My girlfriend purposely threesome and im kinda baffled

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My(20m) girlfriend (20f) asked me if i wanted to have a threesome all of a sudden.we had this conversation a lot and she wasn’t ok with it before,when i asked her what made her change her mind she told me she heard from a coworker(f) that it was sensual and really fun which makes it even weirder.she isn’t the the type of person to have a change of heart this easily
And im afraid it might affect our relationship poorly.

Edit:it was a april fools joke that she thought would be funny now she is mad after twisting the subject ten times.
I dont like sharing her but deep down i would like having a threesome and she got mad that I half heartedly said yes

Comments

  1. angeliciman777 Avatar

    I’m gonna level with you. She’s already been talking to, or entertaining someone other than you. And this is her attempt to present it as a choice you both made together by ‘asking’ you.

  2. Dont139 Avatar

    You do not have to have a threesome if you do not want to.

    Are you sure she is referring to the same kind of threesome? (Ffm or mmf)

    It sounds like her talks with that coworker gonway beyond what is professionally appropriate

  3. Exciting-Mall-8005 Avatar

    She is 100% already seeing someone else.

  4. KarpGrinder Avatar

    She has someone else in mind and wants approval/justification to pursue a relationship with them

    What you do with that is up to you, just know that she will not be “your” girlfriend much longer regardless of what you choose.

  5. james-HIMself Avatar

    Someone is trying to gloss over the fact they’re talking to another person by painting it as an idea you “both” had. Think of the benefits? This is super suss by them

  6. NoSoulsINC Avatar

    As others have said, she’s entertained the idea of sleeping with someone else and is presenting this as an opportunity to get permission. Maybe you’re okay with that, but once you go forward with it there is no going back and that includes if one or both of you regrets it. It will also permanently change the relationship between not only the two of you but with whomever this third person is.

    You may say “nah, she wants to do a MFF” well what’s to stop her from suggesting a MMF with a co-worker next out of “fairness”.

    My ex tried this and ended up cheating anyway when I said I wasn’t okay with it. Not saying that will happen here, but good for thought.

  7. panic_bread Avatar

    The comments on here are ridiculous. You young people want to think any woman who wants sex is suspicious. Gross. Plenty of women like threesomes and exploring group sex. It doesn’t mean she’s cheating on her guy.

  8. snakemakery Avatar

    It’s a trap!

  9. killdagrrrl Avatar

    I don’t think she’s 100% seeing someone else, I think it’s also possible that she might be rethinking your relationship. Sounds like a “brilliant” idea from a monogamous person to “spice things up” or whatever they think may save a relationship

  10. OldKentRoad29 Avatar

    Not your girl anymore. You just had your turn with her.

  11. tinyshinyzorua Avatar

    Happy April Fools lol

  12. kman420 Avatar

    You can either continue to pursue a relationship with this woman or you can pursue a threesome.

    If you start out as a monogamous couple then a threesome will probably mess up your relationship.

  13. argenman Avatar

    Word of advice: Work on your grammar and sentence structure…or use AI.
    This looks like a middle school writing assignment.