I (23F) have been seeing this guy (25M) for about 6 months. We get along well, sex is good, he sleeps over sometimes and we make each other laugh. We’ve never had a conversation about what we are but it’s pretty clear that we’re just fck buddies. I started dating a guy and I see things going far for us so I don’t text or meet up with the other guy anymore. Last night he called me, he sounded drunk.. he asked me why I don’t call anymore and even said to let him know when I’d want to hangout again. He noticed my silence and said “oh there’s another guy isn’t there?”
I felt bad because he sounded a little upset but I didn’t think I really needed to tell him. Especially since he’s said in the past that ‘we don’t owe each other anything’ and because we were talking less and less. To be fair, I don’t think he was upset about losing me but more the sex. I told him that ultimately, I’m looking for something long term. He said “do you like him more than me? I could’ve seen us being more serious as well.” That confused me because he’s never brought that up before and he always gave an emotionally guarded vibe. He could’ve just been saying that just to say it but why say something like that? Maybe I’m reading too much into it.
Did he really mean that?
TL;DR A casual partner drunkenly told me he saw things going further between us after I told him I was seeing someone else. We had fun times together but never expressed any feelings.
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Why would we know if he meant it or not?
Tell him you’re not interested and block him if you’re truly more into the guy you’re seeing now.
I dunno, I’ve never really been sure about men who tell you they want something casual at the start and then switch to saying they “could’ve seen it going somewhere” after they know another guy has your attention.
It’s up to you what you want to do, but if you’re serious about the other guy, I’d cut off all contact with this one so you’re not at risk of messing anything up in the new relationship.