My (15f) little cousin (10m) has started puberty and has been watching porn. Which has been kinda weird because he isn’t exactly subtle about it. Me and my family like to wrestle and play around alot. While wrestling he has he has groped my chest this has happenedabout 4 times, I’ve slapped his hand away and stopped playing with him and I tell him not to do that but he doesn’t take me seriously. The other day we weren’t even playing i had just given him a hug and he groped my chest again and asked if it was real, I pushed him away and told him nit to do that but again he doesn’t take me seriously, im not sure how to get this to stop i dont really want to bring this up to our parents because it feels mostly innocent on his part and im not trying to get him in real trouble.
Update: i told our parents, well our mom’s and they just told me to hit him, His parents already know hes watching porn btw
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You need to tell his parents. It’s their responsibility to educate their child, not yours. I’m sorry this has been happening to you, it must be very uncomfortable.
Edit: just to add, their parents shouldn’t be letting him watch porn to begin with. But if they’re okay even after you tell them what’s going on, you should talk to your own parents about it. I know it’s difficult but what’s happening is unacceptable
This is NOT innocent. You need to tell his parents
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Sounds like it’s time for “the talk”. He needs to learn about boundaries and respect.
my advice to you is to sit him down and teach him that it is not ok for him to touch anyone without their permission especially in certain places. Be firm about it and give him clear consequences if he continue to do do. If after the talk and he continue to show disrespect, stop all activities with him and step away while letting him know what he did was not ok and you will no longer interact or play with him. If it continue I would involve the parents. Sorry you have to go through that.
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Tell his parents, he can do that to other kids as well
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When I was his age, I tried that and got nut-shotted maybe twice before I learned. Probably not a great strategy nowadays but it sure as shit worked in the 80s when SA stuff wasn’t taken anywhere near as seriously as it is now and therefore that was the only thing someone your age could really do to defend their self.
I’m not suggesting popping him one in the nuts if he does it again because that’s “calling for violence” and I don’t want to lose my Reddit account.
Scold him and tell his damn parents!
For sure, you have to tell his parents ..
Tell your parents and his parents
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Since he is your cousin I would say teach him about what’s good what’s not and warn him that it’s not good and if he does it next time you would tell his parents
Tell the parents. What your cousin is doing is not okay, and he has to learn that. He needs to learn that you can’t just grope a woman because you like what you see. That’s how assault ends up happening. This needs to be nipped in the bud asap. Because even if it’s not you it’s happening to, it’ll be someone else.
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Right now is an important age in his development and he is probably a little young to be watching porn, how this is handled will set a tone for how he treats women his whole life the more assertively this is handled the better. Honestly you need to defend your self aggressively and let him know its not okay, otherwise you are the first stepping stone towards a sexual deviancy.
This is horrible. I’m sorry.
You need to talk to his parents. If you want to talk to your parents first and have a proper sit down to discuss it, do that.
The next time your cousin grabs you (and he will). Shout/ roar make a scene “STOP. I’VE TOLD TO YOU TO STOP GRABBING ME! NO MEANS NO PERVERT”.
He’s doing it because he’s getting away with it. Be loud. Make a scene. This is a lesson he needs to learn yesterday.
I had a boy kid dared to spank my girl butt as a kid. I pushed him and told him to stop. He kept going, egged on by his friends. I broke my bicycle helmet on his back. Then biked home and never spent time with the jerks again.
You must make it clear that touching without consent is never acceptable.
Yea u gotta shut that typa behavior down early and not let it manifest as he gets older. Tell your parents and his parents.
Yikes. How does he get porn? Dad, mom? Have your parents been told? It’s creepy and he needs to stop. Don’t go over there or put yourself in a situation. This could escalate. I say us serious
You need to tell your parents first and they need to talk to his parents. A ten year old shouldn’t be watching porn and he sure as hell shouldn’t be groping you!
Tell his parents
porn at ten IS NOT OK!!!! personally it’s not okay at all but ong pls tell ur parents that he’s watching that stuff cause omg, this cud really ruin him when he grows up with the way he treats women etc oh my ☹️
Who’s letting him watch porn? Mom and Dad need to change their device settings to child mode.
You need to draw the line in the sand. Simply tell him you want zero physical contact and if that sounds extreme, I have many men who I am friends with or am friendly with who I have never so much as shaken their hand (bc they are religious). Not touching each other doesn’t make a difference in our closeness. Your cousin needs to not touch you at all. I’d also have a serious conversation with your parents about this. That is what they are there for, to help you.
Watching porn at 10 is not healthy for this kid at all. Going through puberty and all, subjecting oneself to porngraphic images at such a young age will not give him a healthy understanding of what sex is really like between people. His parents need to step in and stop this, otherwise, this behavior will increase and worsen.
Do not be friendly if he grabs you or touches you anywhere, you get in his face and show him that you will not tolerate this. He does not understand consent and he needs to learn it right now. Don’t be afraid to get him in trouble. He needs to understand that this behavior is not acceptable. Yell, scream, punch, kick, whatever it takes, it is not okay for him to violate or touch you with your consent.
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If his parents are aware he’s 10 and watching porn….call CPS.
Your moms are right, whoop his ass.
This is going to sound harsh but your dear, little cousin is literally sexually assaulting you. He doesn’t have the capacity to understand that. He is not legally liable. He doesn’t understand what is acceptable behavior and personal boundaries and body autonomy. His parents will have to teach him that this is unacceptable behavior, because if they don’t, he is going to be a threat to girls as he grows older. However he is watching porn, has to disappear. If parents have porn cable, they will have to cancel it, they will need to put parental locks on internet. Computer will have to be moved to a public area of the house and only used with parental supervision. The same if he has a cell phone. Wrestling around has to end. Just to let you know, guys that wrestle with 15 year old girls are not doing it for “fun or goofing around.” They are getting off on it—sexually. (It doesn’t matter if they are related to you.) To protect yourself, I’d give up wrestling unless it is on a wrestling team at school. And I’d not hug that cousin. Hi and a wave is a good enough greeting. All physical contact has to end until he gets more mature and understands what is appropriate. Tell your parents what is happening and have them speak to your cousin’s parents. Let them sort it out.
10 year kids having access to porn, yup our world is gonna be doomed real soon….
Since he is not listening to you and sees how uncomfortable it makes you, it is time to involve his parents and yours. Sadly, I have seen these innocent situations turn into much more. It does not always happen, but at times, it does. If your family member needs help controlling his urges, he should get it before he does something that he cannot take back.