literally standing between me and the exit.
I managed to grab my phone and ran out of the house in boxers, bleeding from the lip. I’m now in my car trying to make sense of what just happened.
What the hell am I supposed to do? This feels insane.
Have others been in a situation like this? What would you do?
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Press charges and cut her off, full stop. You did nothing wrong and she physically assaulted you, don’t give her another chance to do worse.
Get out and stay out. She crossed a line that should never be crossed and no apology or excuse can undo violence; your safety and self-respect come first, always.
You gotta run hard and fast bro
Wtf? What do you do? You gtf away from that psycho and call her parents tell them and make sure she gets to a shrink
And hopefully put on some kinda meds! Clearly she’s 🦇 💩 🤦🏻♀️
Yeah dude, that’s physical abuse. Women can do it to men too.
I’d cut your losses and move on. Only if she reaches out, apologizes profusely and swears to attend therapy would I maaaaybe reconsider.
Nothing justifies physical violence towards one’s partner.
Go somewhere safe, maybe a friend’s or a parent. Contact the authorities and get it on record what happened to you. Be clear and consistent with your information, don’t be afraid to reach out to those who love you for support. This can become a very bad situation if she starts making up stories.
Sounds like some serious trauma. If you’re a man who’s willing to try very hard and put up with a lot and you sincerely care about her, there’s a lot of options. If you’re not, well, there’s always leaving her.
This is red flag
The only thing you should do is to call the police. If she’s unhinged enough to attack you, be careful she doesn’t get to the cops first.
Definitely press charges.
Call the cops and report it now. If she did that to you, what’s to stop her from doing it to herself and claiming you did it to her and she defended herself. Who will the courts believe?
It is insane.
My rule is you never give anyone a second chance to hit you. Anyone who is in this position should bail.
I promise you, it’s only a matter of time till she comes at you again.
Don’t you (or anyone) allow this to happen again. Imagine a lifetime with this asshole?
Step out the back, Jack.
This is a good thing, now you know.
She assaulted you for no reason. The cops would arrest her for domestic violence and she would find herself in lock up until Monday. That might be your only option. At least you could go back inside your place and get a weekend of peace. Then you would have to call her family and tell them what happened. I know you can’t let her slide on this. What she did is wrong in so many ways. You might have to look for another place to live. She sounds mental and might need to be hospitalized for it.
PLEASE keep us updated about what’s happening? Definitely concerned for you man.
This has unfortunately turned into an abusive relationship. She cannot be trusted with anything anymore. She is an abuser and needs to be treated accordingly for your safety and the safety of your family.
I would tell your family exactly what happened.
I very strongly suggest breaking up over a call or text, telling her not to contact you, and then blocking her on your phone and all social media.
I very strongly suggest keeping your house door locked and your car doors locked.
If she arrives, do not answer the door and tell your family not to answer the door. If she threatens to destroy property or hurt any living beings, call police immediately.
Write down anytime she texts or calls from a different number and if she visits your house. If she tries to contact you three times in any way after you tell her not to, that’s harassment and you can file a no-contact order aka harassment prevention order. You can also file a no-tresspassing order so she’s not legally allowed to enter your property.
You may also qualify for a restraining order since she overtly physically abused you.
Your safety is important. Abuse can create denial, so it’s important not to make any excuses for her. She is an abuser and needs to be treated accordingly. I know it sucks. But you got this.
Press charges immediately. Go to an A&E for medical attention and to document your injuries. It’s your word against hers and nobody believes the man unless he has receipts. File the report. Get a case number. Do not be alone with her EVER. If she accuses you of anything it will destroy your life.
Call the cops take pictures. She assaulted you. Break up!!!
She’s shown you her true colors, and that’s domestic violence…. time to exit that relationship while also letting her live with the consequences of criminally attacking someone.
Document everything for evidence because unfortunately it’s harder for a male to press charges on being abused
Call the police this is domestic abuse, File charges against her for an assault, inform her parents that you were breaking up with her because of her actions. You did nothing wrong and it’s good that you have a good relationship with her parents. In fact extremely normal to have it. She sounds extremely insecure and jealous.
If he’s capable of doing this once it’s gonna happen again and you do not need to be with this person if the rolls reversed right now you’d be sitting in jail for it do not go back in because there was a good chance that she might do something to make it look like you instigated it. Call her parents and tell them what you were going to do after you call the police.
I took the hits to the face and neck with no response as a rational partner and dealt with it later. I moved out
Firstly get yourself somewhere safe. Maybe go to her parents and tell them what she did or your parents. You need to call the Police, she needs to know this is NOT ok. Female aggressors in DV situations think they can get away with it because no one will believe the men. It happens way more that what people think. You really need to consider leaving her as she will never change.
Plenty of advice given but my best advice is do not go back. Resist any urge to forgive, because it will happen again. I went back and it happened again. I even posted on reddit when it happened 9 years ago and was told to gtfo but I didn’t listen, I went back, and it happened again. Do not go back.
Sure, a man can take a few punches, but rest assured that that’s only the tip of the iceberg and a small sign of bigger things to come
OMG! Get out of there and call the cops! Have them help you get your stuff out of there. Then, I’d get as far away from that person as you can! Something is wrong with her, and I wouldn’t want to be a part of that if I were you!
Why you playing with trash Mr. Dumpsterdiver???
Go to cops right now, in your boxers. Tell them exactly what happened, file charges. Dump her ass and move on. No need for discussion on ANY level, with anyone. It’ll never ever get better, only worse.
She attacked you. If you delay she’ll start turning it around on you trying to get people to believe you’re the abuser. I’ve seen it happen to many times. Make a police report, press charges, and leave. Just do it dude before she tries to fuck your life over.
Head to the police station right now, and file assault charges. Let them photograph your face. Seriously, if she gets to tell “her” story first, you’re screwed. Don’t talk to her or her parents, just go. And make sure you are NEVER alone with her again: if you need to retrieve your stuff, you need a police escort.
Bro, call the cops. First and fast. If she’s that enraged and unhinged, she’s unhinged enough to punch herself and call them on you.
You’re a victim. Call the police; she has only herself to blame.
Call the cops!!! They come out she accuses you of violence! Guess who goes to jail. Men go to jail most of the time
Ask me how i know
She doesn’t get to do that to you and think that it’s ok! Leave her bc she will do it again. Sounds like her and her family really do have some demons. Don’t hang around.
Call the law NOW!
Domestic abuse. Sorry my man
Take photos of your face
I feel like I’ve seen this story before