Three times I’ve noticed this happen.
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I was in the car with him and I went to use some chapstick in his center console. But when I grabbed it, he immediately snatched it from me and said it was moldy don’t use it.
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I came from behind him to give him a hug and put my hands in his hoodie pocket. As soon as I put my hands in, I felt a chapstick tube. Not suspicious at all. But he immediately pushed me off really hard and got pissed about me ” sneaking on him.” He left the room and came back, apologized and said I can put my hands in his pockets now. When I did, the tube was gone.
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I was cleaning our bedroom and I swear there was a chapstick in his nightstand. And then he came in and was showing me his Weiner. But out of the corner of my eye, I saw him take the chapstick out of his nightstand. And then he left and let me keep cleaning.
So I’m wondering… Am I stupid? Is there something else that looks like chapstick that a man would hide from his wife?
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I have no clue dude the only logical thing I could think of is drugs that’s it
After reading this my mind has gone in different directions but I don’t want to alarm you. You know him better than us but are you sure that’s his lip balm??…because why is he so cagey about it…maybe it’s someone else’s which then makes me wonder why is so protective over it…
Another thing that springs to mind is and bear with me here as this may not be the case at all. But maybe he is questioning his gender identity?
I’m sorry but I’ve done drugs around the block and back and he’s hiding drugs. Not well either.
There really could be more than one way to do this. Initially, I thought he had dry lips and didn’t want to be associated with the fact that he was less of a man if he used it or that you might think he had a different sexuality, which is stupid, but it’s possible. Anyway, my dad uses a chapstick tube, it was bought by my mom so it’s something known, but I saw that he keeps it in the bathroom cabinet, so a place where it’s more hidden, I think, and I’ve never seen him use it on his lips. The best thing to do is tell him that there’s no shame in a man using it. You didn’t manage to open the chapstick tube to see what it’s like. You’d better confront him about it, who knows, maybe it’s drugs or he’s been given it by another woman.
Is he also avoiding kissing you at certain times? If so he could have cheated and picked up cold sores or something similar?
He’s probably using it to moisturize his bung hole.
Genuinely strange behavior, maybe time to have a serious sit down and demand answers,
If he refuses it might be time to reconsider some stuff,
It’s a weird thing to reconsider a whole relationship over… but the behavior is also feral and scary,
I mean he physically pushed you over it
I know if someone that hides their meth in a chapstick tube
Mabey it just pisses him off that you’re using it too much ? Mabey he doesn’t like the smell or how it feels
Buy him a similar one- like a two for one pack you keep one.
see if he switches or swap out the original for new.
Just be careful be smart and be aware.
Could be anything from a random cold sore, eating foods you may be allergic to or just uses it as a fidget toy thing.
I agree that it’s probably drugs but I will say my husband hides chapstick from me too but it’s because sometimes I get my colored lipstick on it and he finds that gross
…why was he showing you his wiener?
This is literally the weirdest post I’ve ever read.
In a health class at school they showed us “paraphernalia” and one thing was chapstick tube size cocaine thing (I can’t remember if it had a name) that went in your nostril and at the bottom was a “jar” that screwed into the nose part
It’s probably a weed pen
I don’t let anyone use my lip products. And I wouldn’t want to use someone else’s. I find that gross. I also don’t share drinks or straws. Before deciding he’s a druggie or cheating maybe just ask him. If you don’t like the answer ask to see the tube.
Some people don’t like to share their chapstick or toothbrush or mascara. Even if you’re married and kiss and have sex – sometimes you don’t want someone else to use a specific item of yours.
Maybe herpes. Slim but possible.
I’ve never heard of chapstick being moldy. I’m with the others drugs may be a real possibility. I’d push the issue and demand to know what’s going on with the chapstick. He will try to gaslight AND manipulate, because he’s hiding something!!
The easy solution is to just stock up on your own Chapstick, and put the tubes in easy locations for you to use. Then insist he never uses yours.
A vape perhaps?
Really stumped with this one.. addict in recovery and never heard of using chapstick as a place to stash drugs, but I guess it’s definitely on possible. You could try communicating with him but with the evasiveness you have written about I’d personally search for it myself to find out what is in there
Ahh the old wiener switcheroo trick. You fell for it.