Location: Florida
Long story short I’m going thru a divorce with the mother of my 3 kids. I’m in the military so I have certain obligations I have to fulfill like providing funds regardless of being separated. E have been apart for almost 6 years now because I live in Germany it makes the divorce process a little difficult. I send her 1600 a month and choose to help her during her times of need because I want my kids to not suffer because of our situation.
For the kids bday she wanted to take then to Disney world and asked me for more money. Legally I’m not required to help because we have not settled anything in court. I usually say yes to helping but I stood firm on not helping this time because no one helps me when I have to spend an arm and a leg every time I want to have my kids. Between the plane tickets, somewhere to stay, and whatever I spend on the birthday plans for my kids I always spend about 5k. When I told her no this time she said she’s going to make my life hell and I won’t see my kids.
Sorry for all of the prelude but my question is would this be able to be used against her in court to justify me have primary custody of my kids. There’s a lot more that I would use in conjunction of this so please let me know if you’d like me to expound on my situation.
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The fact that you have evidence of her stating he would take such actions over you setting a boundary alone.. Yes you can absolutely use in your defense.
The fact that this case is Between two different Countries, Continents even.. I genuinely cannot give anything else on how things work beyond that..
I’m confused. If you do go to court. Would you be forced to come to America for it or would it be done Virtually?
>have primary custody of my kids.
She made a passing comment in anger – that is not going to help her case, but I can’t imagine a single court would hold that against her.
Are you coming back from Germany soon? She has been the children’s sole caretaker for the last 6 years – unless you didn’t mention a lot of other things wrong with her parenting, you’re not getting primary custody.