Married for a year, together for two. The argument was pretty much about him trying to help me with my anxiety and depression and him thinking nothing he wasn’t good enough/doing anything to help. But I told him it was, I just suffer from anxiety, depression and ocd. My brain just keeps goingand worrying…Ive explained this to him.
We got into a huge argument over it…why, idk. But he was angry. I decided to isolate myself in another room overnight til things cooled down. He shut himself in the bedroom.
The next day I decided to take the dog out to the beach and popped my head in the bedroom to tell him. I also put my wedding band on before I went put. I only wear it going out anywear. Next thing I know I get a text saying I didnt tell him where I was going and that he was packing up all his stuff and his cats and not to come home for a few days. Wtf? I told him I was leaving for the beach! Idk if he heard it? He also gave me shit for wearing my wedding ring (because I wasn’t acting like I was married) Idk how I wasn’t. And now hes leaving me. He told me not to come home so he can pack and that he doesnt want to talk to me. Idk wtf I did to deserve this? Im so confused and hurt. I thought in marriages you work through things??? Hes never been married before and I have. Idk I just want to get drunk and cry myself to sleep.
Things were fine prior to this argument and I’m seriously lost and confused.
TL;DR My husband of a year is leaving me for good over an argument over something fixable.
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Feels like you were not feeling well but you might have missed that he doesn’t seem well either.
There is nothing the internet will be able to tell you other than you need to talk to your husband directly. Have a real talk because it seem you are both hiding behind mask or walls.
I think he is leaving for another reason. Or he is astoundingly emotionally immature.
What do you do to manage your ocd, anxiety and depression?
You’ve left out alot of key information. Whatever is going with him is far far deeper than you realize and he seems to resent the heck out of you.
Are you taking steps to manage your conditions?
If you’re not doing therapy and you’re only relying on him, you shouldn’t be surprised that he left.
It sounds like you have communication issues. He probably doesn’t want to actually leave but feels the need to make you feel that way so he feels in control. If you want the marriage to last you will both probably need couples counseling.
This was not from an argument. There’s so much more that built up to this.
I would say he doesn’t get to tell you that you can’t come into your own home. He can choose to leave if he wants.
I just read your post and felt moved to reach out. I want to be upfront with you and my only intention in writing to you is to offer a listening ear and kindness. I know how delicate it can feel when you’re going through anxiety and depression, and I don’t want to say anything that makes you feel worse. From what you shared, it sounds like you’re in so much pain right now, confused, hurt, and maybe even a little abandoned. Please know that none of what you’re experiencing makes you “less than.” Having anxiety, depression, or OCD doesn’t mean you are broken. It just means your mind is carrying heavier weights, and that can be exhausting.I can’t pretend to have the perfect words, but I want you to know you’re not alone in this. If you ever feel like talking, even just to vent or share what’s on your mind I’ll listen without judgment. Sometimes just being heard helps lighten the load a little. No pressure at all to reply, but if you’d like someone who understands that healing takes time and patience, I’m here.
regards
A friend