I’m 22M and my girlfriend is 27F. We’ve been together for 2 years. In the beginning, it was honestly great, we met at the gym, exchanged numbers, started talking every day, and pretty soon we were going on dates all the time. I paid for most of them since I had a part time job that covered my bills and left me a bit extra.
At first, it was just dinner dates and movie tickets. Then slowly she started ordering protein powders and supplements using my card. I didn’t say anything because I thought “She’s my girlfriend, I don’t mind helping her out.” Then it turned into her paying her gym membership with my money. Then came the shopping sprees. She’d use my Fizz card at H&M, Zara, Sephora, sometimes dropping $200 in a single visit, and ordering random stuff online every week like it was nothing.
I kept telling myself it wasn’t worth a fight, but it started adding up. So last week I finally told her I wasn’t comfortable with her using my card anymore. She got quiet, then looked me me dead in the eye and said, “If you don’t let me use it, I’ll leak your nudes.”
I thought she was joking. I honestly couldn’t believe she would go that far. But when I stood my ground and refused THAN she actually did it. She really went through with it. WTFFFF
Now my private pictures are out there. I trusted her more than anyone. I don’t even know where to start. Do I try to get the pics taken down? I can’t believe this is my life right now.
TL;DR: Girlfriend (27F) of 2 years kept using my debit card for everything from supplements to expensive shopping. When I finally told her no, she threatened to leak my nudes. I didn’t believe her but she actually did it. Now they’re out there and I have no idea what to do next.
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That’s not your girlfriend bro. Police report and move on.
Even at 27 she still acts like she’s 12. Anyways OP you learned a valuable lesson, don’t send nudes with your face in them. No face no case.
Go to the cops immediately
Definitely go to the cops and break up with her. She violated your trust by leaking those private pictures. She’s immature and deserves every consequence coming for her actions.
This is a crime. Report her to the police.
By doing that, she has broken the law. I would contact the police. And never see her again. It’s basically revenge porn. Not sure where you are from, but in the UK you can definitely get the police involved; Revenge porn | Police.uk https://share.google/Iap4mmEafxm3OOI6O
That’s blackmail. It’s illegal.
Updateme
Report her to the police. File a case of misappropriation of money also. That’s how gold diggers and bitches are.
Police. Also this was a valuable lesson to not let a girl treat you like an atm
!updateme
Sometimes I see shit on Reddit that seems so whimsically unreal. This is one of them.
What she is doing to you is called EXTORTION! A crime. Report her to the police! This is not the time to play silly games with her. Break up, end this ridiculousness.
Cops my dude
Police.
Press charges against her! She’s an abusive AH.
Tell her you will leak hers. Turnabout is fair play.
What she did is actually two crimes. Extortion and illegal release of pornography. Call the police and speak with a detective. Get her arrested and don’t back down on pressing charges. Protect the next guy she will do this to.
That’s revenge porn and she can be charged with a crime. Find someone else , she’s not “ the one “.
Press charges. This is illegal.
Depending on where you are, this is a crime, report it to the police. Distribution without consent also can be a crime. Also sounds like blackmail which is definitely a crime.
She is not your gf.
What advice would you give if it were your sister and she said a boyfriend leaked her nudes because she wouldnt give him money?
Follow that advice. Go to the police.
You need to file a police report and pursue revenge porn charges. This isn’t your girlfriend, this is a predator.