I (25F ) and my husband (24M) only been married two years now. My husband’s friend came to visit for a weekend and they booked a hotel to have fun. He called couple pf his other friends and decided to hangout and i was totally fine with it. But at 2am i got a call to open the door. Him and one of his friends showed up hammered i let them crash in the sofa then I decided to go through his recent apps just to find out him checking the reviews to near by strip clubs, one thing about him he always checks reviews before going anywhere and does his research . We had talked about him going to stip clubs before i used to tease him and he always sounded so uninterested and brushed me off saying i never have to worry about it. I feel like he broke my trust , he knew I would never be okay with it. (Also We go through each others phone all the time) he made a hugeee deal about me searching up a co worker from work on ig and i had to apologize about that like a hundred times. I had my sister over since he was gonna spend the night w his friends and i was showing my sister all our old pictures and telling her about our story while he was out putting dollar bills on someone else’s gstring. Man idk how to feel about it, what should i do? Should I confront, should I act like idk? Am i overreacting?
TL;DR: My husband went to strip club behind my back knowing I wouldn’t be okay with it.
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I’m sorry this happened to you, it is disrespectful and heartbreaking when someone crosses your boundaries. Ask him about what he did last night without mentioning that you know and see what he says
Men typically feel it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission. So, do the same thing until he notices you can do the same thing. Go eat an appetizer at a bar by yourself every Friday. Or get a counselor or file for divorce.
There is no easy option here.
Break up with him. Deciet and dishonesty lead nowhere good