I’m noticing a lot of things going on recently in my marriage. However blinded by love Im struggling tell if there’s something there or if im seeing dots that dont really connect. How do i approach him on this? Do you think he is hiding something?
So we’ve been together for 14 years, married for 8. My husband is a on call specialist, he works a lot, I am a stay at home mom, the perfect housewife.
We have had a great life together and have become very successful greatly thanks to my husbands efforts.
However the past few months have felt different I feel as though I’m noticing slight changes in how my husband behaves.
He has been working a lot more than usual but being on call this sometimes happens. But still it’s been very consistent that he’s being called in.
He has also been a little bit moody and distant, when I ask him what’s wrong he changes the subject very quickly and smoothly, sometimes I don’t even immediately notice, if I bring it back up he gets upset and defensive swearing hes okay but is visibly upset. It’s really making me worry.
I’ve also noticed that he’s been very secretive of his phone, usually he’s on it all the time, reading articles, researching, talking to his colleagues, lately I never see him using it, and often if I walk into the room while he is on it he will soon after get off and begin doing something else.
I’ve also noticed that he is spending a lot more time in the bathroom, going back in multiple times in a short amount of time, then not for hours.
I’m not sure how to approach it because every time I begin to he gets upset. It’s begging to make me spiral into thought of what it could be and how to approach him or if I should avoid it altogether.
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Start by checking phone records and credit card records and bank accounts. Any unexplained expenses? Check his credit report. Any cards you don’t know about that were opened recently? Has he been to any Coldplay concerts in the last week?
Unfortunately, I think you might already know the answer to this one OP.
Has he recently been randomly blaming you for things/blowing up at you for minor inconveniences? That’s usually a silent ommission of guilt in itself.
Ma’am, with all due respect you are in the wrong place.
If you’re going to do anything any of these redditors suggest, you might as well hire a private investigator if you have your own funds to do so. Other than that, if you think it’s a you problem, try to be spontaneous and surprise him with something you think he would be enticed from. Get a little bit wild, see if he bites. So many things could be wrong, and none of them could be you.
Good luck though.. I believe you can sort this out without the “supportive” Reddit on this one.