I was in the car with my DH driving home and I jokingly said “whats it like being my parents favorite?” He truly is and it makes me happy that they all have a close relationship. He said its not easy being the best and that hes just a chill and easy going guy.
I had said “oh do you think im not?” in a joking manner and then he made a face and didnt laugh after or anything and I said “i think im easy to get along with and talk too.” He said I do have strong opinions on some things and I asked for an example but he couldnt think of one. I said I know I can be very black and white on certain things but obviously not like that all the time. He then said he thinks I likely am that way because in my life Ive never been in a leadership role with jobs/career. And how with his job he could never be that way in his roles of leadership.
Part of me almost finds that last part offensive like because I dont have a higher role at work or a few letters before my name I’m incapable of critically thinking. Im also wondering where this issue of me having “strong opinions” comes from cause I dont believe hes ever brought it up before. Makes me wonder if someone said something to him and hes not telling me.
Am I overreacting?
TLDR: my husband made a face when i said i think im easy to get along with and then proceeded to say i have strong opinions. I cant tell if hes serious or joking or if im over reacting.
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My only advice is to listen because that’s the person closest to you why might be able to give you actual opinions. I do know life sometimes isn’t black or white and we’ve to remain flexible a lot.
I’d rather have strong opinions on things than be a pushover who tries to be something different and inauthentic to everyone else. The leadership role comment is absolute nonsense. I’m curious what specific things he thinks you have “strong opinions” on because that could be very telling.
This is so vague I really can’t tell what’s going on in this conflict. One of you needs to come up with some specific examples.
I think Poster asked and he gave his “opinion.”
It doesn’t make it right or wrong- it’s just his opinion.
Does the opinion bother you? If yes, why?
Does it really matter what others think of us?
Personally- I know this post isn’t about me – I’ve gotten that I have strong opinions many times- I like that- because for me the way I interpreted is that I won’t stay quiet to make others comfortable and I’ll be honest when asked- ♥️
I think it matters how we choose to frame a comment like this one.