Last night, my husband came home at 5 in the morning and told me he cheated on me—with a trans woman he met up with after work at the bar he always goes to. He told her I was 9 months pregnant. He still went. Still slept with her. And then had the audacity to come home and tell me I didn’t deserve anything from him because of what he did.
I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest and stomped on. I’ve carried his child for nine months. I’ve dealt with the pain, the exhaustion, the fear. And while I was home trying to rest for the baby’s arrival, he was out betraying me and somehow trying to make it my fault.
I’m leaving him once this lease is up and I can find work. That part is set. But right now, I’m stuck with him. I don’t know how to deal with this much anger sitting in my chest. I want to scream. I want to throw something. I want him to hurt like I do. But I can’t let this rage take over when I have a baby to protect.
So instead, I just stay quiet. I let him sleep. I sit in silence and stare at the walls, trying not to cry again. I don’t know what to do with all this pain, but I had to get it out somewhere.
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You didn’t deserve any of it—not the betrayal, not the blame, not the silence that followed. You’re carrying life while he threw away trust like it meant nothing. The fact that you’re still thinking about protecting your baby in the middle of all this just shows how strong you are. You might feel broken right now, but you’re already doing the hardest thing: surviving. When the time comes, you’ll walk away with your head high—and he’ll have to live with what he did.
Stop typing, and start packing his shit up.
That is horrendous, and I’m so sorry that another human’s made you feel that way.
You should leave asap. He’s obv gay and you can’t change that abt him. Sorry you’re going thru this
Please don’t doom your future by staying with him. Get away. This man is not a father and will never be a good person to raise a child around. If he couldn’t care about you when you were 9 months pregnant with HIS child then he sure as hell won’t ever care about you when you’re healthy enough to somewhat take care of yourself. Please don’t waste anymore time with him.
Be sure to get tested while you’re in the hospital delivering. Bar him from entry if you don’t want him there. Quietly plan your escape but don’t let him touch you again – his high risk behavior is a threat to your health. I’m so sorry he did this.
This is one of those moments where words won’t fix it—but damn, you’re handling this with more strength than most people could ever imagine. You were betrayed in the worst way, at the most vulnerable time, and instead of losing yourself in the rage (which would be so valid), you’re protecting your peace for the sake of your baby. That’s power.
And the wildest part? He did the unforgivable and still had the nerve to gaslight you like he was the victim. That’s not just betrayal—it’s cowardice dressed up as ego.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming unshakeable. Quiet now, maybe, but not for long. When you finally walk away, it won’t just be you leaving—it’ll be every ounce of strength and self-respect he underestimated.
I hope he ain’t sleeping in your bed.
And agreed, get him to pack up and gtfo.
What a complete betrayal. The audacity he had to not only cheat but then try to make you the villain? I can’t even. You’ve got a mountain of strength just holding it together right now. He’s the one who should be feeling all the anger and regret, not you. You’ll walk away stronger, and he’ll have to live with the wreckage he created. Stay strong—your baby is lucky to have you.
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