That pretty much sums it up. I’m in my late 20s and lately my husband has been working, coming home to play video games and then going to bed to watch a cartoon. I’ve been really tired lately so I understand but we haven’t been intimate in a few weeks. I’ve expressed before that he spends a lot of his free time not with me or our kid and rather with his friends or playing games with them online. He gets upset when I tell him I don’t want a quickie and then turns it into a fight. “You’re not attracted to me anymore” thats far from the truth and I do communicate but it gets me no where. Today he came home from work at 9pm, said he was leaving for a haircut and it’s 2am he’s not home. He’s playing video games with his friend I’m sure. I take care of my needs but it’s not enough for me and I want more. So I guess I just wanted to get that off my chest. I resent him
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Don’t ruing your life for someone who isn’t or doesn’t want to be part of it and I’m talking about being a father partner and sex wise. No one should waste their time with partners like that, I’ve been out of relationships where I felt it wouldn’t take me anywhere and just packed my things and left due to lack of communication and no problems resolves. I know you two have a kid but much rather go through with it right now than later:/ heads up
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Have you tried something new
Time to move on
Resentment feels like a lot but it must be frustrating arguing with your partner, somebody you’re supposed to be collaborating with.
Maybe communicate beforehand that you want foreplay and more attentiveness. Don’t let him make you feel used after a quickie. He’s your husband. If that’s something he’s not okay with, you’re not obligated to give him your body. Consent is something that goes both ways, and the concept doesn’t magically fade after marriage.
If you don’t want a quickie, don’t let him have one, and communicate beforehand, because post climax is when most men are finished
What haircut place is open after 9pm? Hmmm
Just talk to him beforehand and if you don’t like it, move on. It’s obvious you’re both looking for different things
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The place where this all began is the only way forward, when you two first met, you saw the world in each other’s eyes and created a bond in which you trusted enough to create life, to create a home but most importantly to create love and the opposite of love is indifference.
He’s cheating. He left for a haircut at 9 pm and didn’t come back until 2 am? Please.
I would suggest a marriage councillor. Tell him he either comes with you to counselling or he obviously sees no future together with you.
Give him some time, that should go away.
Is just a phase.
It was for me.
Try initiating sex. Put the kids down for bed, go throw some lingerie on do up your hair and come out and just start it. Take control, he’ll follow. And if he doesn’t, then you’ll know what to do next.
Oh man I was worried this was about me but your husband and you have at least been intimate also you have a kid together and he has friends so that 0/3, safe!
Personally believe you deserve BETTER !!
Maybe he feels not welcomed, not supported, when he comes late from work, or too critized and went to avoid you, cause he needs peace, who knows.
A good discussion is needed, where you both respect the other
Maybe he’s playing games with his friends at 2am, but that’s your BEST case option here.
Maybe he’s visiting his female coworker too
What about cosplaying as Lara Croft from Tomb Raider? That might get his attention?