27M and 26F. We’re in a long distance relationship and I’ve made a couple of trips to see her. When I come and visit she’s adamant on me paying for everything… (dinners, travel, coffee, movies). She’s stated that splitting 50/50 is cringe and then if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together. Every trip has been $1000+ dollars by the way. I don’t know, I’m not the richest man around. Salary is like $65k. What should I do? I love her and being with her but it doesn’t seem right that she can just go about it like this. I’ve brought it up before and she’s very dismissive about it.
My girlfriend refuses to pay for anything
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You leave and find an equal partner.
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN. TELL HER GOODBYE KISS MY WELL YOU KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT SEE YOU LATER ALLIGATOR YOU’RE BETTER OFF FINDING SOMEBODY ELSE DOWN THE ROAD
trad relationships are trading financial equity for physical and emotional labor. Is she holding up her end of that equation in equal investment?
Grow and pair and walk away, she’s taking advantage of you. There’s nothing more pathetic than a guy who’s a doormat to their partner, you’re setting a foundation in the relationship where one person has more power over the other and that’s not healthy.
You need to add a new word to your vocabulary. “No.”
You are paying because you are agreeing to pay. You can’t change her, but you can change yourself.
> if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together
That’s sort of the definition of prostitution
I support prostitution, but, unless it’s what you’re looking for in a relationship, get out.
You’re paying for sex. Be honest about it. If you paid $1000 and didn’t get sex would you still be traveling to see her? Find a better GF near where you live.
Nope. If you’re not happy with this, drop her. She’s looking at someone to replace her mommy/daddy’s money.
You’re dating a prostitute.
Unfortunately there are some “women” that were raised to belief they have to be completely taken care of by a man.
As a woman myself, find an equal and understanding partner.
You shouldn’t have to pay EVERYTHING.
It’s 2025, it’s not “cringe” for a woman to pay here and there.
When my husband and I first got together, it was EQUAL. I payed bills, and he paid for everything while we were out, (dinners, drinks, etc.), but he’s also very old school and believes a woman shouldn’t pay for material things. 🙄
So if you love her, and you want to support that habit, find a better paying job.
Or leave and find an independent woman that doesn’t just want to be taken care of by a man.
My bf is coming to see me in person. I’m gonna feed him and since it’s his bday pay for his activities that we are doing while he’s here. Being a partner is being equal. Unless either person wants to pay for everything neither should
Run
Run fast. Run far.
This person is not interested in a relationship of equals, but rather is looking for an ATM.
You can do better.
You’re being used. You need to move on my man $1000 a time isn’t worth getting you D wet for.
>She’s stated that splitting 50/50 is cringe and then if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together.
What’s there to do? You know what she’s like. This is part of who she is. If you don’t like it then move on.
I’m 20 years into a fantastic marriage and my wife is nothing like this. She’s a 50/50 partner down the line (we share a joint account and don’t monitor how much we take out of it by individual). It would be hard for me to even be attracted to a woman like your girlfriend let alone be in a relationship with her.
But life is a rich tapestry, so maybe you can hang. I wouldn’t though.
Why is she not your ex gf?
Leave the gold digger
Dump her broke ass wtf 😂
You are a chump
You’re just a piggy bank to her. Find someone who respects you, or else you’ll come to regret wasting so much time and an arm and leg.
I am a woman in a committed relationship and let me just say: her mindset is not love, it is entitlement. Relationships are about partnership, not performance. If someone thinks money = love, they don’t understand the foundation of a real, lasting connection.
You are already spending over $1K to see her, and she is calling splitting cringe? That is tone-deaf and disrespectful. You are being generous, and she is acting like that’s the bare minimum just to be worthy of her attention? Red flags everywhere.
Love doesn’t look like “pay for me or get lost”. Love looks like: “How can we build together?”
If she isn’t willing to budge or even hear your concerns, I would seriously reevaluate if this is someone who sees you as a partner – or as a wallet.
Repsect is a two-way street. You deserve to be valued, not just financially drained.
Lol, would she travel to visit you? I think we know the answer here.
Sounds like you an irreconcilable difference.
She dismisses you. Wash your hands of her and find an equal partner
SUCKER
She has a life style that she is expecting. This is just the tip of the iceberg. If you are not going to be tripling your salary soon, you two won’t work out based on the information provided.
Your only chance is to tell her and be firm, that next time you come you need her to pick up 50% or you can’t afford to see her. It’s ok to be vulnerable in this way. She will either get over herself or get over you.
That’s not love, that’s a walking ATM subscription. It’s one thing to treat your partner sometimes, but calling 50/50 “cringe” and saying you can’t afford her? That’s a huge red flag. Relationships should be built on respect and fairness, not financial ultimatums. You deserve someone who values you not just your wallet.
My girl has been paying equally since our first hangout. If she finds something too expensive she suggests going to a different place so that she can also pay equally since
What should you do? Find an actual partner not a financial leech. “Splitting 50/50 is cringe?” who fucking says that. You know why you are paying for everything? because you are one of many boyfriends she currently has and this is her grift. She has multiple men taking care of her. HeEr pussy isnt that great, you can do better.
Realize that she will get worse and worse as time goes by and you are just a way to get free stuff
Run boy run!
break up immediately shes a gold-digger if your partner isnt 50/50 its not gonna end well
I have absolutely no idea why you stay with her. It’s obvious she’s not an equal partner and doesn’t plan on contributing financially to anything.. you need to absolutely put your foot down with her. Let her know that she needs to start chipping in or you’re done.
Don’t like the guys political views, but i’m pretty sure Kanye wrote a song about this girl.
Leave her and find a partner who will treat you right. I know in a relationship, not everything is going to be 50/50 but there should be some attempt. She should also visit you. She should also save and buy dinner at least once while you are there.
“If you cant afford me, you can’t be with me” she is either a gold digger or a prostitute. You pick which one works better.
It’s only going to get worse and more demanding cut your losses move on she doesn’t care about anyone but her self my guess there’s better out there
Is your love reciprocated?
She is using you, get rid of her
She is a gold digger, pure and simple. She is taking financial advantage of you.
Make it clear you’re no longer going to do that and you aren’t dating her for the sake of supporting her lifestyle.
Also, if she treats you like this in a LDR she probs has her eyes on other dudes.
What’s she doing when you’re not in town? Someone else “affording” her?
She’s literally told you she expects you to pay for everything. If this is not what you want, split up. Otherwise this is your future.
Leave find an adult to share your life with not some entitled Child.
Relationships the good ones are difficult and starting from an equal point tends to make them work
You’re a free ride not a bf. Ditch her
Dude there’s way better girls out there. Please leave this chick. It’s not normal.
It’s time to find someone closer to home who’s not selfish!
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Dump her and find you someone who doesn’t mind doing things for her man. I’m married and still buy my husband gifts and plan surprises. Even when we dated I did. She sounds either shallow or someone in her family told her that’s how it should be.
She good in bed
She dismissive be size and knows you don’t have a back bone. Leave her.
Describing fair and equal financial obligations as cringe is the biggest red flag to ever flag.
Some might even call it cringe.
You are not obligated to pay more than half. If you want to for certain occasions like birthdays or anniversaries or whatever, that’s fine.
But demanding that you pay 100% of everything is unacceptable in any relationship. If she wants someone to sponsor her lifestyle, she can go find that and live in the toxic relationship that will undeniably foster.
But you deserve better.
She’s shown you that she expects you to pay everything and won’t entertain any other option. Dismissive behavior is a stonewalling and power move and a terrible trait in a potential life partner.
Here’s your sign. Find a GF who is emotionally healthy and doesn’t treat you this way.
If she’s long distance she can’t be a traditional spouse to you. Not worth it for you. Sincerely, a woman whose man pays up most expense because I take care of him daily.
Can you find a cheaper hooker closer to home?
I’m a woman and I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend – he lives in NYC and makes around $30k more than I do.
He visits me more than I visit him because he can afford too, but generally speaking we both pay for our own travel – the plane, transportation to/from airport, and pet sitters.
Once we’re together, we just take turns paying for things. I don’t think we need to split everything 50/50 and neither of us is keeping track. I think he probably does pay for more things than I do, but he does make more money than I do. I still try to offer to pay when I can, the only time I don’t offer to pay is in my birthday.
All this to say, your gf is being immature and not fair. It’s 2025, she can offer to pay for some stuff.
Why haven’t you left yet? When someone says splitting 50/50 is cringe, it is time to RUUUUUNNNNNNNN !!!!!!!
Do you want an actual partner or do you want a burden?
You are not in a real relationship, you are a sugar daddy.
Sounds like she’s in it for a free ride and knows that u can afford it.
Imagine the expectation after you marry her ? Yeah move on now
You can’t afford this. Find someone local to Netflix and chill with. I started off with a very modest salary, but with a woman (who also had a modest salary) that understood the situation. We have been married 36 years and very wealthy now. When we were dating it was Domino’s pizza and Blockbuster rentals and chill (Yes. I’m OAF now). Raised two successful children and retired early. Living the good life now because we focused on career and saved our money.
Yeah, shes taking advantage and giving you an insight into who she truly is.
Relationships are about making compromises and she’s not making any.
This situation only gets worse and $1,000 becomes $10,000 a month with a house, cars, kids, then vacation. The decision for one earner occurs when you have kids and you both decide she will stay home to raise kids full time. Until then its a sharing arrangement on everything. Otherwise, you are being used… Time to move on and stop being blinded by early love
She’s not your girlfriend, she’s treating you like an only fans subscriber whose only role is to give her money and “treat her”.
Time to upgrade my dude.
You can’t be serious. That’s no kind of partner. So the minute you lose your job or something happens she’s out of there. Way to pick ‘em.
Sometimes the worse thing you can do is love someone…
I feel like people who love you and who treat you like an equal listen to you with compassion when you talk about subjects that are deeply upsetting to you. Just saying.
You don’t have a gf, you have a sugar baby. Leave her your wallet will thank you.
She is not your girlfriend. She is basically just a prostitute, getting paid for being with you.
Leave her, she is just using you.
I am putting my money on she has a different boyfriend while you aren’t in town.
You should tell her that you do not feel special by always being the one to pay. That the feeling of being ‘treated’ is not a gendered emotion. It is about respect and love. I have ALWAYS gone 50/50 on everything in my relationship because it allows both parties to show gratitude and to be-thanked. I love being thanked for treating my husband to a nice meal or a little gift–and vice versa, I love when he spoils me. Its about mutual appreciation.
If all else fails then you need to decide if you are fine being the ‘treater’ and never being treated. Otherwise find someone who knows its not 1953.
Take this to its logical end. What happens when you inevitably cannot afford her?
What happens when her tastes truly get expensive? Something magically expensive happens to women (and men) in their 30s. Your tastes grow up and get more expensive. Even if you get balanced and less material, you have less patience of cheap substitutes and want the more expensive version of whatever you buy.
Or what happens if you get sick or injured? Even temporarily? And can’t pay the bills?
What happens when you have kids? A materialistic woman is nothing compared to a materialistic mother.
Or, what happens when you are no longer long distance and you see her every day??!?
Deal with this now or you will find yourself in your 40s with a heart condition cause you’re terrified you won’t be able to retire despite all the time you spend making money.
Yours truly
— someone in my 40s with a heart condition cause I’m terrified I won’t be able to retire despite all the time I spend making money.
My dude, you’ve got a hook in your mouth.
i’m in a sort of long distance relationship with a guy, my car is out of commission and he’s been generous enough to make the trips to see me and i always offer to split or pay on our dates. i feel terrible for him having to spend a shit ton on gas just to come to my area. leave her ass and find someone who will treat you as an equal and not as a wallet.
Literally every girl I’ve ever dated pays for things just because they want to and don’t want me to feel like I’m forced to. She a ho bro
If you can’t afford her?! Time to let her go.
Omg. That’s a very cringe thing for her to say. That is completely unfair on you.
Lol leave her dude. She’s for sure using someone else’s money when you’re gone. She’s cheap and you deserve way better.
Find someone worthy of you brother this is horseshit
Dump her, she’s using you.
Get rid of her.
She doesn’t want a partner, she wants a daddy.
Go find your partner and let her find a daddy. This will not work long term. You’re incompatible and just wasting your money.
Walk away
This is probably a cultural issue. You may not be compatible it’s really two different ways of thinking one’s very traditional and the other one. Well it’s more about the modern world. If you disagree on this you probably disagree on a lot of other things you’re not aware of yet. Good luck I hope that things work out for you.
Major red flags, dude. I know you said you love her but you need to muster up the courage to break it off. It’ll hurt at first but you’ll be much happier in the long run.
hii that’s manipulation <3
This is a prelude of things to come, if you’re not happy now, it only gets worse.
Paying to be in an LDR is a weak move. Please, stop doing this. You can demand more from life.
Drop her man. She is a user. LTR are bullshit. She is being dismissive because you’re nice. Stop being nice.
If you can’t ghost her….. (which is what you should do) , lay down the law. Say if she wants to see you she can visit you. If she says no. Then end it.
Then block her and move on with your life.
Home girl definitely has sugar daddies.
Girls seek a protector and provider. It is evolutionary.
She doesn’t respect you or believe in gender equality. Dump her and find a partner that respects you
So you fly out to see her, which is wear and tear on her apartment. She also has to clean it before you get there and clean it after you leave. She is giving you a place to stay, which saves you both money.
When I was young, I thought everything should be split 50/50 but as I get older … I dunno, she has a point. Does she make as much as you? If not, and if you’re having fun spending time with her, then pay for that enjoyment. Men need to show they can be stable in a relationship and honestly the best way to do that is to pay for everything (within reason). And tbh $1k isn’t much nowadays.
Is she asking for unreasonably expensive dinners/entertainment?
Ask her dad how he dealt with it
There are TONS of single gals out there at any given time.
Get out of the ‘scarcity mindset’ and go find a girl where you live that is not a leech.
Tell her things are not working out, wish her the best of luck and put her in the rear view mirror for your own happiness and wallet.
Sounds like she is with you for your money! I would find some one that loves you for you.
Congratulations! You have a dependent. Can’t claim her on your taxes but you’re well on your way for all of your free spending money and then some to go to her.
Get out now. My partner’s son just learned this very hard lesson and when she found someone else to support her, he got to pay a $3k lease break fee. So make sure any money you’re not spending on her goes into a fund to cover larger expenses for her in the future because this isn’t going to get better.
My response to her if I were you would be “It’s cringe when someone thinks the other partner is expected to pay for the other partner’s way” and I’d walk away.
She’s an entitled moocher. Some men like that. You don’t. Simple. Walk away and find someone more compatible with your values
ask her why you don’t deserve to be taken out and treated. i kinda dealt with this and honestly, for women with this mindset, there’s no solution. most likely their parents have brainwashed her to believe these things. its 2025…not sure why gender roles like this still exist
Her idea of not being together seems like a bargain.
Did she not make this clear from the beginning or were you hoping she’d catch feelings and change her tune?
Break up. 100% unless you want to fully fund her life in the future.
This seems almost like bait?
“She’s stated that splitting 50/50 is cringe and then if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together”
^ is this like… selective blindness because you’re getting pussy? I don’t understand. This is stupid. Move on
Let her go if that’s not the arrangement you want. She can then pay 100% of everything.
You’re being used homie. No money = No partner here unfortunately
Tell her since she has no duty to provide money she must give you pleasure on demand because it’s very cringe if she doesnt
Find someone who respects you enough to split or even make an effort to split the costs with you.
Chill your Life Order a hooker Play some Video Games.
Sorry i cant See you any time soon, Veronica was Here im broke now but i got that Post Nut clarity.
Honey, you need to pack up your feelings and your wallet, and run for the nearest exit! This girl is takin’ you for a ride, and I don’t mean one involvin’ your wanker! Drop her like you would a piece of toast with a roach on it!! You gettin’ my drift?
This is why you break up. You are not compatible.
So is the sex that great or do you just think of yourself as worthless and don’t deserve better?
Hint no sex is worth what you are paying.
Equality is key. I had a partner years ago also in LDR. Unemployed and not actively looking for work. I got tired of being the only stable part of that relationship. If you have to ask “should I?”, you’re already at the point of leaving.
This sounds like me when I was in my early 20s. You leave and find a partner that respects you and doesn’t see you as an ATM.
Oh, you should not have asked such a question. Doesn’t your instinct tell you to leave her?
>She’s stated that splitting 50/50 is cringe and then if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together.
This is nonsense. Dump her ASAP!
You can’t find the right one as long as you are holding on to the wrong one. And this is definitely the wrong one.
She’s not the right one for you. Let her go.
Please have some self respect and leave her. Relationships are partnerships, and should always be near equal…
She is a selfish person and I recommend leaving her
Bro, you deserve better. Dump her and move on.
Get rid of this freaky creature and find a decent girl with manners.
“If I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together.”
She gave you the answer you’re looking for.
Buddy you need to leave her , I get tired of women demanding the world but the only thing they got to offer is some 🐱 and looking good
News flash men want to be loved on too
Splitting everything 50/50 isn’t even bad honestly just sounds like she doesn’t want to spend money on anything but her self there’s nothing wrong with that but if you’re in a relationship that selfishness goes away you’re in a relationship that you’re committed to what’s spending 40-60$ on a meal or even 150-200 on a date every now and then
She can be the most beautiful woman in the world but if her personality is like this it ain’t worth it IMO
Making you pay for everything is ridiculous especially since yall are long distance so she knows how expensive it can get in just travel alone let alone adding her to the all the dates which I’m sure aren’t the cheapest
OP I would respectfully move on and find someone new
the fact that she’s never been the one to visit you says a lot..respectfully it’s not gonna get better and that behavior wouldn’t change if you move in
> She’s stated that splitting 50/50 is cringe and then if I can’t afford her then we shouldn’t be together.
You’re not her partner, you’re her wallet/fun. Nothing more.
She set a boundary that she will not pay. Your options are exactly what she said, be okay with a partner that does not care about you and your financial situation or don’t be together. Take a minute and think about what she is asking for and what she cares about. Do you want a supportive partner or one that is gone the second she has drained you of everything you have to give and more?
She does not love you ,sorry but she is sort of selling her body to you
You don’t have a girlfriend you have a sugar baby… If you were broke it would be over.
Leave her. Fuck that.
Some women have a very traditional mindset when it comes to the man paying for everything. Some men like taking the role of paying for everything. Those people need to date each other. If that’s not the type of relationship you want, then you break up with her and find someone with similar values about a more equal partnership and financial investment.
There is a word for women like that, the ones you have to pay to be with and it’s not very nice, she said flat out that if you can’t afford her she’s leaving, does that sound like someone who loves you?
Long distance relationship? I guarantee you you’re not the only one that’s paying for everything on her. Walk away and find someone better.
Move on
Leave run away from that dumpster fire 🔥 it will give you nothing but headaches and heartache talking from experience. Better to find a girl who is willing to contribute what they can and build them a girl that will constantly tearing you and your finances down
The “if you can’t afford her, you shouldn’t be together” shit is one of the biggest honking red flags ye could have. ESPECIALLY if yer not making that much. Like being a gentleman and covering shit here and there, sure. But even at my most hard up i don’t think I could take an ultimatum like that without bagging out.
You’re not wrong to feel uncomfortable. Love should not come with a price tag, and a relationship should never feel transactional. If she is unwilling to even discuss financial compromise, that is not a difference in income or preference. It is a difference in values. You make sixty-five thousand dollars a year, and spending over a thousand dollars per visit is not sustainable. Her saying “if you cannot afford me, we should not be together” is not romantic. It is entitlement. If she sees splitting costs as cringe but expects you to carry all the burden, she is not looking for a partner. She is looking for a wallet. You have already brought this up and she dismissed it. That is your answer. You can love her and still walk away. You do not have to bankrupt yourself to prove you care.
You want a partner, not a dependent. This is a full-grown woman. She is not your child. You will never have a healthy relationship when one partner views the others’ resources as shared while restricting theirs selfishly to themselves. That’s an undeveloped mindset.
There’s no fixing this. You need to find someone who either believes in financial contribution or is completely fine with traditional stereotypical roles, even in instances when it doesn’t benefit them.
Your girlfriend is a pet you can’t afford.
Bye bye to this girl!! She clearly have no interest in starting a long term relationship with you. No need to waste your time.
Do one more trip, fuck her a couple more times and then bail. Get what you want and go. If she wants to act like a prostitute use her like one
Some women have their opinions formed by people from 80 years ago who absolutely believed in the man paying for everything. It was more appropriate back then because men got paid so ridiculously much more. As pay gets closer to equitable, it becomes less appropriate.
But some, especially in long distance relationships, use that cultural mindset as a way to pay for their lifestyle. They encourage multiple men to believe they’re in a relationship and get those men to pay for everything, and they can juggle them all because there’s relatively little time expenditure. They can even be texting simultaneously.
Either way, you’re getting scammed.
Gold diggers are very common. Find a real partner.
Leave. Immediately.
I made a significant amount more than my partner while she studied through med school. She still went out of her way to pay for things. She’d do her best to cook or take us out for dates or even things like a nice picnic.
You may love her but you’re not being treated lovingly in the current state of this relationship.
She’s playing you. Move on without a word to see if she even calls. My money says nope.
Sorry OP but this just sounds pathetic. Take her advice and leave the relationship. I can almost guarantee she won’t even care. Just like she doesn’t already.
“splitting 50/50 is cringe”
Sorry to say, but there’s barely a redder flag than this.
Brother, have some freaking self pride and dump that ho. Long distance relationships never work out also. I 110% assure you, she has at least one other dude in her lineup. Move on and don’t get hung up on “oh she’s so hot though” or crap like that.
It sounds kind of like you might be dating a prostitute. Not calling her one, just saying the way you describe it makes her sound like one.
goodbye and see her never again
You dating a broke person
She lacks the compassion needed to be in a relationship
If you’re paying to travel to her; she should at least offer to pay for things when you’re there. She sounds awful frankly.
Bail
Ditch the bitch and wait for someone who wants to be a partner. This behavior isn’t going to improve.
I hope you get some sex for 1000$. Man, but you can buy sex for less.
redflag !
Long distance partner with somebody like this means you probably aren’t the only man in her life. Time to bounce
Babe, you’re not wealthy enough for her. I know she’s hot, but facts are facts.
what would you do when someone is using you for your money?
She’s not worth it dude. No coot coot is that good. Going 50/50 is not cringe, she is. She wants wifey treatment, with a street chick attitude.
Leave her.
I make more than my bf and we pay 50/50 75% of the time and like 25% of the time I straight up pay bc he’s not in a good financial place at the moment. Partnership isn’t 50/50 finances. It’s being considerate and kind and understanding. You can “pay” by doing other things like showing up emotionally, making plans, and generally taking on the mental load of life.
This person doesn’t want a partner. They want a piggy bank.
Love alone isn’t enough. Loving someone is not a reason to let them take advantage of you or stay in a bad situation.
That’s disgusting. She does not respect you. Leave and use your time for better people who value you.
She’s taking advantage of you. Dump her and find one who will respect you as a partner.
There are actuallty decent women in the world, go find one! This isn’t it.
She’s right!!!!! If you have a problem being used by self centered, entitled, child, you shouldn’t be together. I cant imagine what you love about this person. Im sure her selfish sense of entitlement comes out in other areas of her life. Run, don’t walk away. Even if at some point, she decided to start paying for some things, her attitude is indicative of the kind of person she is. And it’s inevitable that it will cause major issues down the road. Find yourself a real woman.
I mean, do you make more than her? If so, it makes sense. 65k is a lot for your age group.
Do the same the other way round: tell her, if she is not willing to pay half of the expenses she can look for another partner.
Or tell her she will not have equal rights in the relationship, if she doesn’t want to have equal duties.
Get rid she’s a freeloader mate. Tell her you can’t afford her anymore use them same words as she did.
Bounce my friend.
Dump this POS.
Find a girl that matches what you can and are willing to provide.
Dump her and save your money.
If she’s ‘got a price’, she’s not the one bud.
lol.
Break up with her.
Fuck her right off sounds like she’s the one that can’t afford her lifestyle
This is terrible but also ur 27, this is just not something you need the internet’s advice for… We really normalize not exercising personal judgement too much
The nicegirls sub is full of guys posting chats with women who have this attitude. It’s seems to be common. Might as well end it now, it’s not going to get any better.
You’re dating a leech.
I had a long distance relationship with someone who was in a way better financial position but I made sure when he came to visit that I planned things in my budget, I would cook for him and plan beach days, things that were free. He would always bring me a bottle of wine, invite me out for dinners but I made sure to never make him feel like I was taking advantage. This sounds really unbalanced and unsustainable. What does she do for you to show you she appreciates you, your time and generosity?
You’re not the richest but you’re the dumbest.
She’s using you as a piggy bank. She’s getting free vacations at the expense of sex on occasion.