I’m honestly very confused and pissed rn. I don’t know why, but after my former boss showed up at my workplace yesterday, I’ve had enough. I want him to stop coming and I want an explanation.
All the way back in January of last year, I got my first job at a grocery store. The work conditions were not great and there was internal beef between the coworkers.
This was right before my 16th birthday and I didn’t want any trouble, so I stayed neutral.
I had been hired by a guy, who was let off a week after I started and I got a new boss (a man in his thirtees). He was very distant in the beginning and kept observing me to make sure I was going the things correctly. He, like me, stayed neutral to everything and we started getting along after around a month.
We also started getting a lot of shifts together and we would sometimes be alone, when the clock hit 6. He enjoyed us being alone, but for whatever reason, I didn’t.
One night, he slapped my ass and right after I looked at him, he commented that, he knew I would like it. In the beginning, it’s wasn’t worse than that. He would comment on my clothes (before I put on work clothes) or appearance. It would be comments like “your ass looks good in those jeans” or “next time you come to work, make sure you aren’t wearing makeup. You look so much better without it”. Stuff like that and he would sometimes touch me.
He also started texting me outside work, that would often be flirty messages or requesting me to take a shift, so we were together.
For whatever reason, I didn’t tell anyone this. Looking back, I was probably scared of losing the job or people not believing me, so I kept letting him pursue me.
Fast forward five months from the beginning (4 months after my 16th birthday). I had started a new job a month prior, and the conditions and coworkers were much better. My boss (also a man in his thirtees) was amazing and fully understood my boundaries. I knew I had to quit the old job and I was preparing to have that conversation with my old boss.
He (my boss at the grocery store) called me into work earlier, not long after and I walked to the break room to change. He stood there that day and asked me to change in front of him. I looked at him weird and he told me again to do it. I replied that I wasn’t comfortable doing that and he told me I wasn’t a big deal. I honestly just froze up and said nothing.
Then the door opened and one of my coworkers (a boy, who was 17) entered the room and started talking to my boss. I ran to the bathroom and changed. After I came out of the bathroom, I started working and the whole shift, my boss wouldn’t stop touching or following me. When I came home, I opened a snap from the coworker, where he basically told me that he had heard everything and he was going to report my boss for his behavior.
I had to talk to five different people and my boss ended up getting transfered to another store (same chain). I talked to my parents and they adviced me to quit the job and focus on my new one. I quit the old job in August of 2024.
I, now only had my new job, but I didn’t take long until my former boss started coming in. He knew I worked there and would only come to chat or annoy me and he has done that ever since.
This has been going on for almost a year now and I seriously can’t anymore. I know that he hates me, but why can’t he leave me the fuck alone. It really isn’t that hard.
I seriously don’t know what to do about him, because he technically doesn’t do anything wrong, when he comes in.
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I completely understand your venting. I would actually tell your boss you’re uncomfortable with this and let him know you’ll be seeking advice from law enforcement.
he *is* doing something wrong, he’s stalking you. he doesn’t hate you, he is sexually attracted to you and is continuing his attempts to groom you, despite being caught and reprimanded (if you can call it that!), he has already demonstrated that he is willing to escalate his predatory behaviour and it will only get worse. if you are on good terms with your new manager then i would have a quiet chat and explain that you have been sexually abused and harassed by your previous boss and now he is pursuing you in your current workplace and that you don’t feel comfortable with him around. tell him it gets in the way of your work and you like working there apart from when he comes in, and not knowing if you will see him or not makes you feel anxious. i don’t know if it will help at all but you should make your current employer aware that this guy had to be transferred due to other employees witnessing how inappropriate he was. tbh the other place should have fired hm and called the police, particularly considering your age. you could also consider going to the police, but again i’m not sure how much they can do, but the fact that your co-worker from the last job heard what happened and the employer took some action might help your cause.
Tell your parents, the police and your new employer why you don’t want him there. If he has a wife, tell her too
Talk to your boss. I owned a cafe for a decade and managed many stores before that. I’ve had similar things happen with younger employees and out of line old men. At the very least you should not have to interact with him, and ultimately a good boss will just ban him from your work.
These things escalate, talk about it now before it gets worse.
He’s your current stalker future rapist please let the police know and everyone you know about the creap
You need to tell your parents. Also, it wouldnt hurt to call corporate and let them know their employee is still harassing you. Even tho you’re no longer employed there, it may spur them to do something knowing they have a predator in their midst. Also
Let your new employer know the history and that he is harassing you