So this has now happened four times and I’m starting to wonder if it’s normal or just weird.
I (27F) sometimes get a little silly and affectionate when my husband (32M) is deeply asleep—I’ll come up behind him and hug him while he’s completely out. Every time I do this, he mumbles his older brother’s name followed by “stop.”
Like: “[Brother’s name]… stop.”
He’s clearly half-asleep and not fully aware it’s me, but it’s still strange that the name he says is always his brother’s. Not mine. Not a friend. Not an ex. Always his brother, and always with “stop” after it.
I should say he really admires his brother. I think he looks up to him a lot. Kind of in a child way. He listens to his brother a lot and ask for advice from him all the time, which can be normal, I’m not sure.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Is it just random sleep-talking based on daily associations, or should I be reading into this?
TL;DR : my husband says his brothers name is his sleep
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he could get bullied by his brother in the dreams, it‘s time you two sit down and talk about it. at least he doesn‘t say another woman‘s name in dreams.
Nothing. Crazy. His brother used to fuck with em as a kid for sure. My brother’s used to mess with me while I was asleep all the time. You shouldn’t think anything, just laugh. His mind obviously goes there b.c when he was younger he was definitely messed with… Naturally.
I think alot too. Don’t think too much into this lol
Dreams are weird, sometimes they mean something, sometimes they don’t. He could be dreaming about when him and his brother used to play rough and he had to ask to stop before he got hurt. He could be dreaming about a time his brother comforted him and he didn’t want the comfort so he asked him to stop, He could be dreaming that his brother is the staypuff marshmallow man and hes melting all over the city and he’s begging him to stop before everyone drowns in mallow… I wouldn’t read to much into it if there are no other indicators that there are issues. You could ask him about what he was dreaming though, just don’t get pushy, dreams are private.
Sounds to me like his brother used to bother him when he slept, as a child. I really hope that if that’s what it is, it was innocent.
When my boys were little, the younger would wait for his brother to fall asleep then go get in bed with him. Every single night. They would wake up cuddling. Probably a core memory from childhood!
i can’t be the only one thinking sexual abuse.
Ask him about it.
We can speculate and come up with a thousand diferent scenarios, one weirder and wilder than the next. Or you can communicate with the only person who can know.
I mean, he probably lived with his brother for more than a decade (16 years? 18 years?) and has lived with you for less than a decade (assuming you didn’t get married at 17). I’m not sure why it’s upsetting?
The only one who would be able to say what is going on is your husband. And only open a can of worms if you’re ready for all possibilities and are 100000% prepared to support your husband regardless of what his answer to your questions may be.