F38, my husband M47 and I have built a good life together. We will have been married for 12 years this June. For the longest time, I couldn’t imagine anybody else being by my side. We have been through so many ups and downs together – he has been my rock through cancer and through childbirth.
He apparently met this girl – she is 22! – on his last business trip, and decided that he would fuck her, so he did.
I can’t decide between filing for divorce or just giving up on life. This is the most heartbreaking thing I have ever been through.
Comments
You always have more time. You can get through this. It may be hard, but divorce his ass, get half of everything and live. Live your life and be free from this cheating SOB. Goodluck
This man is not worth your life, if you choose to take yourself out of no question that’s not going to stop him from sleeping with anyone else.
What about him is worth your life? Did you find out because he fessed up or you just so happen to come across the information? Focus on yourself and getting yourself mentally and emotionally healthy then worry about what you’re going to do with him.
He ain’t worth dying over.
Her age doesn’t matter, what she looks like doesn’t matter… what matters is that your husband is a cheater and you should get him out of your life… NOT get yourself out of life. He is t worth it.
File for divorce and start anew. Your life isn’t half over and the best is yet to come.
Interview divorce lawyers and take him to the cleaners. Also, talk to a therapist.
I’m so sorry. I don’t have much to say for comfort. If you wish to hear an explanation, ask him. If not, it would be good for you to find some part of yourself to hold onto. Something that distracts you even for a moment, until you are ready to deal with it. Divorce might be the best option, cheating is a big deal in my own opinion. Don’t give up on life just yet, I know you don’t want to hear this but it will get better. Try to stay as strong as you can. I really hope you get better, dear stranger
you were made to live. you lived before him and you’ll live after him. your only mistake is thinking you can’t do it.
File for divorce and start over. It will be hard but you’ll get through it and be stronger afterwards.
Was this a ONS or are they still seeing each other? Is she a coworker?
You file and make his life he’ll let everyone know what he did
Don’t – because he’s garbage. Leave him, and start building your best life.
You kids deserve a mom, dump him, and carry on.
Divorce, check divorce laws where you live because if you have proof he cheated you could clean him out and most likely get alimony.
I am sorry you are going through this; divorce is hard but you can do it and you deserve better. You need to lawyer up ASAP and also get into therapy. I had a very contentious divorce I did feel suicidal at several points and I got on antidepressants to get me through it all.
Start calling or emailing divorce lawyers now you should hear back from some of them Monday and get in to see one. I was scared AF to do this, but in that 30 minute meeting the lawyer laid it all out for me, exactly what it would look like. I then came back with confidence when I approached my ex.
You’re understandably heartbroken now, soon you will be angry. Very angry. Start now in gathering evidence and plot your escape and divorce from this pathetic, sad and ridiculous excuse of a man.
Your continued existence could very well end up being overwhelmingly glorious, but if you give in to your despair you’ll never know that joy. And just how good it will feel seeing him suffer.
Fight.
Divorce. The best revenge is a life well lived! You’ve got so much ahead of you
You are 9 years younger than him already. It is discussing that he seeks a woman who is his daughter’s age (if he started family early). He is a sick person who you cannot fix. Stop wasting any more second on this trash and move on.
Divorce. Take him for all he’s worth (which is hopefully something).
girl you gonna divorce him, realize your worth and you’ll look amazing, meanwhile he will be fat, bald and miserable after divorce
I used to love being single. It’s so peaceful just doing what you want, and having your house just how you want. You will sparkle without him.